# Somebody "unfriended" me on FaceBook last night. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 11, 2011, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812 "2011-12-11T07:55:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/1 "2011-12-11T07:55:41Z")
And I don’t know why! Since I found the Straight Dope I’ve been way less controversial. Because I have a better voice here. The hell of it is, I really enjoyed her posts. She has two grown sons, as do I. She’s slightly inspirational without being being preachy, which I “LIke.” She sent **me** a friend request, weeks ago. For the life of me, I can’t place her. But she belongs to a couple “Groups” I’m a member of, so I thought we must have met during one of my “unmemories.” WTF? Maybe she’s cleaning house. But if so, why include me so recently and then dump me so soon? I tell myself not to feel rejected, but I have been. And I don’t know why. The social media can eat you up. I liked it better back when I couldn’t afford a telephone. ---
**Author:** ![Grumman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/43a26b/32.png) [@Grumman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grumman)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/2 "2011-12-11T08:05:55Z")
There are two types of people in the world: people who think Facebook politics are a big deal, and those who don’t. She’s probably just one of the latter. Don’t worry about it. ---
**Author:** ![Aspidistra](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspidistra/32/3894_2.png) [@Aspidistra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspidistra)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/3 "2011-12-11T08:15:05Z")
My brother unfriended me once (actually, I think he just canned his facebook account for a while) and I didn’t notice for three months. Just sayin’ 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/4 "2011-12-11T08:27:32Z")
Why not just ask her? FB gets wonky and it could have been unintentional. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/5 "2011-12-11T08:39:32Z")
Wait, am I supposed to care about people who stop following me on Twitter, too? This is all so complicated… ---
**Author:** ![Hilary\_Algar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilary_algar/32/4282_2.png) [@Hilary\_Algar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilary_Algar)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/6 "2011-12-11T13:01:59Z")
> [@Indygrrl](#): > > Why not just ask her? FB gets wonky and it could have been unintentional. Yes, try to contact this person who unfriended you. ---
**Author:** ![kiz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@kiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiz)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/7 "2011-12-11T13:40:00Z")
I was unintentionally dropped by someone I’d known online for many years. Turned out she’d tried to filter her FB friends and completely messed it up. Rule of thumb: The bigger one’s FB friends list, the less apt they’ll notice your absence. Or perhaps they have a disconnect between your online name vs. your RL name? That’s happened with me – I’ve been known to send PMs to people saying, “Hi, I’m Kiz from X”. I wouldn’t take it personally, OP. FB can be very flaky at times. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/8 "2011-12-11T13:41:03Z")
Are you one of those people who[acts like this](http://25pillsaday.wordpress.com/2011/12/04/15-things-white-girls-love-to-do-on-facebook/) on facebook? If so, that’s probably why. If not, she probably just realized she didn’t really know you after all. ---
**Author:** ![Labrador\_Deceiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7c8e57/32.png) [@Labrador\_Deceiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Labrador_Deceiver)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/9 "2011-12-11T13:48:33Z")
Has it occurred to you that she might be a total stranger who accidentally friended you, then realized her mistake? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/10 "2011-12-11T14:28:29Z")
Facebook has gotten so user unfriendly during the past 12 months that its actually annoying to use. Back before all the software fuckup-dates, Id say it could be any of the above. Now? Maybe she’s just throeing up her hands and saying,“to Hell with you all. And take Farmville with you!” ---
**Author:** ![The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Man_With_The_Golden_Gun)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/11 "2011-12-11T15:37:25Z")
The number one rule of Facebook is to not take anything that happens there personally. ---
**Author:** ![Katriona](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/katriona/32/113_2.png) [@Katriona](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Katriona)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/12 "2011-12-11T15:54:58Z")
It could be any number of things - an FB SNAFU, whatever, or I had a recent one where an old HS friend’s wife went off the deep end and de-friended and blocked all his female friends in a fit of (AFAIK unwarranted) jealousy. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/13 "2011-12-11T16:56:37Z")
My favorites are the people (usually women) who announce they are doing a big facebook scrub and defriending everyone. and you have to send her a message as to why you should be kept as a friend. The damnedest thing is that they will actually get replies begging “don’t unfriend me”. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/14 "2011-12-11T17:08:02Z")
Thanks, guys. I’ve slept on it and realize it doesn’t matter, although I will miss her posts. And about accidently Friending somebody…I did that myself. Same name, and the profile pic looked vaguely familiar—but wrong person! Now I don’t know how to discreetly tell her I don’t know her from Adam. lol But she has tons of Friends so maybe I can just be one of the crowd. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Kkrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Kkrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kkrose)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/15 "2011-12-11T18:00:14Z")
> [@astro](#): > > My favorites are the people (usually women) who announce they are doing a big facebook scrub and defriending everyone. and you have to send her a message as to why you should be kept as a friend. > > The damnedest thing is that they will actually get replies begging “don’t unfriend me”. And yet, even though I never reply to these pleas for attention, I ALWAYS make the cut. No matter how little I may know the person. Some how Jenny from summer camp deems me an important enough member of her friend group to keep me on her friends list, even without a written plea declaring her importance to my facebook life. ---
**Author:** ![Cinnamon\_Imp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58956e/32.png) [@Cinnamon\_Imp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cinnamon_Imp)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/16 "2011-12-11T19:25:09Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > And I don’t know why! Since I found the Straight Dope I’ve been way less controversial. Because I have a better voice here. > The hell of it is, I really enjoyed her posts. She has two grown sons, as do I. She’s slightly inspirational without being being preachy, which I “LIke.” > She sent **me** a friend request, weeks ago. For the life of me, I can’t place her. But she belongs to a couple “Groups” I’m a member of, so I thought we must have met during one of my “unmemories.” It sounds like she thought she knew you (maybe thought you were a different member of the group?) then when you accepted her request and she saw more of your photos/info, she realised you were a stranger and defriended you. No rejection intended, I’m sure! ---
**Author:** ![moejoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@moejoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moejoe)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/17 "2011-12-11T20:00:59Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > Thanks, guys. I’ve slept on it and realize it doesn’t matter, although I will miss her posts. > And about accidently Friending somebody…I did that myself. Same name, and the profile pic looked vaguely familiar—but wrong person! Now I don’t know how to discreetly tell her I don’t know her from Adam. lol But she has tons of Friends so maybe I can just be one of the crowd. :smack: Geez, you don’t have to discreetly tell her anything. Just unfriend her and move on. She won’t notice and if she did notice she wouldn’t care. These are not your real, actual friends, Facebook is really just one big collective blog. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/18 "2011-12-11T20:24:17Z")
Just don’t send her a friend-request after she has un-friended you. What kind of moron does this??😕 I’ve had this happen on more than one occasion. It just confirms to me that I did the right thing. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/19 "2011-12-11T21:27:17Z")
[QUOTE=Becky2844] For the life of me, I can’t place her. [/QUOTE] There’s your answer. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2011, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812/20 "2011-12-11T23:46:20Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > \ > > I tell myself not to feel rejected, but I have been. > And I don’t know why. > The social media can eat you up. > I liked it better back when I couldn’t afford a telephone. If it makes you feel any better, I have quite a few IRL friends and acquaintances on Facebook, and I refuse to “friend” any of them. (I have a faux Facebook account not in my real name, but don’t really do anything with it.) Several years ago I had a couple of blogs that I enjoyed keeping up. But I got caught up in the comment-gathering game, where you leave a comment on someone else’s blog so they’ll leave one on yours in return. After a while it got to be a really dumb, time-consuming game. Although I was following quite a few interesting blogs and communicating with some cool people online, it ended up being a real time-suck. Not that the Dope isn’t a time suck, but I don’t feel _obligated_ to post here. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/somebody-unfriended-me-on-facebook-last-night/605812.md?page=2)