# Someone Proposed To Me On My Lunch Hour **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 14, 2008, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322 "2008-04-14T17:02:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/21 "2008-04-15T16:53:34Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] God, what did I say? I killed the thread! [/QUOTE] You should show them the NRI parent-personals in _India Abroad_. That’d really leave them speechless. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/22 "2008-04-15T16:53:38Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] God, what did I say? I killed the thread! [/QUOTE] I was just thinking up a way to propose to you. You know, we could be in Vegas in like four hours… ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/23 "2008-04-15T17:03:35Z")
[QUOTE=tdn] I was just thinking up a way to propose to you. You know, we could be in Vegas in like four hours… [/QUOTE] I’d rather marry you. Honestly. You’re not going to make me have kids, you’re not going to expect me to kowtow to your mother, and I love Vegas. ---
**Author:** ![JSexton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/96bed5/32.png) [@JSexton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JSexton)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/24 "2008-04-15T17:33:28Z")
Then I now pronounce you man and wife. You may kiss the bride. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/25 "2008-04-15T17:34:44Z")
I suppose I could kiss her user name. Is there cake? I was told there’d be cake. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/26 "2008-04-15T17:48:00Z")
[QUOTE=tdn] I suppose I could kiss her user name. Is there cake? I was told there’d be cake. [/QUOTE] There’s pie. Someone came back and brought pie. 🙂 [sub]Is steak-and-kidney pie usual for this kind of thing?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/27 "2008-04-15T18:01:03Z")
[QUOTE=JSexton] Then I now pronounce you man and wife. You may kiss the bride. [/QUOTE] “By the power vested in me by the Overlords of the Interweb and the _Chicago Reader_…” ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/28 "2008-04-15T18:06:23Z")
I don’t like pie. Meat pie is OK though. Cake is good though. But I refuse to be “wife” if he is going to be “man”. I’m a modern woman and how come he gets to stay a man if I am subjugated to “wife?” :dubious: **Really Not All That Bright** , why do you read the personals in India Abroad? Are you looking for a wife? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/29 "2008-04-15T18:09:21Z")
I got nuttin’ to ad, except best wishes to \*\*Anaamika \*\*and **tdn**. Oh, yeah, and to **Pollux Oil** … cool user name! ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/30 "2008-04-15T18:18:33Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] I don’t like pie. Meat pie is OK though. Cake is good though. But I refuse to be “wife” if he is going to be “man”. I’m a modern woman and how come he gets to stay a man if I am subjugated to “wife?” :dubious: [/quote] The marriage forms in Ontario say Applicant and Joint Applicant. I suppose it’s an improvement. I tend to use the word ‘spouse’ in generic discussions. > [@Anaamika](#): > > **Really Not All That Bright** , why do you read the personals in India Abroad? Are you looking for a wife? 😃 The problem usually is, a wife is not looking for us. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/31 "2008-04-15T18:21:08Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] But I refuse to be “wife” if he is going to be “man”. I’m a modern woman and how come he gets to stay a man if I am subjugated to “wife?” [/QUOTE] Fine. I want a divorce. And then make up sex. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/32 "2008-04-15T18:26:17Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] **Really Not All That Bright** , why do you read the personals in India Abroad? Are you looking for a wife? 😃 [/QUOTE] Entertainment value. There’s just something deeply amusing about the way they shill their kids. For those who don’t know what we’re talking about, see [here](http://www.indiaabroad.com/CLASSIFIED/current-listing/2920.shtml) - they’re like regular personals, only you’re being listed by your parents, who pretty much invariably require their prospective in-law to be a doctor, lawyer or engineer. Preferably all of the above. I told my mother that if I ever found myself in one of those things I’d elope straightaway with the skankiest woman I could find. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/33 "2008-04-15T18:26:21Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally Posted by **tdn** > > _Fine. I want a divorce_. Does this mean you are single again? Because we could be in Vegas in 4 hours… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/34 "2008-04-15T18:27:30Z")
[QUOTE=pbbth] Does this mean you are single again? Because we could be in Vegas in 4 hours… 😃 [/QUOTE] Wait! Wait! Do I still have to bring the meat pie to the reception, or what? I’m so confused! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/35 "2008-04-15T18:28:01Z")
So I went on [shaadi.com](http://shaadi.com) to see if I could find youse guys any nice examples. First of all, you can filter the males by “age” “newest”, and lastly, _“height”_. Hee. Here is one. I deleted the name, I don’t want to embarrass the poor guy deliberately: > [@](#): > > This is a proposal for our son -----. ----- is a dynamic, active, caring and very professional. He has always excelled in career and won many honors. He is a responsible son and brother. He likes traveling, reading, computers, games and is a cricket fan. He is currently finishing his residency in US and has accepted an offer for a highly paying consultant physician’s position at Seattle. He is looking for a professional match with family values, who will be willing to stay long term in US or maybe move to India. And another: > [@](#): > > Thia is for Our son who is a handsome, tall, fun-loving young man & comes from a Hindu, Khatri, Punjabi family. He’s a very dynamic & friendly person. He’s an IITian. He has completed his BS, MS and PhD from top ten universities of USA and is now working with a top Investment Banking Firm in New York at a US $ high 6 figures annual income. He is an ambitious young man with entrepreneurial aptitude. > He appreciates the good things of life such as fine dining, literature (both fiction and non-fiction) and movies. He enjoys both English & Hindi movies, as well as foreign cinema from Europe and the Far East. He is also into adventure sports such as surfing, mountain hiking and camping. > > He also likes salsa dancing and wants to learn the tango in the future. His music tastes include Western music, such as classic rock, and Hindi film songs. He is really fond of U2, Guns N’ Roses and John Denver. He also likes Lucky Ali, Junoon, Silk Route, Alka Yagnik and other hindi artists. > He has a close circle of Indian and American friends. He is a family-oriented person, a great blend of the east & the west and is good at maintaining interpersonal relationships. Widely traveled in Europe, Middle East and the United States, he is a cultured, sophisticated person. He has clean habits and is a non-smoker. > > We are a Hindu respectable, progressive and very affectionate family of professionals & business persons. > > Looking for: > We are looking for a Beautiful, Slim, Well-educated, Affectionate & fun-loving, girl with Cheereful disposition & intellectual curiosity who knows to strike a good balance in professional life & family life. I can’t get anymore because I’m not a member. BTW, this is not to say all Indians are like this, or even that it’s wrong, necessarily. It’s just, raised in this country, this kind of stuff is so alien to even me. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/36 "2008-04-15T18:31:00Z")
Does ‘family values’ mean the same thing it does in the US and to some degree Canada: code for ‘conservative religious values’? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/37 "2008-04-15T18:31:37Z")
Hmm. Many of those ads in India Abroad ask for a Punjabi Khatri or a JatSikh. Well, I know what a Jat is, I know what a Sikh is, and Punjabi, but even I am not sure what a Khatri is. Ah. Looking on Wiki, it’s the Punjabi adaptation of the old Hindu word Kshatriya, so warrior caste. I wonder what they think of mixed caste girls like myself? Probably they spit on the ground to ward off evil. 😃 ETA: **Sunspace** , yes. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/38 "2008-04-15T18:35:25Z")
[QUOTE=Sunspace] Does ‘family values’ mean the same thing it does in the US and to some degree Canada: code for ‘conservative religious values’? [/QUOTE] Nah. To them (“us”, to some extent, I suppose) it has more to do with maintaining close ties with family; if you married me, and my mother lived in India, you’d be expected to put up with her for _long_ visits- as in six months long. > [@](#): > > Ah. Looking on Wiki, it’s the Punjabi adaptation of the old Hindu word Kshatriya, so warrior caste. I wonder what they think of mixed caste girls like myself? Probably they spit on the ground to ward off evil. My family is “pure” Brahmin stock. Imagine the scandal when my brother married a _gasp_ _white woman_! Actually, nobody in the family was bothered at all. They’re all remarkably progressive, even by Western standards. My mother’s med-school friends, though… ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/39 "2008-04-15T18:37:57Z")
[QUOTE=Really Not All That Bright] Nah. To them (“us”, to some extent, I suppose) it has more to do with maintaining close ties with family; if you married me, and my mother lived in India, you’d be expected to put up with her for _long_ visits- as in six months long. [/QUOTE] That is conservative religious values, though. One of our highest “commandments”, for lack of a better word, is respect your parents and your spouse’s parents. As for religion, well, you’re pretty much expected to change to your in-laws. If you were a Krishna devotee at home, and they worship Shiva, well, guess what. Better get the milk out (to pour over the shiv-ling). ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2008, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322/40 "2008-04-15T18:40:28Z")
[QUOTE=pbbth] Does this mean you are single again? Because we could be in Vegas in 4 hours… 😃 [/QUOTE] Great, let’s go. You _can_ support me, right? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/someone-proposed-to-me-on-my-lunch-hour/445322.md?page=3)