# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 14
**Author:** ![Spit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@Spit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spit)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/261 "2003-04-09T05:11:33Z")
I hear ya **Metal** …I’ve only had one g/f who had braces, and that was one too many. Sweet girl too. FTR, that was a “bad” sensation. ---
**Author:** ![\_etalhea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/779978/32.png) [@\_etalhea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_etalhea)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/262 "2003-04-09T06:06:48Z")
If I had known when I was 16 that one day I would say “No thanks, we’ll skip the head”, I probably would have offed myself. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/263 "2003-04-09T06:10:01Z")
Y’know… there was another option you needed: gargle. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Spit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@Spit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spit)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/264 "2003-04-09T06:21:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by //\etalhea|) \* > \*\*If I had known when I was 16 that one day I would say “No thanks, we’ll skip the head”, I probably would have offed myself. \*\* Well, eventually mine got better at it, and I developed a thicker skin. (literally) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/265 "2003-04-09T10:57:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sapphire Wolf \* > **I’m not sure. It just…it doesn’t do anything for me except incite a small bit of panic and a larger amount of annoyance. And it really kills the mood for me.** _One unsweetened iced tea, no lemon_ If you don’t mind some friendly advice from your neighborhood bartender, maybe you should spend some time analyzing your feelings towards it, to see if you can figure out why you feel that way. I can guarantee your hubby would like to know. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/266 "2003-04-09T11:18:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by //\etalhea|) \* > \*\*And No, there is no head for the Metal Man. I tried, I really did (and she always swallows btw). Even tho she pulls her teeth back as much as possible, there’s a lot of loose skin on a penis, and some of it inevitably pushes up against her teeth and touches metal. It’s in general just an uncomfortable sensation, and once or twice there was a full-fledged ouchie! \*\* Well, there are those retractable teeth Margo was talking about. Ain’t evolution a wonderful thing? I would suggest it may be a matter of technique. I know other guys don’t find it necessary to completely forgo head when their GFs get braces. The loose skin can be pulled back, so it’s out of the way, which is a common technique for increasing sensation, anyway. And, I believe she should be able to wrap her lips over her teeth in such a way as to prevent contact. It would probably take a bit of practice, but if she’s careful (and willing), I’m sure it can be done. Bear in mind that this may be uncomfortable for _her_, initially, so be supportive, if she’s willing to give it a try. It may feel completely different, but it should still feel good. > [@](#): > > \*\*Plus, we’re in a big argument because I thought she was absolutely beautiful with an overbite. That surely argument won’t help me get head. But that’s a whole other thread that I’ll never start. \*\* See? You were SO close. If you’d stopped at, “I don’t think you need braces. You’re beautiful the way you are.”, you woulda been golden. Any woman looking to “improve” her appearance wants support for her decision, not an argument. _Have another beer, on me, and think it over._ ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/267 "2003-04-09T11:26:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mockingbird \* > \*\*Y’know… there was another option you needed: gargle. 😃 \*\* Well, that is sort of an option, but it leads to one of the two we _are_ discussing. But, I guess if you want to share your opinion on the topic, it would be okay. **Mods** ; if you feel this goes too far, I’d appreciate it if you’d just give us a warning, rather than just locking down the thread. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/268 "2003-04-09T11:27:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Spit \* > \*\*Well, eventually mine got better at it, and I developed a thicker skin. (literally) \*\* Was that thickening permanent? ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/269 "2003-04-09T13:34:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **😃 It _does_ hold one’s attention, doesn’t it? _Pours a Bud Light for the lady. Do you prefer a big head on it?_** 😃 > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \ ***Hey, in my book, a woman who gives head AND chose Dolores Claiborne as her namesake can do just about anything she wants! You want to be in control? You got it! 😉** I named myself that because I’m a huge Stephen King fan, and my late husband was not the nicest of men…but no, I didn’t push him into a well! > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **:I’ve heard that one, before. Any idea _why_ it makes you panicky?😉** Sure! He doesn’t know when I need to breathe! I feel claustrophobic, like I’m going to suffocate. I don’t like to play around in the pool and get my head ducked under either. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*:Gotta love a woman who can match me for wanton lust. I find that _very_ sexy. \*\* 😉 ---
**Author:** ![preacherswife](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@preacherswife](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/preacherswife)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/270 "2003-04-09T13:50:53Z")
**A Few days later** Thanks for the Welcome, and I am not REALLY a preachers wife. My husband is sometimes called the Streetpreacher, hense the title. But you can still join our church… if we had one. ---
**Author:** ![Margo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Margo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Margo)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/271 "2003-04-09T15:02:11Z")
Originally posted by Spit Well, eventually mine got better at it, and I developed a thicker skin. (literally) Spit my Friend…that is called SCAR TISSUE…Ouch! Sorry Metalhead…it was there and I HAD to take it!! Margo (who is off to patent retractable dentures…and flip top heads…) ---
**Author:** ![Sapphire\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@Sapphire\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapphire_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/272 "2003-04-09T15:57:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*_One unsweetened iced tea, no lemon_ If you don’t mind some friendly advice from your neighborhood bartender, maybe you should spend some time analyzing your feelings towards it, to see if you can figure out why you feel that way. I can guarantee your hubby would like to know. \*\* Been doing that since November of 2000, actually. For now, I’m content to accept it’s just a matter of personal boundaries. So’s the husband. I think. … Ahhhh…that’s good tea. Hits the spot. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/273 "2003-04-09T16:16:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dolores Claiborne \* > \*\*Sure! He doesn’t know when I need to breathe! I feel claustrophobic, like I’m going to suffocate. \*\* Well, that’s a feeling I can relate to. Do you have difficulty breathing through your nose? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/274 "2003-04-09T16:26:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sapphire Wolf \* > \*\*Been doing that since November of 2000, actually. > > For now, I’m content to accept it’s just a matter of personal boundaries. So’s the husband. > > I think. \*\* I’m guessing that was the first time he tried it? If you’ve been thinking about it that long, it’s probably something so deeply rooted you aren’t even consciously aware of it. There probably isn’t anything a bartender can say that will help. But, I would suggest that the “For now” part of that sentence may be the most important. Because, if hubby loves you, knows how you feel about it, and keeps trying, anyway, as you mentioned earlier, he’s probably not totally accepting it. I hope I’m wrong about that, though. ---
**Author:** ![Spit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@Spit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spit)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/275 "2003-04-09T16:33:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Was that thickening permanent? \*\* It was just a callous. After liberal application of lotion over a period of time, AND making sure that it was absorbed by vigorous rubbing; everything was back to normal. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/276 "2003-04-09T20:03:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Well, that’s a feeling I can relate to. Do you have difficulty breathing through your nose? \*\* Somewhat. It makes it even more difficult when I am panting… 😉 and when I go a little deep. It blocks off the nasal passages in the back of my throat. I do like my head to be touched, just not held by the ears and…you know what I mean… ---
**Author:** ![Sapphire\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@Sapphire\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sapphire_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/277 "2003-04-09T21:05:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*I’m guessing that was the first time he tried it? If you’ve been thinking about it that long, it’s probably something so deeply rooted you aren’t even consciously aware of it. There probably isn’t anything a bartender can say that will help. But, I would suggest that the “For now” part of that sentence may be the most important. Because, if hubby loves you, knows how you feel about it, and keeps trying, anyway, as you mentioned earlier, he’s probably not totally accepting it. I hope I’m wrong about that, though. \*\* I actually had a talk with him yesterday about it, and explained my feelings. He said he is aware of them, and he can understand and respect the whole “personal boundaries” issue I have. He tries to remember (which, I’ll grant, he does), but sometimes, he just plain forgets. So hopefully, that’s the end of that. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/278 "2003-04-10T00:09:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dolores Claiborne \* > \*\*I do like my head to be touched, just not held by the ears and…you know what I mean… \*\* I do, but I’m not going to say it, either. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/279 "2003-04-10T00:15:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sapphire Wolf \* > \*\*I actually had a talk with him yesterday about it, and explained my feelings. \*\* Excellent! I hope it works out for you guys. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/280 "2003-04-10T01:47:01Z")
I don’t think there are many women (or men) who want their partner to grab their ears and … My biggest issue with having him in control while I’m down there is that he doesn’t know when I need to swallow. I’m not a big fan of drool everywhere 🙂 And Spit… all I can say is ouch! I can’t imagine a callous on skin that sensitive! Sapphire Wolf… I too have some boundary issues about sex. Unfortunately when mine pop up there is no act that is appropriate ☹ If your husband is just a little carried away by his desire for you then maybe a previously aggreed upon special word or gesture can gently remind him he is treading into a zone that will make you uncomfortable? (Safe words… they aren’t just for BDSM anymore!) Many kudos to you for actually being able to discuss your feelings with him too… I know some people who don’t seem to be able to discuss these things and that really kills a marriage 🙂 Oh and Dave… I need a refill! This is thirsty thread 🙂 Maybe I’ll take some OJ this time… just a little sugar. Thanks. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=13) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=15)