# Some good thoughts please.
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [November 13, 2008, 10:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515 "2008-11-13T10:26:31Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/21 "2008-11-13T16:40:54Z")
Stick! Stick! Stick!
Best wishes and good vibes headed your way.
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### Author:  [@Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichini_Sanshigo)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/22 "2008-11-13T17:07:46Z")
No advice to offer, just congrats and positive thoughts! And also, a question:
What in the world are “sticky thoughts”? Why “sticky” and not “happy”?
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### Author:  [@cmosdes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmosdes)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/23 "2008-11-13T17:11:22Z")
My wife and I went through the same thing about 13 years ago. I was more nervous then then during the labor.
Good luck!
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### Author:  [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/24 "2008-11-13T17:14:21Z")
We can transfer all the stickies from Beta-Chan to irishgirl now.
I hope it goes well. I’ll include you in my prayers this evening.
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### Author:  [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/25 "2008-11-13T17:15:30Z")
> [@Ichini\_Sanshigo](#):
>
> No advice to offer, just congrats and positive thoughts! And also, a question:
>
> What in the world are “sticky thoughts”? Why “sticky” and not “happy”?
Sticky = fetus sticks in the womb, no miscarriage
So sending “sticky” thoughts means you’re sending well wishes that the baby is going to hang in there tight for 40 weeks!
And **irishgirl** , I’m sending my sticky thoughts your way, too!
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### Author:  [@Pocito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pocito)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/26 "2008-11-13T17:26:10Z")
I had some bleeding at about a month. I got really freaked out at about 12 weeks when I had mild cramping. But all was well, and I’m certain that those little tots just like to start stressing us out as early as possible.
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### Author:  [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/27 "2008-11-13T17:39:52Z")
Oh yeah, I’m a doctor…this just means I know spotting is common, 75% of pregnancies don’t end in miscarriage, HCG should double in 48 hours, a sac needs to be around 15mm before you can see a heartbeat and that if it isn’t going to stick there is nothing I can do about it and it was probably just not meant to be.
It doesn’t make it less scary when it’s actually you…
and you got your dates wrong by 4 days and so really shouldn’t have gone out for a few drinks 2 weeks ago because the reassuringly negative pregnancy test was just too early
or taken those antibiotics last week
or skipped the folic acid that one day
or not realised that this “period” was a little weird until 7 days in when you started puking
…and you’re thinking of a million reasons to blame yourself if this doesn’t work out.
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### Author:  [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/28 "2008-11-13T17:47:43Z")
Sending very, very good thoughts your way! I remember thinking that every cramp in early pregnancy was the sign of an oncoming miscarriage. It’s so hard not to worry.
> [@](#):
>
> …and you’re thinking of a million reasons to blame yourself if this doesn’t work out.
Oh, honey. (((( **irishgirl** )))) Try not to think that way.
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### Author:  [@Enola\_Gay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enola_Gay)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/29 "2008-11-13T18:27:10Z")
I bled throughout the first trimester with my second. This was after years of fertility treatments, so I was a wreck but she turned out perfect. Hang in there!!
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### Author:  [@criminey.jicket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/criminey.jicket)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/30 "2008-11-13T19:47:44Z")
Thinking super sticky thoughts for you **irishgirl**.
::squeezes hand::
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### Author:  [@Ceejaytee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ceejaytee)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/31 "2008-11-13T20:03:51Z")
Good thoughts **irishgirl**! I had bleeding with #2, and spent the weekend in bed waiting to see my doctor and trying not to freak out. He’s 4 now (my son, not the doctor). 😉
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### Author:  [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/32 "2008-11-13T20:07:12Z")
> [@irishgirl](#):
>
> Oh yeah, I’m a doctor…this just means I know spotting is common, 75% of pregnancies don’t end in miscarriage, HCG should double in 48 hours, a sac needs to be around 15mm before you can see a heartbeat and that if it isn’t going to stick there is nothing I can do about it and it was probably just not meant to be.
>
> It doesn’t make it less scary when it’s actually you…
> and you got your dates wrong by 4 days and so really shouldn’t have gone out for a few drinks 2 weeks ago because the reassuringly negative pregnancy test was just too early
> or taken those antibiotics last week
> or skipped the folic acid that one day
> or not realised that this “period” was a little weird until 7 days in when you started puking
> …and you’re thinking of a million reasons to blame yourself if this doesn’t work out.
So Doc, what would be your own advice?
I would think stay calm, think positive and try to relax. No matter what don’t worry about the what ifs.
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### Author:  [@beanpod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beanpod)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/33 "2008-11-13T20:29:04Z")
This worked for beta-chan!
_::stickystickysticky::_
I really hope you get the outcome you’re hoping for.
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### Author:  [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/34 "2008-11-13T20:41:07Z")
> [@Enola\_Gay](#):
>
> I bled throughout the first trimester
Me, too – and it started with a very scary gush of bright red blood. My kid’s 13 now.
Sending positive, sticky thoughts your way.
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### Author:  [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/35 "2008-11-13T21:03:54Z")
I did everything wrong in the first trimester - your full list and more before I even knew I was pregnant. I had bleeding. She’s fine and brilliant.
Sticky thoughts and bet wishes to you both.
Oh, and get used to the guilt, that’s _motherhood!_
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### Author:  [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/36 "2008-11-13T21:18:47Z")
I wish you all the best.
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### Author:  [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/37 "2008-11-13T21:26:14Z")
Don’t panic. (One more “Same here, everything worked out,” and one more in the chorus of mystical positive vibrations.)
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### Author:  [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/38 "2008-11-13T21:36:32Z")
beta-beta (sticky) thoughts going to you~
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### Author:  [@Ichini\_Sanshigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichini_Sanshigo)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/39 "2008-11-13T21:38:00Z")
> [@FaerieBeth](#):
>
> So sending “sticky” thoughts means you’re sending well wishes that the baby is going to hang in there tight for 40 weeks!
Ah-ha! I’ll add some sticky thoughts to those positive thoughts. _stick_ _stick_ _stick_
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### Author:  [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)
#### Post date: [November 13, 2008, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/some-good-thoughts-please/472515/40 "2008-11-13T23:09:45Z")
> [@irishgirl](#):
>
> Oh yeah, I’m a doctor…this just means I know spotting is common, 75% of pregnancies don’t end in miscarriage, HCG should double in 48 hours, a sac needs to be around 15mm before you can see a heartbeat and that if it isn’t going to stick there is nothing I can do about it and it was probably just not meant to be.
>
> It doesn’t make it less scary when it’s actually you…
> and you got your dates wrong by 4 days and so really shouldn’t have gone out for a few drinks 2 weeks ago because the reassuringly negative pregnancy test was just too early
> or taken those antibiotics last week
> or skipped the folic acid that one day
> or not realised that this “period” was a little weird until 7 days in when you started puking
> …and you’re thinking of a million reasons to blame yourself if this doesn’t work out.
Yeah, rational thoughts and worry for your child. They just don’t always go together. Might as well get used to that now.
Keeping good thoughts for the two of you.
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