# Sometimes dating is bizarre **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 23, 2012, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716 "2012-04-23T17:47:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/1 "2012-04-23T17:47:11Z")
Went out with a guy two times. Both times were perfectly pleasant. He called me after the second date, seemed very enthusiastic about everything, said “Let’s talk about our next date tomorrow!” Texted him a “howdy” the following day, and his response was “you have to f\*ck off now.” So SOMETHING happened in ~12 hours, and I don’t really care what it was, but I was definitely taken aback by the… uh… abruptness of that response. Could you not just pleasantly decline to converse further?!? People, I swear! ---
**Author:** ![Bootis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e8c25b/32.png) [@Bootis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bootis)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/2 "2012-04-23T17:59:13Z")
His girlfriend got ahold of his phone. ---
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/3 "2012-04-23T18:02:59Z")
Yeah actually I thought the same thing. That’s never happened to me before! ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/4 "2012-04-23T18:05:45Z")
I’m sure that’s it. He was cheating and she saw your text; or a very petty “friend” who wants more from him decided to chase you away. Either way, be glad to be rid of him quickly. The less time wasted, the better. ---
**Author:** ![Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackknifed_Juggernaut)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/5 "2012-04-23T18:06:08Z")
> [@amaguri](#): > > Yeah actually I thought the same thing. That’s never happened to me before! Hmmm…did you do anything with him during/after the 2nd date that you didn’t during/after the first date? ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_fun_ball/32/17664_2.png) [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/6 "2012-04-23T18:06:24Z")
I bet his ex-girlfriend or someone similar got a hold of his phone. I would wait 6 hours and then text back a “WTF? Why the hostility?” to see if it was actually him. ---
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/7 "2012-04-23T18:08:26Z")
> [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](#): > > Hmmm…did you do anything with him during/after the 2nd date that you didn’t during/after the first date? Nope, there was no contact at all between the end of the previous phone call, which ended on a totally pleasant note, and my “howdy” text. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/8 "2012-04-23T18:12:44Z")
Maybe he really hates the word “howdy.” ---
**Author:** ![Darryl\_Lict](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7cd45c/32.png) [@Darryl\_Lict](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darryl_Lict)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/9 "2012-04-23T18:15:16Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Maybe he really hates the word “howdy.” Yeah, he was probably molested by a cowboy. ---
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/10 "2012-04-23T18:15:28Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Maybe he really hates the word “howdy.” too breezy? lol… i’ll make a note of it for future texting 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![SnakeBabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@SnakeBabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakeBabe)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/11 "2012-04-23T18:16:05Z")
I’d think the GF or wife found the phone too ---
**Author:** ![Bootis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e8c25b/32.png) [@Bootis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bootis)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/12 "2012-04-23T18:16:13Z")
> [@amaguri](#): > > Nope, there was no contact at all between the end of the previous phone call, which ended on a totally pleasant note, and my “howdy” text. Another possible explanation- since his message was “you have to fuck off _NOW_”, directly after you texted “howdy”… maybe he really liked you,but then you said howdy, and that was a deal breaker for him for some reason. Maybe he was beaten as a child while watching howdy doody, or maybe he doesn’t know what that word means and interpreted it as a racist slur or an insult to his penis size. edit: beat to it by **Vinyl Turnip** ---
**Author:** ![Push\_You\_Down](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/push_you_down/32/9095_2.png) [@Push\_You\_Down](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Push_You_Down)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/13 "2012-04-23T18:40:05Z")
Maybe you came up as an unidentified number on his phone. He thought it was someone else. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/14 "2012-04-23T18:43:25Z")
Wow, I say howdy all the fucking time. This is an outrage. In fact, it is my default “hello.” No I am not from the south, I just like it. It sounds friendly/happy/cheery. I think you should text him back and ask him why he was so rude. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/15 "2012-04-23T18:53:38Z")
> [@amaguri](#): > > too breezy? lol… i’ll make a note of it for future texting 🙂 Don’t use the word [breezy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3naHw5ct60g#t=1m0s) either, that totally negates the breezy. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/16 "2012-04-23T19:22:49Z")
The issue isn’t the words you used (I do realize people are joking about that); the issue is that either he is a nutcase, or he has a nutcase in his life with access to his phone. I would give him one chance (maybe he didn’t realize his ex-girlfriend was messing with his phone while he was in the bathroom) and ask him for an explanation for the rude, abrupt email, and then go from there. ---
**Author:** ![Corcaigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Corcaigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Corcaigh)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/17 "2012-04-23T19:35:18Z")
> [@Push\_You\_Down](#): > > Maybe you came up as an unidentified number on his phone. He thought it was someone else. This is a possibility, someone mistook my number for her sisters number and replied to a text with TMI about her date the night before… gawd that was embarrassing! ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2012, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/18 "2012-04-23T20:25:10Z")
Sometimes?!?! It’s been a long time for me, but I assume things haven’t gotten any easier. ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2012, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sometimes-dating-is-bizarre/619716/19 "2012-04-24T14:23:26Z")
Dating gets strange when the other person’s spouse gets involved. I hate when that happens. 😛