# So we went and got married **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 19, 2002, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862 "2002-06-19T14:07:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/1 "2002-06-19T14:07:22Z")
Just an announcement for everyone: After two years of long-distance dating, followed by three years of living together, my fiancee and I finally became Mr. and Mrs. Sublight. We went down to the local city office with all our paperwork (passports, signatures of two witnesses, statement from the U.S. embassy that I’m not already married, application to create a new family register in my name, etc.), handed everything over to the clerk sitting behind the counter and waited. After about half an hour, the clerk gave us back our passports and said, “ok, you’re all set.” No photos, no congratulations, not even a piece of paper saying we’re married. Kind of an anticlimax, really. So now it’s my wedding night and I’m sitting in front of the computer posting to a message board. Why? Partly because we both have to go to work tomorrow morning, but mostly because of the mother-in-law who has her futon spread out next to our bedroom until next week. ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/2 "2002-06-19T14:35:42Z")
Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/3 "2002-06-19T14:39:49Z")
Congratulations! I wish you many many years of happiness. ---
**Author:** ![12hazel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/919ad9/32.png) [@12hazel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/12hazel)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/4 "2002-06-19T14:40:21Z")
Uh… well… Congratulations, then! First lesson of married life: Do not let the in-laws affect your behavior. Really. Gives 'em waaaay too much power otherwise. Second lesson: Very, very quiet spousal amusements can be really fun. Also useful for when you have kids. Best wishes for many happy years! ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/5 "2002-06-19T14:50:06Z")
Huzzah! ---
**Author:** ![RickQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/35a633/32.png) [@RickQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickQ)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/6 "2002-06-19T14:51:17Z")
Congratulations to you both! Rick ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/7 "2002-06-19T14:52:20Z")
Hey, that’s great! Where did you tie the knot? I got married at the Toshima-ku Kuyakusho in Tokyo at lunch time. Don’t know if it is still the same, but 8 years ago, there was only one form for both marriage and divorce, you just ticked the appropriate box. BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Man I loved that. Anyhoo, all the best for your married life together. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/8 "2002-06-19T16:35:06Z")
Yay! ---
**Author:** ![GraceTX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c4cdca/32.png) [@GraceTX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GraceTX)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/9 "2002-06-19T20:35:18Z")
Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Ringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/779978/32.png) [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/10 "2002-06-19T21:00:32Z")
'Grats to both of you! Well, all three - now MIL has a SIL. ---
**Author:** ![ratty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ccd318/32.png) [@ratty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratty)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/11 "2002-06-19T21:09:58Z")
Congratulations, **sublight** - I’m glad to hear your monstrous practice of “standing” has not poorly affected the relationship. 😉 Best of luck always, and many, many happy years! ---
**Author:** ![Smashed\_Ice\_Cream](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Smashed\_Ice\_Cream](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smashed_Ice_Cream)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/12 "2002-06-19T22:30:24Z")
Mazel Tov!!! ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/13 "2002-06-19T23:22:34Z")
Thank you everybody, this has been wonderful! **12hazel** , It’s not so much that the in-laws affect my behavior, but my wife’s. Oh well, this is what love hotels were made for. **China Guy** , our local office was the Setagaya-ku kuyakusho. I think in our case as well, it wasn’t so much a marrige application but just a general “change of family register” form. I suppose if we waited, we could have taken care of it like a shopping list. “Marriage? check. Birth? check. Death? Yep, two of those, check. Disownment? Hmm, that’s a new one, have to give a try some time.” **ratty** , it took me a few minutes to figure out what you meant, but yes, thanks to all the support from the other Doper standers, she’s agreed to overlook my aberrant behavior. Thanks, everyone. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2002, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/14 "2002-06-19T23:29:02Z")
i hope this is right… iwai no kotoba o noberu ! (?) best wishes on a long and happy marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/15 "2002-06-20T00:27:27Z")
Congratulations. May honest communication and bliss reign throughout your marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/16 "2002-06-20T00:35:19Z")
Congratulations. May honest communication and bliss reign throughout your marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/17 "2002-06-20T00:40:29Z")
Congratulations. May honest communication and bliss reign throughout your marriage. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/18 "2002-06-20T01:48:36Z")
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Man, the board is chock full of happiness today! And you definitely shouldn’t let the mother in law effect your celebration. It’d be like grade school all over again! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/19 "2002-06-20T05:23:06Z")
My goodness. What grade school did you go to? :eek: Congratulations, **Sublight**! ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-we-went-and-got-married/114862/20 "2002-06-20T05:47:02Z")
Congratulations! A long, happy, joyous marriage to you.