# So when is it acceptable to want to have sex with a woman? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 20, 2013, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476 "2013-03-20T18:51:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/1 "2013-03-20T18:51:49Z")
Without promoting the patriarchy/rape culture or infringing on their rights or expecting it in return for kindness tokens or offending feminists or being creepy ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/2 "2013-03-20T18:53:46Z")
Always. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/3 "2013-03-20T18:53:51Z")
The mid-90s onward. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/4 "2013-03-20T18:54:56Z")
Only is she wants to have sex with you. Otherwise it’s creepy. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/5 "2013-03-20T18:56:58Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > Only is she wants to have sex with you. Otherwise it’s creepy. So you can’t want to have sex with a woman until what? She says she wants to have sex with you? Fills out an affadavit? Rips her clothes off and shouts “Fuck me!”? I don’t see the least thing wrong with wanting to have sex with a woman at any time. It’s a thought not an action. ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/6 "2013-03-20T19:01:12Z")
From what I understand, most straight men go around wanting to have sex with women all damn day, though it’s usually not in the forefront of their minds. It’s when you start looking like a wolf in an old cartoon, tongue hanging out and eyes bulging, that it starts to become a bit delicate. If steam comes out of your ears, it’s **definitely** going to be awkward. Same if your heart visibly beats through your shirt, extending about two feet in front of your chest each time. ---
**Author:** ![PatriotGrrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9dc877/32.png) [@PatriotGrrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatriotGrrrl)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/7 "2013-03-20T19:01:48Z")
You can want all the time. Its just more polite not to talk about it unless you think there’s a good chance she wants to have it with you. Which generally means not in the workplace, and not with total strangers (unless you’re at a club or something where people go to hook up). ---
**Author:** ![Raging\_Bull](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/43a26b/32.png) [@Raging\_Bull](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raging_Bull)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/8 "2013-03-20T19:03:00Z")
From puberty onwards… ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/9 "2013-03-20T19:05:24Z")
The ‘expecting it’/creepiness stuff is generally about your behavior, not about what you want in your mind. It’s about how your wants affect your actions. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/10 "2013-03-20T19:05:38Z")
Whenever you think about one or sex in general. ---
**Author:** ![FlyingRat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/59ef9b/32.png) [@FlyingRat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FlyingRat)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/11 "2013-03-20T19:07:33Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > I don’t see the least thing wrong with wanting to have sex with a woman at any time. It’s a thought not an action. 100% dyed-in-the-wool feminist here (and female), and I agree with this. There’s nothing at all wrong with “pantsfeelings” (to use Captain Awkward’s term); it’s where those thoughts and feelings get distorted into entitlement or some perception of obligation on the woman’s part that problems happen. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/12 "2013-03-20T19:11:29Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > So you can’t want to have sex with a woman until what? She says she wants to have sex with you? Fills out an affadavit? Rips her clothes off and shouts “Fuck me!”? > > I don’t see the least thing wrong with wanting to have sex with a woman at any time. It’s a thought not an action. I was making a joke. Personally, I think about sex all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/13 "2013-03-20T19:11:38Z")
Puritans aside, it’s always acceptable to WANT to have sex with a woman. It’s what you do in service of that desire that is acceptable or unacceptable. ---
**Author:** ![Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/intergalactic_gladiator/32/112_2.png) [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intergalactic_Gladiator)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/14 "2013-03-20T19:11:49Z")
> [@Smeghead](#): > > The mid-90s onward. Too old for me. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/15 "2013-03-20T19:19:17Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > I was making a joke. Ok. Good thing too, because that answer was kind of creepy. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/16 "2013-03-20T19:19:39Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > I was making a joke. > Personally, I think about sex all the time. of course you do; you’re a zebra. out there in the warm sun with hundreds of female zebras surrounding you frequently rubbing up against you in a herd frenzy. how other can you be expected to be. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/17 "2013-03-20T19:29:24Z")
> [@LawMonkey](#): > > Same if your heart visibly beats through your shirt, extending about two feet in front of your chest each time. That’s not my heart. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/18 "2013-03-20T19:36:52Z")
If you have to ask (the question above), probably never. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/19 "2013-03-20T19:37:17Z")
When the wind blows. ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/20 "2013-03-20T19:42:21Z")
I’m wanting to have sex with a woman right now. You should have seen the inside of my mind when I was at the gym earlier today, I wanted to have sex with a woman than too. I’ve been wanting to have sex with women for over 40 years yet no feminists have pepper sprayed me. Am I doing it wrong? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476.md?page=2)