I have nothing to add to the excellent advice above about how to teach her, but I thought I’d share an interesting story about memory and learning a stick shift.
I originally learned on a manual transmission at age 18. I didn’t have my own car, and didn’t drive much, but I could get from point A to point B without killing the engine very often. Then I went away to school back East at age 19 and didn’t drive at all until I was 22. I drove an automatic from then until age 25 or so.
At that point, my parents were terrified of the POS car I was driving, so when my father got a new car, he gave me his old one instead of trading it in (a Nissan 200SX with an upgraded engine - nice car, even though it was eight years old at that point). They even had it driven cross-country to me.
My boyfriend then took me out to a church parking lot on a Saturday to practice driving it, since it had been quite a few years since I’d driven a manual transmission, and I hadn’t exactly been skilled at it then. I tooled around the parking lot killing the engine repeatedly, and gradually getting slightly better at it, but still not good. He convinced me to try driving it home and I killed the engine in the middle of the road making a left turn, broadside to oncoming traffic, and scared us both silly, but still managed to make it to the house with us and the car unscathed.
We decided we should take it out again on Sunday for further practice, so we waited for the church service to be over and the parking lot to clear, and headed over there again. I sat down, and suddenly could drive the thing. I started and stopped over and over, smooth as can be, drove it out on the road and up and down several hills - no problem. It was like my mind spent the time overnight accessing all those “how to drive a stick” muscle memories, and then also integrated them with the general “how to drive a car” skills that I had a acquired on the automatic, and I could drive without even thinking about it.
I guess that if there is a point to this other than me telling a random anecdote, it’s to reassure you that it really is worthwhile teaching her to drive a manual transmission now, even if she’s not going to use it for a while. The brain is a weird and wonderful thing.