# Songs where one person stops loving another person **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [January 8, 2019, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432 "2019-01-08T22:45:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![lingyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@lingyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lingyi)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/81 "2019-01-10T04:59:28Z")
_I’ve Never Been To Me_ - Charlene These two are not 100% clear that it was a loveless relationship / ending _I’m Not Lisa_ - Jessi Colter _Sylvia’s Mother_ - Dr. Hook & The Medicine Show ---
**Author:** ![PatrickLondon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/patricklondon/32/4422_2.png) [@PatrickLondon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatrickLondon)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/82 "2019-01-10T06:08:56Z")
Send In The Clowns? [https://youtu.be/nTgJh6Qlm7w](https://youtu.be/nTgJh6Qlm7w) ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/83 "2019-01-10T06:31:06Z")
Paul Simon 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover > [@](#): > > The problem is all inside your head she said to me > The answer is easy if you take it logically > I’d like to help you in your struggle to be free > There must be fifty ways to leave your lover > > She said it’s really not my habit to intrude > Furthermore, I hope my meaning won’t be lost or misconstrued > But I’ll repeat myself at the risk of being crude > There must be fifty ways to leave your lover > Fifty ways to leave your lover > > You just slip out the back, Jack > Make a new plan, Stan ---
**Author:** ![Melbourne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Melbourne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melbourne)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/84 "2019-01-10T11:08:07Z")
Requiring only a small assumption: _Left standing in the lurch At a church were people saying, My God, that’s tough She stood him up No point in us remaining We may as well go home As I did on my own_ [Alone again, naturally](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_P-v1BVQn8) ---
**Author:** ![RobDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f07891/32.png) [@RobDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RobDog)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/85 "2019-01-10T11:32:40Z")
I’m probably in a set consisting of one, but I’ve always found the following couplet from Public Image Ltd’s Flowers of Romance to be the most efficient ever written to signal one person’s lack of love for another: I bought you flowers You wanted chocolates instead the song also ends with a pair of lines which equally efficiently encapsulate ennui, defeat and disillusionment: I’ll take the furniture Start all over again The rest of the lyrics are pretty opaque though. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/86 "2019-01-10T15:11:41Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Stones: It’s All Over Now > > Written by Bobby Womack / Shirley Womack, whoever they were. Are you saying you don’t know who Bobby Womack was? Or that there are additional unknown writers and/or writers named “whoever they are”? Either way, surprising. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/87 "2019-01-10T15:24:32Z")
You’re All I Need - Mötley Crüe It’s a joke, but it fits, and it’s even a got a good backstory: > [@](#): > > Convinced his girlfriend at the time had been cheating on him with actor Jack Wagner, who was then enjoying a taste of pop stardom with his hit single “All I Need,” Sixx wrote his own song — then played it for his ex. “I took the cassette over to her apartment and I didn’t say anything. I just had a little cassette player and I just played it for her, and she started crying, and I walked out the door,” he later told Rolling Stone. “I was like, ‘Well now, that’s that.’” > **[Why Motley Crue's ‘You’re All I Need’ Was Banned by MTV](https://ultimateclassicrock.com/motley-crue-youre-all-i-need/)** > > Motley Crue's ‘You’re All I Need’ was banned by MTV in October 1987. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/88 "2019-01-10T15:29:47Z")
[Take These Chains From My Heart](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdtSxT_R6C4), Hank Williams > [@](#): > > Take these chains from my heart and set me free > You’re grow cold and no longer care for me > All my faith in you is gone but the heartaches linger on > Take these chains from my heart and set me free ---
**Author:** ![Folacin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/folacin/32/3195_2.png) [@Folacin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Folacin)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/89 "2019-01-10T16:23:19Z")
> [@lingyi](#): > > _Escape (The Piña Colada Song)_ - Rupert Holmes I don’t think this one counts - he was looking to leave his woman, but then discovered they had shared interests. One assumes that they had never talked to each before. > [@lingyi](#): > > Wayne Newton - _Daddy Don’t You Walk So Fast_ - A father is leaving his daughter behind at the airport But he doesn’t leave her - he goes back to his wife to give it another try because of his daughter. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/90 "2019-01-10T16:39:24Z")
> [@aceplace57](#): > > Paul Simon 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover This song has been mentioned at least 3 times before this post, but does it really fit the criteria? It’s one person telling another person how to leave a relationship, not one person falling out of love with another. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/91 "2019-01-10T16:47:13Z")
_Fairytale of New York_ by the Pogues > [@](#): > > Happy Christmas your arse > I pray God it’s our last ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/92 "2019-01-10T16:57:41Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > _Fairytale of New York_ by the Pogues I have been told more than once by the English, usually on or about Christmastime, that this is a beautiful love song. Also, they aren’t breaking up or falling out of love. ---
**Author:** ![Marlonius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Marlonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marlonius)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/93 "2019-01-10T17:55:58Z")
I don’t think I’ve seen “If You Could Read My Mind” by Gordon Lightfoot mentioned yet. Written while he was separating from his wife, it expresses the point of view of a guy who’s out of love, but wishes he wasn’t, but also can’t explain any of that. I’m in a happy marriage and it almost moves me to tears each time, the poor bastard. ---
**Author:** ![Dallas\_Jones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dallas_jones/32/3277_2.png) [@Dallas\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dallas_Jones)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/94 "2019-01-10T18:54:09Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > _Yesterday_ seems like it’s about lost love, not love that stopped. The best song from The Beatles for the OP subject is “For No One” Partial lyrics. Your day breaks, your mind aches You find that all the words of kindness linger on When she no longer needs you She wakes up, she makes up She takes her time and doesn’t feel she has to hurry She no longer needs you And in her eyes you see nothing No sign of love behind the tears Cried for no one A love that should have lasted years! ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/95 "2019-01-10T18:57:44Z")
If you include any breakup songs, you will list about half the songs that exist. If you want one where people just fall out of love, I would suggest [It’s Too Late](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkKxmnrRVHo) by Carole King. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2019, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/96 "2019-01-10T19:25:09Z")
Christina Perri, “Jar of Hearts”: [Jar of Hearts - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tbMI5bzVv8A) Missy Higgins, “Where I Stood”: [Where I Stood - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0qRb7KTm6U) Brad Paisley, “I’m Gonna Miss Her”: [I'm Gonna Miss Her - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j33QPebaxe4) Toby Keith and Merle Haggard, “She Ain’t Hooked On Me”: [She Ain't Hooked On Me No More - YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjczzCI5qG4) ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2019, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/97 "2019-01-11T00:07:42Z")
Yet another that comes to mind: “Knowing Me, Knowing You” by ABBA. ---
**Author:** ![Periwinkle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Periwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Periwinkle)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2019, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/98 "2019-01-11T01:01:21Z")
Here Comes Goodbye by Rascal Flatts Broken Dreams by Patti Austin Her Town Too by James Taylor I Heard it Through the Grapevine by Marvin Gaye We Are Never Getting Back Together by Taylor Swift Neon Moon by Brooks & Dunn Smoking Gun by The Robert Cray Band Misunderstanding by Genesis How Long by Ace Any Day Now by Ronnie Milsap Trying to Get the Feeling Again by Barry Manilow ---
**Author:** ![Periwinkle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Periwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Periwinkle)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2019, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/99 "2019-01-11T01:14:25Z")
This one is a beautiful song that may apply, but some of the lyrics are a bit confusing… “Thoigh you’re someone in this world that I’ll always choose to love, from now on you’re only someone that I used to love”. But the rest of the song makes it clear it’s over. Someone That I Used to Love by Natalie Cole: [![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/H89_X3v0c9g/maxresdefault.jpg "Natalie Cole - Someone That I Used To Love") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H89_X3v0c9g) ---
**Author:** ![Gray\_Ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c0e974/32.png) [@Gray\_Ghost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gray_Ghost)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2019, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432/100 "2019-01-11T01:34:49Z")
Since Send In The Clowns got mentioned already, and it’s a beautiful example of what the OP was looking for, here instead is a humorous song from Horton Heat about dealing with property division in the aftermath: Galaxy 500. [http://www.metrolyrics.com/galaxy-500-lyrics-reverend-horton-heat.html](http://www.metrolyrics.com/galaxy-500-lyrics-reverend-horton-heat.html) > [@](#): > > You have a thang he’s just a friend > I can’t believe that this is the end > But things aint so bad > Cause I got a Galaxy 500 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/songs-where-one-person-stops-loving-another-person/827432.md?page=6)