# Song ID: She doesn't want me **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 7, 2009, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267 "2009-12-07T01:58:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/1 "2009-12-07T01:58:02Z")
I’ve got this song in my head, but I can’t think of the name. The refrain is something like, ‘She don’t want me… She doesn’t need me… She doesn’t want me… Anymore.’ Some Alternative song, I think. I may even have it – but I’m not looking through 3000+ tracks to find out. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/2 "2009-12-07T03:26:16Z")
That might be “She Don’t Know Me” by a very early Bon Jovi. “She don’t know me…She don’t need me…She doesn’t even know my name.” 1984 or 1985, IIRC. ETA: [Is this it?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BX_JS7xnT0c) ---
**Author:** ![rolandgunslinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/cdc98d/32.png) [@rolandgunslinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rolandgunslinger)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/3 "2009-12-07T03:38:52Z")
> [@Rilchiam](#): > > That might be “She Don’t Know Me” by a very early Bon Jovi. “She don’t know me…She don’t need me…She doesn’t even know my name.” 1984 or 1985, IIRC. ETA: [Is this it?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BX_JS7xnT0c) You beat me to it! Bon Jovi was the first thing to pop in my head.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/4 "2009-12-07T04:03:35Z")
No, not Bon Jovi. Way too upbeat. ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/5 "2009-12-07T04:17:03Z")
I tried a few variations of the lyrics you provided on [SongMeanings.net](http://SongMeanings.net) and got the following: Beck’s “Gettin’ Home”: \* tell my baby I’m gettin’ home now tell my baby I’m gettin’ home she don’t need me I don’t need me who’s gonna need me?\* Neurotic Outsiders’ “Jerk”: _She don’t love me, she don’t want me I’m so blind, I’m so fucking blind She’s blown away my mind, she’s blown away my stupid mind_ Sore Eros’ “And You I Am”: \* I said I love you You said I love you Priceless words such don’t lie You let our time just fly by And you don’t comprehend Comprehend My feelings for you She don’t care bout me She don’t want me \* ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/6 "2009-12-07T04:20:57Z")
Not that one either. Guy has a low voice. At the end of the line there’s a slight pause, then ‘Anymore’. ---
**Author:** ![stpauler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@stpauler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stpauler)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/7 "2009-12-07T04:23:46Z")
Is it [Peter Cetera?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bZ2iA7Fl8c) Or Gym Class Heroes [Coming Clean?](http://www.google.com/url?q=http://popup.lala.com/popup/360569505298744142&ei=x4IcS4KZHpKKMf-GxesC&sa=X&oi=music_play_track&resnum=1&ct=result&cd=2&ved=0CAgQ0wQoADAA&usg=AFQjCNHCchRPnC8E7QQf3GV9nUK_xYusKg) ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/8 "2009-12-07T04:38:03Z")
Nope. None of those. How about this? Go here: [with JavaScript Piano: Musipedia Melody Search Engine](http://www.musipedia.org/js_piano.html#x) Enter these notes: f’4. f’4. g’4. d’‘4. f’4. f’4. g’4. d’‘4. f’4. f’4. g’4. d’‘4. f’4. d’‘4. c’'4. That’s the progression, though the tempo is off. The tempo is like: One-two-three, Four One-two-three, Four One-two-three, Four One, two, threeee. ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/9 "2009-12-07T06:38:15Z")
I want to do a post participle future tense of to be… She never wanted me, She never needed me, She never wanted; she never got me, Nevermore. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/10 "2009-12-07T07:12:19Z")
“Sunshine” by Kenny Rogers? [third song](http://www.lala.com/#song/1657606151122452909) ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/11 "2009-12-07T08:17:06Z")
I don’t mean to hijack, but your post gives me a perfect segue. You intrigue me, **ZJJ**. I hope you are comfortable with me abbreviating your name. I am sorry for not replying to your PM, but I am unsure. Once bitten… Anyways, I propose this question for you and other lady dopers… Are you [Lucille](http://www.lala.com/#search/kenny%20rogers%20lucille) or [Ruby](http://www.lala.com/#search/kenny%20rogers%20ruby)? Who are you? Wonder what the cuckolds were named? ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/12 "2009-12-07T08:43:46Z")
It doesn’t happen to mention that the woman in question dances on the sand, just like that river twisting through the dusty land? ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/13 "2009-12-07T14:53:36Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > “Sunshine” by Kenny Rogers? [third song](http://www.lala.com/#song/1657606151122452909) Definitely not Kenny Rogers. I tend to listen to ‘Alternative’ radio. In L.A. I listened to ‘Commercial Alternative’ (i.e., not really ‘Alternative’, but not Britney Spears either). Up here I listen to a college station. I don’t remember when or where I last heard the song. The melody is like what you can hear on the musipedia link, and the singer has a low voice. Sounds pretty melancholy. ---
**Author:** ![koufax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7ea924/32.png) [@koufax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koufax)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/14 "2009-12-07T15:52:49Z")
> [@Johnny\_L.A](#): > > I’ve got this song in my head, but I can’t think of the name. The refrain is something like, ‘She don’t want me… She doesn’t need me… She doesn’t want me… Anymore.’ Some Alternative song, I think. I may even have it – but I’m not looking through 3000+ tracks to find out. This is what I thought of: [http://popup.lala.com/popup/576742249013792217](http://popup.lala.com/popup/576742249013792217) ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/15 "2009-12-07T17:07:04Z")
No, this is a more modern tune. Probably '90s. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/16 "2009-12-07T17:28:35Z")
> [@devilsknew](#): > > I don’t mean to hijack, but your post gives me a perfect segue. You intrigue me, **ZJJ**. I hope you are comfortable with me abbreviating your name. I am sorry for not replying to your PM, but I am unsure. Once bitten… > > Anyways, I propose this question for you and other lady dopers… > > Are you [Lucille](http://www.lala.com/#search/kenny%20rogers%20lucille) or [Ruby](http://www.lala.com/#search/kenny%20rogers%20ruby)? Who are you? > > Wonder what the cuckolds were named? Erm, I have no idea what you’re talking about with the PMs…but shame on you for ignoring me!!! Boo!! I’m loyal like a dog. I’m not leaving anyone at the wrong time nor am I getting hussied up to go out to town. I’m more “Dear Prudence” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/17 "2009-12-07T17:33:52Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > **I’m loyal like a dog**. . . I’m more “Dear Prudence” 🙂 Or [Iggy . . .](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbLRf0j80wU) ---
**Author:** ![deathawk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ed8c4c/32.png) [@deathawk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/deathawk)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/18 "2009-12-07T22:35:06Z")
I think you are misremembering the lyric slightly. Pretty sure this is: “They Don’t Want Me” from “Call of the West” by Wall of Voodoo. Album: > **[Wall of Voodoo - Call of the West Album Reviews, Songs & More | AllMusic](https://www.allmusic.com/album/call-of-the-west-mw0000192252)** > > Discover Call of the West by Wall of Voodoo released in 1982. Find album reviews, track lists, credits, awards and more at AllMusic. Lyrics: > **[They Don't Want Me lyrics by Wall Of Voodoo - original song full text....](https://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/w/wall_of_voodoo/they_dont_want_me.html)** > > Original lyrics of They Don't Want Me song by Wall Of Voodoo. Explain your version of song meaning, find more of Wall Of Voodoo lyrics. Watch official video, print or download text in PDF. Comment and share your favourite lyrics. The repeated chorus of the song is: “They don’t want me They used to want me But they don’t want me Anymore” Stan has the low voice you are looking for, and this song (like many by WoV) is downbeat. There is a strong, steady beat that doesn’t really change through out the entire song. Alternative Radio is probably the only place this song would ever get airplay. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [December 7, 2009, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/song-id-she-doesnt-want-me/520267/19 "2009-12-07T23:50:39Z")
> [@deathawk](#): > > I think you are misremembering the lyric slightly. Pretty sure this is: > > “They Don’t Want Me” from “Call of the West” by Wall of Voodoo. :smack: Of course! And indeed, it is on my iPod. I used listen to albums all the way through. Nowadays I use Shuffle most of the time, and when I hear songs they are out of context. Thanks.