I’m an RN and work with kids with diabetes, including those newly-diagnosed, regularly.
The first thing I would warn you about is taking good-intentioned - but misguided - advice from anyone on the internet (including me) without discussing the specifics with your healthcare team. I already see some misinformation in this thread.
Secondly, congratulations on being pro-active and seeking out information when Nathaniel initially got sick.
Also know that there are some advantages to Type I emerging at such a young age (try getting a 14-year-old to change his eating habits). I always tell parents that their child will be eating healthier - and have a boatload more insight into his nutrition - than any of his friends.
You’ll be fine. I’ve seen it a million times at first diagnosis: parents overwhelmed, kids terrified of the entire process, entire families up in arms about the tragedy of diabetes…and it always gets better. Kids learn, parents chill, everybody adapts.
Nothing you are going through, and nothing you will go through, has never been gone through before. You are not a pioneer, you do not need to blaze any trails. There are solutions to every potential roadblock, answers to every frightening question.
In other words, don’t kill yourself trying to learn everything all at once. It will come. If Nathanial has an upset stomach on Thanksgiving but still wants to try a bite of pumpkin pie but his blood sugar is 288 and he’s spilling trace ketones in his urine and he only ate half of his breakfast this morning after taking his full dose of insulin…he will still be OK. It will get figured out.
Best of luck to you.