I’m responding to this thread because I was asked, privately, to do so. Frankly, I might have a hard time of it, because the ignorance displayed here is thick, deep, and steaming. And it’s pissing me off.
Looks like my task for the day is fighting ignorance. I think it’s going to be an uphill battle. But feel free to ask me questions. I think I’m pretty well-versed on the subject.
That is not to say that I’m any sort of expert. I just haven’t logged the hours sarging the babes, partly because, by using a very small number of these techniques, I’ve managed to meet the most wonderful woman in the universe. Yes, I’ve manipulated her into a fantastic relationship. How oogy of me!
But I’ve read Mystery’s book, as well as looking at products of a handful of other dating gurus. My favorite is David DeAngelo, because his stuff really speaks to me, and most closely aligns with my sense of ethics. Most of what I’ll post is from that perspective.
So let’s fight some ignorance here.
-It’s not about manipulation. It’s about stopping being manipulative. What do you think buying flowers is all about? Or telling a woman that she’s beautiful? Dating technique is ultimately about being more direct, more honest, and more forthright. Some of the techniques may seem counter-intuitive at first, until you understand why and how they work.
-Women are all shrinking flowers who would never lie, manipulate, or test, right? Bullshit. Women test men all the time, and it’s largely subconscious. A huge lot of pickup technique is learning how to pass those tests.
-Pickup technique is not about tricking women into sleeping with you. It’s about putting your best foot forward in order to make a good impression. It’s not about taking something from a woman – it’s about giving something to her. It’s about not being the same old boring loser that she’s used to, but about giving her what she really wants – a clued in guy who knows how to turn her on.
When I was on my third date with my GF, I decided to confess to her that I was studying these materials. I wasn’t sure how she’d respond to it. Would she think it was “oogy”? As it turns out, her response was “Hallelujah!” I think she felt lucky to finally meet a guy who actually had a clue about how to treat her. She found it a refreshing change.
-Kino is something that happens naturally in the dating world. We all do it. Unless you are of the belief that one should go from hello straight to fucking (and that’s not creepy?), normally there will be some kissing, preceded by hugging, preceded by hand holding. Yes, these are tests. So fucking what? Isn’t it better to test each other for mutual interest rather than diving straight into sex?
Kino tests are NORMAL.
-Getting past the bitch shield is just a fact of life. Most really attractive women are used to getting hit on many times every day. It’s an understandable defense. In my experience, most women welcome a come-on that’s sincere, original, and flattering. It’s the barrage of bore that turns most women off.
-The word “pathetic” is being thorwn about a lot. OK, maybe it’s pathetic to give beautiful women mind-blowing orgasms. Guess what’s even more pathetic? How about NOT giving beautiful women mind-blowing orgasms?
-It’s great to say “just be yourself.” The problem is, for many people, just being themselves doesn’t get results. How about realizing your full potential? That’s really what it’s all about.
I’m happy to answer any burning questions you may have on the topic. You have but to ask. But please, leave your negativity and judgements out of it.