# So this dude calls me a fat nigger bitch......(long) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 29, 2003, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214 "2003-06-29T20:36:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![rsa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/839c29/32.png) [@rsa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsa)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/41 "2003-07-01T04:54:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TheLoadedDog \* > Living in a country where “nigger” is not used (though we have our own very unpleasant racial terminology), I don’t understand people calling it “the N word” in hushed tones. I can’t help thinking that this well-intentioned attitude is going to prolong the significance of the word long enough that, sadly, it will still have a negative power it doesn’t deserve throughout our lifetimes. Good point. I can only say that because I don’t know the posters on this board other than their “virtual personas”, I tend to err on the side of trying to not give offense. But you are correct that my euphemism kind of defeated the point of my post. ---
**Author:** ![vivian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/3e96dc/32.png) [@vivian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivian)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/42 "2003-07-01T05:03:36Z")
Equipoise…You know what…I don’t even know what happened to the drunk woman. She probably saw what he was going to do and hightailed her drunk ass outta there…or she may have found a paying trick. DEVA…My man lives in Dallas/Fort Worth area and when we marry, I’m going to move down there, but truthfully, I’m a bit scared. And I agree with you wholeheartedly. Sometimes when he tells me stories of his 31 yrs of experiences in Texas and Oklahoma, it makes me think of how much easier I’ve had it up here because it not as blatant. But, I honestly wonder if I should even make the move down there. Especially with my reaction to this incident, i’d have to grow thicker skin to survive. But on the other hand, I noticed that there were a number of posters from Texas on here, and if you guys are the majority, then I don’t think I’ll be that scurred ; ) ---
**Author:** ![DEVA](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@DEVA](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DEVA)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/43 "2003-07-01T12:40:37Z")
Aaahhh…Texas. DON’T MESS WITH TEXAS (it’s the state slogan/mantra for those who don’t know). I can see where you would have reservations about moving to Texas. Although I have visited Dallas and Houston, I’ve never lived in the state. These are the places that I **have** lived: St. Louis (hometown), Tampa FL, Memphis TN, Atlanta GA, and now Northern Virginia (20 miles outside of DC). Overt racism exists everywhere, but it is simply MORE overt in some cities (or even neighborhoods) than others. This is MY experience: Atlanta was full of extremely overt racism. I even got to see live and in-color for the first and only time in my life…drum roll please…members of the KKK. Full klansman garb with the masks and all. They were holding signs that read “Nigers go home!” Please note that I did not mispell “nigger”…THEY did. Now of course not all racists in Atlanta are klansmen…but they may as well have been for their behavior. Now let’s fast-forward to Virginia. In my 13 years experience of living in the DC area, I have found that the racists here are much more undercover. We have theories as to WHY they are more undercover, but I won’t go into that here. Point is this: I MUCH preferred being aware of who I had to watch out for as opposed to never being too sure. ---
**Author:** ![Baldwin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baldwin/32/7264_2.png) [@Baldwin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baldwin)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/44 "2003-07-01T13:20:41Z")
DON’T MESS WITH TEXAS. Having lived in Texas, I can assure you it’s already pretty messed up, and therefore doesn’t require any more messing, thank you. That particular drunken asshole will probably have a lifetime of getting his ass kicked, losing jobs and blaming everybody but himself. Not a happy person. But at least that kind of racism is easier to identify. In the States, you’re more likely to be the subject of hidden, genteel racism – the kind that doesn’t shout “Nigger!” but does make sure you have a harder time getting a bank loan or rising in a company. I _think_ that’s fading away over time, but fear and tribalism are such deeply embedded human characteristics, we may never be rid of such problems. Other than that, **Vivian** how was your evening? ---
**Author:** ![thatDDperson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9de0a6/32.png) [@thatDDperson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thatDDperson)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/45 "2003-07-01T14:06:40Z")
Texas, let’s see…our Mayor and Chief of Police are black here in Houston. My bank vice president, and our loan officer on the car were both black. I work in a Very Wealthy suburb, and there are wealthy black execs and business owners everywhere. There are more “minorities” than white people on the city council. In the city proper, races other than caucasian are more plentiful that your basic white folks. Don’t know about Dallas. My former employers had lived in Dallas for 6 years, and Houston for 4 years before that. He quit an excellent job to move back to Houston because of the racial difference. She was raised in Minnesota, and although black, was a Lutheran. Here they were welcomed and active in their church. In Dallas, they were stared at as if they had three heads. Dallas has evidently made progress since then, and has had a black mayor. My white-boy blues musician brother, who plays in racially mixed bands, says that it isn’t as bad as it used to be. Ten years ago, they were unable to get their motel rooms as booked because the guy with the credit card was black, so they sent Baby Bro in with the card when a different desk clerk came on, and no prob. Same motel 10 years later, no problem, the desk clerk and the manager are both black, but the maintenance guy is white. And with the amount of interracial dating and marriage around here, the barriers are crumbling fast. What i’ve seen mostly here, is that the average person will get to know you before they judge your character, and the redneck scum get treated like redneck scum when they act like it. Heck, after a good asswhuppin’ almost anybody will behave, and I have seen more than one good ol’ boy get his whupped for nothing more than using That Word in front of a black nun. (It helps that i’ve met a group of black nuns that love to go to to the same flea market I do.) Come visit Texas before you say no. Stay outta Oklahoma. Not for racial reasons, just because it’s Oklahoma. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/46 "2003-07-01T16:34:23Z")
Being mocked and ridiculed doesn’t bring out the best in people, does it? Particularly drunk people. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/47 "2003-07-01T16:58:30Z")
> [@](#): > > “Nigers go home!” I love it. I’m picturing the entire country of Niger packing up and moving, possibly by plate tectonics. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Miskatonic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mr.miskatonic/32/310_2.png) [@Mr.Miskatonic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Miskatonic)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/48 "2003-07-01T18:44:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by vivian \* > \*\* > All of us stood there dumbfounded. Later, we figured it was the shock of having someone call you a nigger bitch for no good reason. The bus driver waves the lineup unto the bus, but my sister and I aren’t getting on the bus, so the guy runs back to me and starts screaming in my face “nigger bitch, yea! i called you a nigger bitch!” At this point I’ve backed up a couple of steps threatening to drop kick his ass. > > At that point, my sister is holding me back, the whole bus is watching me to see if I’m going to really take this fool down. After getting hit with a pop bottle from a person on the bus, and a big Latino dude asking him to take him on, my sister pulls me away. > > \*\* Take satisfaction that insulting somebody become the highlight of this loser’s life. After he gets out of traction he can go brag about his lifetime achievement with his co-workers at the paint-sniffing factory. ---
**Author:** ![DAVEW0071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e19b73/32.png) [@DAVEW0071](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DAVEW0071)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/49 "2003-07-02T00:57:02Z")
**vivian** , I’m sorry that such pitiful excuses for humans still exist. No one should have to go through what you went through. Since I honeymooned in Toronto, I’ve always thought it was a beautiful place, and I have many lovely memories of the week we spent there. Now I fear it will be tinged with thoughts of this sorry episode. But as far as moving to Dallas/Fort Worth…there are Dopers there! And I command you to hook up with **zyada**. Don’t think twice about it, just do it. You can thank me later. And you _will_ thank me. Oh yes…you will thank me. ---
**Author:** ![Francis\_E\_Dec\_Esq](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@Francis\_E\_Dec\_Esq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Francis_E_Dec_Esq)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/50 "2003-07-02T01:10:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by vivian \* > \*\*He starts yelling something, but we couldn’t really make it out. Next thing you know, he in my face yelling “YOU FAT NIGGER BITCH!!! YOU FAT NIGGER BITCH!!!” At this point, all the people were lining up to get on the bus. He runs over to the line, which happen to all be Black women, yelling “FAT NIGGER BITCHESS!!!” \*\* ☹ I just have to say that I am appalled that this fellow called you a FAT NIGGER BITCH. As everyone knows, the phrase FAT NIGGER BITCH is definitely not PC. And it isn’t as if it were regional or only recently achieved such ultra-offensive status (as say CUNT has). I can remember back in the 70s my own mother telling me, “Now son. You mustn’t call people FAT NIGGER BITCHES! It’s not polite.” Even if referring to people as FAT NIGGER BITCHES was more common then, everyone still knew it was wrong. How would that guy feel if someone called him a FAT NIGGER BITCH? Probably not very happy. I remember the first time someone called me a FAT NIGGER BITCH. I had just made a beautiful hit past the left fielder but got tagged at second. The coach said to me, “Jesus, you run like a FAT NIGGER BITCH.” I almost cried right there in front of the rest of the team. Next time someone calls you a FAT NIGGER BITCH, don’t let it get you down. Just look that fucker in the eye and say, “Shit! You’re the FAT NIGGER BITCH, FAT NIGGER BITCH! You’re a _STUPID_ FAT NIGGER BITCH! What are you going to do about it?” I’ll bet he’ll think twice about saying it again after that. ---
**Author:** ![TheLoadedDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@TheLoadedDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLoadedDog)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/51 "2003-07-02T01:37:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by rsa \* > \*\*Good point. I can only say that because I don’t know the posters on this board other than their “virtual personas”, I tend to err on the side of trying to not give offense. But you are correct that my euphemism kind of defeated the point of my post. \*\* No probs. Sorry if it seemed I was singling you out. Calling it “the N word” is pretty common on these boards. I’m not losing sleep over it, but would just like to see “nigger” stipped of its power, and fall into disuse. This isn’t entirely analogous to the OP, but in as much as it points out the stupidity of your average racist, this thread reminds me of an anecdote I heard about an orthodox Jew walking along a London street. A car slowed down next to him, a skinhead popped his head out the window and spat, “JEW!” “YES!!!”, said the Jew with a broad smile, and strode off with a spring in his step. ;j 😃 ---
**Author:** ![vivian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/3e96dc/32.png) [@vivian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivian)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/52 "2003-07-02T03:50:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DAVEW0071 \* > \*\ ***vivian** , I’m sorry that such pitiful excuses for humans still exist. No one should have to go through what you went through. Since I honeymooned in Toronto, I’ve always thought it was a beautiful place, and I have many lovely memories of the week we spent there. Now I fear it will be tinged with thoughts of this sorry episode. > > But as far as moving to Dallas/Fort Worth…there are Dopers there! And I command you to hook up with **zyada**. Don’t think twice about it, just do it. You can thank me later. And you _will_ thank me. Oh yes…you will thank me. \*\* Don’t let this sorry ass incident sully your memories of Toronto!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don’t tell all your friends about my story!!! we’re still recovering from SARS and we need all the Yankee tourism we can get! : D Francis E Dec, Esq[QUOTE]Next time someone calls you a FAT NIGGER BITCH, don’t let it get you down. Just look that fucker in the eye and say, “Shit! You’re the FAT NIGGER BITCH, FAT NIGGER BITCH! You’re a STUPID FAT NIGGER BITCH! What are you going to do about it?” I’ll bet he’ll think twice about saying it again after that. [/QUOTE] ummmmmm…ooookaayy??? 😛 Cicada2003 > [@](#): > > Being mocked and ridiculed doesn’t bring out the best in people, does it? Particularly drunk people. What’s that supposed to mean? That I shouldn’t risk laughing in the vicinity of a drunken loser ? ---
**Author:** ![Cerri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3bc359/32.png) [@Cerri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerri)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/53 "2003-07-02T12:50:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by vivian \* > \*\*Don’t let this sorry ass incident sully your memories of Toronto!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don’t tell all your friends about my story!!! we’re still recovering from SARS and we need all the Yankee tourism we can get! : D > Francis E Dec, Esq[QUOTE]Next time someone calls you a FAT NIGGER BITCH, don’t let it get you down. Just look that fucker in the eye and say, “Shit! You’re the FAT NIGGER BITCH, FAT NIGGER BITCH! You’re a STUPID FAT NIGGER BITCH! What are you going to do about it?” I’ll bet he’ll think twice about saying it again after that. ummmmmm…ooookaayy??? 😛 Cicada2003 What’s that supposed to mean? That I shouldn’t risk laughing in the vicinity of a drunken loser ? \*\* [/QUOTE] Wow, I was thinking the same thing about both posts, lol. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/54 "2003-07-02T13:51:37Z")
Well, let’s see. It’s 3 a.m. and some loser is trying to get it on with a ho, when he hears some loud derisive laughter from a crowd of women causing his dick to shrink. He observes the crowd and notices that they are black. So he assembles every word he can muster to take on revenge, and provides the usual “fat” and “bitch” ( common insults on the SDMB pit) and for good measure the “n” word. He wants to hurt you back, and like all insulters will choose the most effective words available. It doesn’t take a racist to know how to make a black person feel bad. All I see hear is a nut that needs to be avoided. There is not enough evidence to declare racism. Or is racism implicit in low moral character? ---
**Author:** ![vivian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/3e96dc/32.png) [@vivian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivian)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/55 "2003-07-02T14:28:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by grienspace \* > \*\*Well, let’s see. It’s 3 a.m. and some loser is trying to get it on with a ho, when he hears some loud derisive laughter from a crowd of women causing his dick to shrink. He observes the crowd and notices that they are black. So he assembles every word he can muster to take on revenge, and provides the usual “fat” and “bitch” ( common insults on the SDMB pit) and for good measure the “n” word. He wants to hurt you back, and like all insulters will choose the most effective words available. It doesn’t take a racist to know how to make a black person feel bad. > > All I see hear is a nut that needs to be avoided. There is not enough evidence to declare racism. Or is racism implicit in low moral character? \*\* First of all, if you read the post properly, we were NOT a group of women laughing. My sister and I were standing at a bus stop seeing a friend off. We were not getting on the bus. He came running up to me. Secondly, He had no idea what we were laughing at. He was in the middle of the street. We were laughing amongst ourselves. After hurling a couple of “fat nigger bitches” at me, he then ran over to the line up of women, whom all happened to be Black, and did the same to them. When that line disappeared, he then came back to verbally assault me and looked like he was about to physically assault me. It infuriates me to think that \*\* YOU\*\* don’t think that \*\*I \*\* have enough evidence to cry out racism. What do I need??? Maybe I should have waited for the guy to physically assault me with Cunt, Twat, etc, so that I can justify the “bitch”. Or maybe I should have explained to him that I am not fat, because we Niggers actually like meat on our bodies. Or even better! I should have waited till he called me a Jiggaboo Jungle monkey cunt spear chucking twat !!! The fact that this man came up to me and called me a nigger with no REAL provocation is enough evidence for me. But seeing as no one has probably ever called YOU a nigger, I don’t think you have the right to tell me that _I don’t have enough evidence to declare racism_. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/56 "2003-07-02T16:11:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by vivian \* > \*So, **we’re all standing there** watching these two, I say to my sister, we’re going to see these two on CP24 tomorrow morning (a 24 hr Toronto newstation) and start doing a mini newscast and at that, **we all start laughing loudly.** > > Guy decides he didn’t like us laughing and come running from the median with the woman in tow almost getting hit by the arriving bus. He starts yelling something, but we couldn’t really make it out. Next thing you know, he in my face yelling \* ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/57 "2003-07-02T16:18:49Z")
See, viv. It’s _your_ fault this guy called you a fat, nigger bitch! ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/58 "2003-07-02T16:37:05Z")
No \*\* JuanitaTech\*\*, I the point being made is that provocation is behind the perp’s response however inappropriate. That is key to determining if his _response_ is merely to insult (and hurt)a particular group of people at a bus stop for a perceived offense or whether his behaviour is indicative of a particular mindset towards black people in general. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/59 "2003-07-02T16:50:42Z")
1. My comment was directed towards cicada’s two posts. 2. I agree that usage of the word nigger does not a racist make. The odds are good, however, that one who uses that word to insult black people is probably a racist. ---
**Author:** ![vivian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/3e96dc/32.png) [@vivian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vivian)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214/60 "2003-07-02T17:52:20Z")
When i said we, i meant my sister, her friend and I. I also did mention that there were other people at the bus stop, but that I was speaking to my sister. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-this-dude-calls-me-a-fat-nigger-bitch-long/185214.md?page=4)