# Someone anonymously emails you amateur porn featuring a family member. What do you do? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 22, 2016, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876 "2016-03-22T18:12:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/1 "2016-03-22T18:12:41Z")
Selfies can be a modern day problem. This [teacher got fired because she left her phone on her desk unattended](http://www.nola.com/education/index.ssf/2016/03/teacher_loses_job_after_studen.html) during a 4 minute school bell break. One of the students stole nudes she took for husband as a Valentine’s present. He posted them online. I guess eventually any of us could receive email featuring a family member sucking dick or taking a sausage for the team. Or perhaps, it might just be a few nude selfies. Now a decision has to be made. It’s a sticky dilemma. Do you. (choose all that apply) 1. delete the photo? 2. inform the person featured in the photo? 3. pretend you know and saw nothing? 4. examine the photo’s details very closely? 5. Share it with your friends and relatives? 6. Forward it to an authority figure (parent) 7. Other ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/2 "2016-03-22T18:21:48Z")
Pretend I never saw it. (Note that the particular incident the OP mentions was the subject of a [thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=785913) of its own, so it needn’t be discussed here.) ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/3 "2016-03-22T18:22:39Z")
I’d delete it for sure. Ignore it. I saw nothing! If it was a teenager or college student, I might call the parents. It depended on how well I knew them. What our relationship within the family was like. This would be a very difficult thing to do, > [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > Pretend I never saw it. > > (Note that the particular incident the OP mentions was the subject of a [thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=785913) of its own, so it needn’t be discussed here.) Agreed. I just wanted to show how easily selfies can get away from a person. It happens pretty frequently from unattended phones, email accounts etc. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/4 "2016-03-22T18:24:41Z")
It depends on my relationship to this person. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/5 "2016-03-22T18:36:03Z")
Delete it, tell them that a nude picture of them has escaped into the wild…give sympathy if they didn’t want it out…shrug and move on if they did deliberately release it. (This assumes, of course, it’s a picture of a relative who can legally appear in porn…) ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/6 "2016-03-22T18:52:50Z")
My answer would depend entirely upon who the family member was. I can guarantee it wouldn’t involve examining, sharing or jacking. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/7 "2016-03-22T19:42:20Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > My answer would depend entirely upon who the family member was. I can guarantee it wouldn’t involve examining, sharing or jacking. I didn’t expect anyone to select those three. But I assumed a comedian would eventually post and suggest them. So its better to just include the humorous ones in the poll. Phone selfie porn is a fairly new thing. But its similar to having a roommate. You unexpectedly come home early and see they’re in the bed with somebody. Most people would quietly leave and pretend they were never there. Return an hour later and make plenty off noise opening the door. Same etiquette applies to unwanted photos that you accidentally encounter. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/8 "2016-03-22T20:00:30Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > Phone selfie porn is a fairly new thing. But its similar to having a roommate. You unexpectedly come home early and see they’re in the bed with somebody. Most people would quietly leave and pretend they were never there. Return an hour later and make plenty off noise opening the door. Next poll: [You walk in and find a relative lying around naked, drunk off his ass. What do you do?](http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/1875/whats-up-with-the-biblical-story-of-drunken-noah-part-1) Pretend you saw nothing Discreetly cover him Tell your friends and relatives ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/9 "2016-03-22T20:06:50Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > Phone selfie porn is a fairly new thing. But its similar to having a roommate. You unexpectedly come home early and see they’re in the bed with somebody. Most people would quietly leave and pretend they were never there. Return an hour later and make plenty off noise opening the door. > > Same etiquette applies to unwanted photos that you accidentally encounter. Here’s why it’s different. Walking in on your roommate is a single point in time. There is no chance that someone will take the image from your mind and email it to all their friends, use it to blackmail or humiliate your roommate, or post it on social media. A selfie (or just a picture) can be passed out to the teeming hordes. The person deserves to know what is out there, so they aren’t caught by surprise. ---
**Author:** ![Whiskey\_Dickens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc348/32.png) [@Whiskey\_Dickens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whiskey_Dickens)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/10 "2016-03-22T20:23:29Z")
Squick harder than I’ve ever squicked before. Also, delete the photo and pretend it never happened. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/11 "2016-03-22T20:28:46Z")
Other: Wait for a private version of the poll 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/12 "2016-03-22T20:53:07Z")
Assuming the relative is of legal age, I would discreetly inform them that the picture had escaped into the wild. I would eventually delete it, but only after informing the person, in case it was needed to attempt to track down the sender. Though it’s likely that the person would already know where the leak was, anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/13 "2016-03-22T21:07:56Z")
Make it my wallpaper. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/14 "2016-03-22T23:05:26Z")
Whose family member? Mine, or the sender? ---
**Author:** ![Hail\_Ants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/dc4da7/32.png) [@Hail\_Ants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hail_Ants)\ **Post date:** [March 22, 2016, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/15 "2016-03-22T23:08:20Z")
That story in the OP about the teacher is outrageous. Not only did the teacher do nothing wrong the 16-year-old student should have been arrested and criminally charged. Even with the phone unlocked and even within the confines of a classroom she had a reasonable expectation of privacy. It’s no different than if the kid went into her purse, opened her wallet, and took the pic from there. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2016, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/16 "2016-03-23T01:11:42Z")
The student should have consequences, and probably will, but the authorities are not at liberty to discuss that, and so it doesn’t make it into the news story. The teacher, meanwhile, absolutely and unambiguously committed one firable offense, and may well have committed others. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2016, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/17 "2016-03-23T06:07:07Z")
Delete the photo, and try to bleach the image from my brain forever. I wouldn’t tell anyone. ---
**Author:** ![PatrickLondon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/patricklondon/32/4422_2.png) [@PatrickLondon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatrickLondon)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2016, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/18 "2016-03-23T08:31:42Z")
“Revenge porn” is a criminal offence in this country, so I would tell the person who appears to be a victim of it, so that they could get legal action going against the person who released it (clue, it might have been sent anonymously, but could only have been made and released by - one assumes - one of two people). Almost certainly, if it isn’t already part of a campaign of harassment that the person concerned knows about and needs help to stop, it soon will be, and, if not stopped, could lead to much worse. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2016, 10:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/19 "2016-03-23T10:15:34Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > I guess eventually any of us could receive email featuring a family member sucking dick or taking a sausage for the team. Or perhaps, it might just be a few nude selfies. Where are you from? ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2016, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876/20 "2016-03-23T15:55:38Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Where are you from? Mid South mostly but I lived in Massachusetts 6 years too. My dad was stationed there. Not sure why it matters. I was trying to find a less boring way to say “having sex” in the OP. BJ’s seem to be a very popular subject in “my girlfriend” porn. I find the photos very boring, but they are all over the web. Causing quite a bit of embarrassment for the lady. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-anonymously-emails-you-amateur-porn-featuring-a-family-member-what-do-you-do/749876.md?page=2)