# "Sorry, but I don't feel any physical attraction for you." **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 6, 2006, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653 "2006-09-06T16:32:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/61 "2006-09-09T20:05:20Z")
[QUOTE=delphica] But it does make me wonder if there is a bit of a Catch-22 _for some people_ … being turned down for a date isn’t fun (as I know), so the same man who thought “thanks but no thanks” was too vague would have also thought “thanks, but no thanks, I’m not feeling the attaction” was too blunt. [/QUOTE] Just like many woman will say, “I would love nothing more than for a nice guy to ask me out when I am in the market” and “I hate it when creeps try to hit on my when I’m shopping.” ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/62 "2006-09-09T20:10:44Z")
“Sorry… you’re nice and all, but I’m only into good-looking men.” ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/63 "2006-09-09T20:35:11Z")
[QUOTE=jsgoddess] Again, I don’t understand why she “clarified” her position later. How was your discontent with her answer brought to her attention? [/QUOTE] Basically, I said something like “Sorry to hear about that. I know that people have their preferences” or words to that effect. Nothing big. ---
**Author:** ![JThunder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e95f7d/32.png) [@JThunder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JThunder)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/64 "2006-09-09T20:37:45Z")
In other words, my discontent was NOT brought to her attention. I didn’t tell her that I thought she was being rude. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/65 "2006-09-09T20:47:17Z")
[QUOTE=JThunder] In other words, my discontent was NOT brought to her attention. I didn’t tell her that I thought she was being rude. [/QUOTE] Well, unless she saw the post at the forum. I think what this thread demonstrates is that there is no surefire way to turn someone down. I think saying “I’m not attracted to you” is an clear, non-insulting way. Perhaps there should be a list of acceptable statements that both parties agree to beforehand! ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/66 "2006-09-09T20:53:51Z")
[QUOTE=jsgoddess] I think what this thread demonstrates is that there is no surefire way to turn someone down. I think saying “I’m not attracted to you” is an clear, non-insulting way. Perhaps there should be a list of acceptable statements that both parties agree to beforehand! [/QUOTE] I emailed my pictures to a women who I thought put it very well. She said, “thanks for your interest but I tend to be drawn to men of a different type.” I wrote her back and said, “Nicely put. Do you mind if I use that?” ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2006, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653/67 "2006-09-09T21:00:31Z")
[QUOTE=hajario] I emailed my pictures to a women who I thought put it very well. She said, “thanks for your interest but I tend to be drawn to men of a different type.” I wrote her back and said, “Nicely put. Do you mind if I use that?” [/QUOTE] Yes, I like that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sorry-but-i-dont-feel-any-physical-attraction-for-you/371653.md?page=3)