# So when is it acceptable to want to have sex with a woman? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 20, 2013, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476 "2013-03-20T18:51:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Colophon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@Colophon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colophon)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/21 "2013-03-20T20:09:23Z")
> [@shiftless](#): > > I’m wanting to have sex with a woman right now. You should have seen the inside of my mind when I was at the gym earlier today, I wanted to have sex with a woman than too. I’ve been wanting to have sex with women for over 40 years yet no feminists have pepper sprayed me. Am I doing it wrong? Perhaps you forgot to unzip your trousers and dribble slightly? That ought to do it. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/22 "2013-03-20T20:18:45Z")
Well, when the mommy and the daddy really love each other very much they hold each other very close and … ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/23 "2013-03-20T20:21:51Z")
> [@Colophon](#): > > Perhaps you forgot to unzip your trousers and dribble slightly? That ought to do it. Wouldn’t that be more appropriate for a basketball court? ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/24 "2013-03-20T20:25:00Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > Personally, I think about sex all the time. I assume not with the OP. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/25 "2013-03-20T22:37:45Z")
When you’re straight. Or a lesbian. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/26 "2013-03-20T22:40:20Z")
When you’re introduced? ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/27 "2013-03-20T22:50:35Z")
When I’m breathing. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/28 "2013-03-20T23:17:02Z")
> [@Marley23](#): > > The ‘expecting it’/creepiness stuff is generally about your behavior, not about what you want in your mind. It’s about how your wants affect your actions. Yeah, but said actions are considered creepy because they reveal certain thoughts. I floating the more rational idea that women were afraid of being raped or at least molested, but people seemed to turn that down. Women are by and large actually creeped out by knowing that certain people like them. I mean, the creepiest person is the socially awkward who probably won’t hurt a fly, not the actual muscular guy who acts like a jerk to those around him. ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/29 "2013-03-20T23:18:35Z")
It’s okay to want to have sex with a woman, or think about it. It’s not okay to think that a woman is obligated to have sex with you, or that you “deserve” to fuck her more than guys she gladly has sex with, like her husband or boyfriend. It’s not okay to call women names because they don’t want to have sex with you. It’s not okay to try to intimidate, coerce, or force a woman to have sex with you. It’s not okay to go after “easy targets” for sex, like underage girls or the mentally challenged or what-have-you. At the same time, it’s okay for a woman to want to have sex with you. She can think about it or fantasize about it. But it’s not okay for her to do any of those bad things to you, either. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/30 "2013-03-20T23:23:06Z")
> [@LawMonkey](#): > > From what I understand, most straight men go around wanting to have sex with women all damn day. […] The way I read the OP, he’s not talking about a general desire to have sex with some woman sometime, but wanting to have sex with a particular woman at a particular time. And even that’s a bad way to explain it, as particular has two meanings. I don’t mean he’s thinking about a certain girl who he is not naming. It’s a particular woman only at that particular time. EDIT: Note, I accidentally a word in my previous post. I “tried floating around” that idea. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2013, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/31 "2013-03-20T23:33:45Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > The way I read the OP, he’s not talking about a general desire to have sex with some woman sometime, but wanting to have sex with a particular woman at a particular time. > > And even that’s a bad way to explain it, as particular has two meanings. I don’t mean he’s thinking about a certain girl who he is not naming. It’s a particular woman only at that particular time. > > EDIT: Note, I accidentally a word in my previous post. I “tried floating around” that idea. I’m not super positive that you have much useful insight on the topic at hand. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/32 "2013-03-21T00:39:14Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Yeah, but said actions are considered creepy because they reveal certain thoughts. If you don’t express those thoughts through your actions, nobody knows what you are thinking in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/33 "2013-03-21T01:02:19Z")
I kindof enjoy it when I piss people off and get accused of promoting rape culture on this board. It has happened at least once. In answer to the OP’s question, as long as she doesn’t give you signs she is uncomfortable I think it is ok. If she wants you to fuck her, go for it. But I’d stop if she gives off negative signals. ---
**Author:** ![MegaBee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f0a364/32.png) [@MegaBee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MegaBee)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/34 "2013-03-21T12:54:58Z")
You can think whatever the hell you want. The scary feminists aren’t going to come and get you for wanting to have sex. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/35 "2013-03-21T13:07:54Z")
Not while she is delivering a eulogy, piloting a reentering spacecraft, or sitting in your jury. I mean, you can want it, but it’s not considered acceptable to actually do it during those times. Really – as long as you stay discreet she will not care. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/36 "2013-03-21T13:15:32Z")
> [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](#): > > Too old for me. Prude. [QUOTE=MegaBee] You can think whatever the hell you want. The scary feminists aren’t going to come and get you for wanting to have sex. [/QUOTE] Damn you ruined my fantasy. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/37 "2013-03-21T21:57:44Z")
It’s expressing that want to have sex that is the issue. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2013, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/38 "2013-03-21T23:43:21Z")
It’s acceptable to want it. It’s unacceptable to think you’re entitled to it. ---
**Author:** ![11811](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/9d8465/32.png) [@11811](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/11811)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/39 "2013-03-22T01:20:47Z")
To _ **want** _ to have sex? Appropriate all the time except perhaps during Holy Communion or a funeral. Where you get into trouble is in how you express that desire. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2013, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476/40 "2013-03-22T04:17:54Z")
The answer is found in a Tom Brady SNL sketch on sexual harassment in the workplace. Just follow that one and you will be good. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-when-is-it-acceptable-to-want-to-have-sex-with-a-woman/653476.md?page=3)