# Something I've never heard from a 9/11 survivor **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 11, 2013, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609 "2013-09-11T22:54:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/1 "2013-09-11T22:54:47Z")
To this day, I have never heard of a 9/11 widow(er) who said something like, “We weren’t happy. If s/he was still alive, I know we would be divorced now.” I’m sure that SOME of those 9/11 victims were not well liked by those who knew them, too, and not just the hijackers. This obituary made me think of that. > **[This Brutal Obituary Is a Reminder to Be Good to Your Children](https://www.gawker.com/this-brutal-obituary-is-a-reminder-to-be-good-to-your-c-1286582748?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow)** > > Marianne Theresa Johnson-Reddick, born January 4, 1935, died last month, to the relief and comfort of the children whom she spent a lifetime (in their words) "torturing in every way possible." Those children, now grown, marked her passing by... ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/2 "2013-09-11T22:56:54Z")
When is the last time you heard anyone speak ill of the dead in public? It just isn’t done. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/3 "2013-09-11T23:06:49Z")
Even if some survivor/widow/widower/whatever said that I very much doubt it would be repeated by the media because it doesn’t fit the commonly accepted narrative that has grown up around the event. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/4 "2013-09-12T00:22:36Z")
I think most people have people they don’t like, yet at the same time don’t wish a painful, senseless, violent death for them. There’s a fairly enormous chasm between “I was thinking about divorce” or “that guy’s an asshole” and “I’m glad he was vaporized/melted/exploded on impact.” You can not be besties and still grieve that they died, and the way they died. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/5 "2013-09-12T05:04:21Z")
It’d be like a football player saying “God wanted my team to lose.” It actually has happened, but, damn, it’s rare! ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/6 "2013-09-12T05:43:49Z")
You just don’t say things like that about the dead. It makes you look like a jerk even if it’s true. ---
**Author:** ![madrabbitwoman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c37758/32.png) [@madrabbitwoman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madrabbitwoman)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/7 "2013-09-12T09:55:18Z")
It’s not like they can defend themselves ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/something-ive-never-heard-from-a-9-11-survivor/668609/8 "2013-09-12T12:44:09Z")
> [@madrabbitwoman](#): > > It’s not like they can defend themselves We obviously watch different movies.