# So, uh, how do I deepthroat without gagging? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 5, 2011, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296 "2011-09-05T18:58:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2011, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/21 "2011-09-06T15:19:30Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Certainly, I wouldn’t exclusively sit there jamming his entire dong down my throat for 10 minutes, Man, have I told you lately that I love you? ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2011, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/22 "2011-09-06T15:26:03Z")
Breathe through your nose. Concentrate on relaxing your throat muscles and if you feel slightly gaggy, pull back just a bit, work the head and then when you’re back in control go back down deep again. Also, testicles are nature’s way of saying, “put your other hand here.” ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2011, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/23 "2011-09-06T16:12:07Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Deep-throating is vastly overrated, in my opinion. What you want to do is lightly grip and manipulate the base of the penis while going down of the rest of the penis. The twin sensations, after some practice, while stimulate your partner much more than throat action alone. This, absolutely. Or you could offer anal instead and he’ll forget all about it. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2011, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/24 "2011-09-06T17:15:28Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Or you could offer anal instead and he’ll forget all about it. On the nose. The suggestion, I mean. ---
**Author:** ![mr.jp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/48db29/32.png) [@mr.jp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mr.jp)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2011, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/25 "2011-09-06T18:06:02Z")
I’m sure your boyfriend will like the answer: Practice. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/26 "2011-09-08T13:29:59Z")
It helps get into it if you wear a Nixon mask. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/27 "2011-09-08T14:33:22Z")
And if that doesn’t work, have him wear it. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/28 "2011-09-08T14:35:48Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > And if that doesn’t work, have him wear it. And start calling his penis “Tricky Dick”. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/29 "2011-09-08T15:36:52Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > If all else fails . . . find a partner who is “small.” This is why I only deep throat lepers. It becomes easier the more times I do it. ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/30 "2011-09-08T16:36:12Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > Breathe through your nose. Concentrate on relaxing your throat muscles and if you feel slightly gaggy, pull back just a bit, work the head and then when you’re back in control go back down deep again. Also, testicles are nature’s way of saying, “put your other hand here.” Keep in mind, you can’t breathe and deepthroat at the same time. The epiglottis closes off the windpipe. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/31 "2011-09-08T22:26:43Z")
Start brushing your tongue. You stick your tongue all the way out and open your mouth wide and brush as far back as you can. Get it nice and foamy with the toothpaste and then use a tongue scraper and scrape it off. Morning and night. You will desensitize, and if you gag or puke or whatever you are alone in the bathroom and it will all go into the sink, easy peasy. Also, I find it easier to deep throat if I have the gentleman lay down and I position myself so my ass is up toward his head. That way the position of the penis matches the curve of my throat. (PS, I super hate my TMJ problems because I fucking love giving head.) ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/32 "2011-09-08T22:51:08Z")
> [@ZenBeam](#): > > Not a frankfurter. That seems like a risk for it breaking off leaving an inch or two, followed by choking. Must agree - however limited, such risk is real. Always practice with something that you’re sure you can pull out immediately w/o it breaking up. And this is one of those things in which whether or not it is achieved, just knowing there was the intention will surely greatly please the intended audience… ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2011, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/33 "2011-09-08T22:53:39Z")
> [@Little\_Bird](#): > > ..Also, I find it easier to deep throat if I have the gentleman lay down and I position myself so my ass is up toward his head. That way the position of the penis matches the curve of my throat… Isn’t that just 69-ing without you getting any of the benefit? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/34 "2011-09-09T00:38:58Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Isn’t that just 69-ing without you getting any of the benefit? :dubious: She didn’t rule that out ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Little\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Bird)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/35 "2011-09-09T01:56:40Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Isn’t that just 69-ing without you getting any of the benefit? :dubious: Well I’m not sitting on him, just to the side. Besides, I prefer we each get our own individually instead of having to concentrate on two things at once. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/36 "2011-09-09T02:03:25Z")
> [@Little\_Bird](#): > > Well I’m not sitting on him, just to the side. Besides, I prefer we each get our own individually instead of having to concentrate on two things at once. Whole new meaning to “Keep your eyes on the Prize”. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Chef\_Troy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Chef\_Troy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chef_Troy)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/37 "2011-09-09T02:27:54Z")
You could also lie down and hang your head over the edge of the bed, while your fella stands. This will line your throat up for the sword-swallowing. I agree with others that there’s no magic shortcut to desensitizing your gag reflex. It can be done with patience and practice, though. ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/38 "2011-09-09T02:33:45Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Isn’t that just 69-ing without you getting any of the benefit? :dubious: It’s 68. She does him and he owes her one. ---
**Author:** ![VOW](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/vow/32/3043_2.png) [@VOW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VOW)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/39 "2011-09-09T02:48:38Z")
This thread made me laugh so hard I puked! ~VOW ---
**Author:** ![Krouget](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b38774/32.png) [@Krouget](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Krouget)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2011, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296/40 "2011-09-09T13:45:21Z")
> [@Rick](#): > > It’s 68. She does him and he owes her one. Ok, this was just funny. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-uh-how-do-i-deepthroat-without-gagging/595296.md?page=3)