# So what does one (well, many) actually DO on a "girls' night"? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 6, 2009, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665 "2009-02-06T04:16:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/81 "2009-02-08T04:06:50Z")
Those are some way cool shoes **Shelli** , I have some not-quite-as-brave ones in black and white that I should break out now that you’ve reminded me. Maybe I’ll wear them Monday, we’re doing a girls night type thing. A bunch of girls on a local message board I’m on are meeting up at a coffee shop to chat and exchange books. Not a book club discussion thing, just saving money by swapping things we’ve already read amongst ourselves. Oughta be interesting, as I’m sure none of us has the exact same tastes. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/82 "2009-02-08T04:09:25Z")
> [@Jeff](#): > > What did she say that was necessary? She just dropped into the thread to take a potshot. Congratulations to her for being an outraged bystander, it’s quite an accomplishment. Right, because I’m the first one who mentioned the particular theme of these types of threads. Oh wait. > [@TVeblen](#): > > And Opal flounces off in a huff from yet another of her ask-for-advice threads. Damn. Thought you got it in one, too. ---
**Author:** ![Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bambi_Hassenpfeffer)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/83 "2009-02-08T04:19:56Z")
> [@TVeblen](#): > > So…anybody wanna talk about shoes? [OMG shoes!](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HjIljJd-o0&feature=channel) My current favorites pair: [Mark Ecko Bristle-Hays](http://www.aggressivemall.com/Ecko-Bristle-Hays-Shoe-Natural-Brown-p/ecko-shoe-24200-ntbr.htm) and [Mark Ecko Bristle-Huff](http://www.shoebuy.com/unltd-by-marc-ecko-bristle-huff/205289), except mine are brown/natural. My clothing is kinda boring, so I like my shoes to have a little something. > [@ShelliBean](#): > > At my last girls night we moved the furniture and did the cupid shuffle in the middle of the living room and drank mojitos. Love the Cupid Shuffle. Next time, though, move up to the [Cha Cha Slide](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4G9ali7QeU). At my last sorta girl’s night, I went with a friend to Wal\*Mart and got a lot of cheap makeup, and then we went back home and gave me a good drag look. There was a little alcohol in that one, too. > [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > The result is, you get huffy and defensive, basically wonder aloud why you even asked us all in the first place, and presumably leave pissed off without having accomplished anything. I picture you throwing something and saying “Why do I even bother with you idiots anyway if you can’t FIGURE OUT WHAT I WANT?!” Well, nobody does know what you want, even you allegedly. Chill the fuck out already, woman. Then you play the victim when everyone wonders why you are acting this way. “Don’t blame me,” you seem to say. “I’m just asking for advice.” Yeah, in possibly the most bitchy and unappreciative way possible. What she said. You know, all someone did was suggest that maybe you not worry about a strict event agenda and let it kinda happen, and you shit the bed. Totally reasonable, IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Second_Star_to_the_Right)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/84 "2009-02-08T04:24:54Z")
> [@TVeblen](#): > > I think the more worrisome underlying issue is…there’s a contingent? > > Huh. Oh well. > > And shoes. There’s always a contingent when more than one person expresses the same opinion, don’tcha know. Shoes are good. Why can’t your wear your purple suede shoes, **Kalhoun**? Does meltage= snow melting? (clueless Floridian here) > [@susan\_foster](#): > > Been there, done that. 4 1/2 years in Fort Lauderdale. It was fun to go to Christmas picnics, no question. Oh, so you know the drill. There’ve been some years when we had to run the air on Christmas day. I’ve lived here my whole life and I think it’d be nice to actually live through a white christmas once or twice. I bet the cold weather gets old after awhile though. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/85 "2009-02-08T04:25:48Z")
Actually, cold weather gets old after the first day. And there aren’t many cute cold-weather shoes, anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Jeff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jeff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jeff)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/86 "2009-02-08T04:31:22Z")
> [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > Right, because I’m the first one who mentioned the particular theme of these types of threads. > > Oh wait. > Damn. Thought you got it in one, too. Oh well, I guess that’s all right then. Your outrage is validated, carry on. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/87 "2009-02-08T04:35:45Z")
Bambi, those are freaking awesome. [These two](http://i492.photobucket.com/albums/rr282/ShelliBeanAllen/223222.jpg) are mine in that fashion. The one on the left has a swallow and a heart with little sparklies around them like tattoo art. The right one is just a cool Target pick up. I love the Rocket Dogs! PS - guys, we’ve had a girl night pop up here spontaneously. Don’t harsh it. 🙂 ETA - sorry about the mess. I guess you can see my shoes perfectly match my awesome grandma style quilt! ---
**Author:** ![Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Second_Star_to_the_Right)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/88 "2009-02-08T05:03:30Z")
> [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > Actually, cold weather gets old after the first day. And there aren’t many cute cold-weather shoes, anyway. I like the cold. Well, as “cold” as it gets here in central Florida, anyway. **Shellibean** , you’re right. Actually, this thread is living proof of the point some of us were trying to make. Get some girls together and chat about whatever and things just naturally flow from there. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/89 "2009-02-08T05:06:05Z")
As cold as it gets here in central Florida…you’re killing me over here! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Bambi\_Hassenpfeffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bambi_Hassenpfeffer)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/90 "2009-02-08T05:14:43Z")
> [@Queen\_Tonya](#): > > As cold as it gets here in central Florida…you’re killing me over here! 😛 Hey, hey, hey! It’s 55 right now! I’ve almost had to put jeans on. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/91 "2009-02-08T05:15:32Z")
Hey for the record, I am in Colorado presently which is quite a bit colder than Central FL. TYVM. ---
**Author:** ![Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Second_Star_to_the_Right)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/92 "2009-02-08T05:41:01Z")
I just get excited when it’s cool enough to justify wearing a hoodie. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/93 "2009-02-08T06:07:13Z")
Crocs! Love them. They were the only shoes that didn’t make my feet swell. But then work banned them. Other than that, I have my trusty Birkenstocks that I’ve worn for, oh, 4 years now? Yeah, that’s about right. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/94 "2009-02-08T12:19:23Z")
> [@susan\_foster](#): > > I got a brand new pair of shoes this week. They are made for me - plum [Susan](http://www.target.com/Womens-Xhilaration-Susan-Pumps-Plum/dp/B0017KB38K/sr=1-1/qid=1234048692/ref=sr_1_1/182-4303292-7290440?ie=UTF8&index=target&rh=k%3Aplum%20susan&page=1) pumps. > > Curse this winter - I want to wear my new shoes! Snow, snow, go away… Freekin’ adorable! And named after you!! ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/95 "2009-02-08T12:28:55Z")
> [@Idlewild](#): > > I just got my second pair of Dansko clogs. The first pair was a nice deep red shiny patent leopard print. The second pair is the same print in a more neutral brown. I am trying to convince my coworkers that leopard print is SO a neutral. > > **I can’t wear high heels after I broke my ankle a couple of years ago,** so clogs are officially my cute shoes. Oh well. The prints are something else. I’ve never had so many favourable remarks as on the red leopard ones! That – is _tragic._☹ I can’t wear mine as long as I used to, but a life without high heels is almost a life not worth living. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/96 "2009-02-08T12:33:31Z")
> [@Queen\_Tonya](#): > > Those are some way cool shoes **Shelli** , I have some not-quite-as-brave ones in black and white that I should break out now that you’ve reminded me. > > Maybe I’ll wear them Monday, we’re doing a girls night type thing. A bunch of girls on a local message board I’m on are meeting up at a coffee shop to chat and exchange books. Not a book club discussion thing, just saving money by swapping things we’ve already read amongst ourselves. Oughta be interesting, as I’m sure none of us has the exact same tastes. That’s a _great_ idea! Recession-proof fun. It’s perfect except for the coffee shop thing. I don’t think a double latte will ever fill the “shoes” of the almighty Girl’s Night Margharita.😉 ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/97 "2009-02-08T13:03:03Z")
> [@Second\_Star\_to\_the\_Right](#): > > There’s always a contingent when more than one person expresses the same opinion, don’tcha know. > > Shoes are good. Why can’t your wear your purple suede shoes, **Kalhoun**? Does meltage= snow melting? (clueless Floridian here) Yup. It was warm and puddly yesterday. All the snow converged into pools. I had to navigate a gauntlet of hidden potholes and mini-streams to get to my party last night. So glad I left the suede shoes at home! ---
**Author:** ![Idlewild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8491ac/32.png) [@Idlewild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idlewild)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/98 "2009-02-08T14:02:36Z")
> [@Kalhoun](#): > > That – is _tragic._☹ I can’t wear mine as long as I used to, but a life without high heels is almost a life not worth living. Bwahaha. I know… it’s the worst. But get this, my best friend (we are so bff. I don’t care if it’s not high school) who I happen to work with has the same shoe size as me, so she hauled in shoes that were not sneakers for me to wear about six weeks after the accident- they were still ugly, but by god, not sneakers. She wasn’t having me stuck in sneakers! Then she spent about a year shopping for heels I could wear. She now owns most of the pairs I bought… one pair went to another friend with the same shoe size… sigh… I tried to get back into them but the ankle doesn’t bend that way any more, and eventually we decided I couldn’t keep buying all my friends shoes! 😛 The Danskos are … well, they’re clogs. But shiny patent leopard print? I can get behind that. It’s somewhere between tackylicious and actually sort of cute. And they do give me an extra inch and a half of height or so. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/99 "2009-02-08T17:31:25Z")
> [@Idlewild](#): > > Bwahaha. I know… it’s the worst. But get this, my best friend (we are so bff. I don’t care if it’s not high school) who I happen to work with has the same shoe size as me, so she hauled in shoes that were not sneakers for me to wear about six weeks after the accident- they were still ugly, but by god, not sneakers. She wasn’t having me stuck in sneakers! > > Then she spent about a year shopping for heels I could wear. She now owns most of the pairs I bought… one pair went to another friend with the same shoe size… sigh… I tried to get back into them but the ankle doesn’t bend that way any more, and eventually we decided I couldn’t keep buying all my friends shoes! 😛 > > The Danskos are … well, they’re clogs. But shiny patent leopard print? I can get behind that. It’s somewhere between tackylicious and actually sort of cute. And they do give me an extra inch and a half of height or so. Your only response to this ankle tragedy is to have Girl’s Night In and make your friends dress up and parade around the party in your cute ex-shoes. Live vicariously through them. Go now, and plan your party. Here’s a scrumpie little number: [http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7361993/color/187306](http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7361993/color/187306) ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665/100 "2009-02-08T19:25:44Z")
Oh \*\*Idlewild \*\*that sucks about the shoes and being limited by an injury! I don’t do a lot of heels (because I am incredibly uncoordinated) so I have lots and lots of non-heel shoes. I love the Rocket Dogs, as previously mentioned, and they are almost all flats - all casual. I also love my chucks. But mostly I find good shoes at places like Junkman’s Daughter and cheap side shops. I love some of the styles that come out of Target but I have yet to buy one that has not made me curse the day I was born after standing in them for a few hours. \*\*Kalhoun \*\*- agreed about the girls night margarita. Almost every girls night I know of has alcohol (unless it’s full of recovering addicts, I could understand that). The way I see it is this: we all have lives we have to focus on our kids and/or our job and basically being responsible so if we get together about four times a year and drink till we’re silly and talk like sailor whores then so be it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-what-does-one-well-many-actually-do-on-a-girls-night/484665.md?page=6)