# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 17
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/321 "2003-04-11T11:21:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*I’m going to highjack my own thread, here. I had other things I wanted to say to **Elvis** , and this didn’t fit in, but he got me wondering. Ladies? How long _IS_ too long? > > Ten or fifteen minutes is nothing to me, when I go down on a lady, but I realize it’s much harder on a woman’s jaw, when she returns the favor. So, for my future (Dammit!) refence, and because I owe **Elvis** something for allowing me to needle him, can you give us guys some kind of guideline? \*\* It depends. I’m happy to stay there for as long as it takes, but bear in mind I wont be able to keep you in my mouth the whole time, cos it is an unusual angle for my jaw to be at, and after a while it does ache. If you’re happy with me switching to my hands and maybe just licking the head occasionally while I rest my jaw, then I’m quite happy to let it go on as long as you want. But I know for some men stoping or changing like that can interrupt the “build”. There is the out-of-practice thing too. My blokey lives in Ireland, while I’m in London, we get to see each other about once a month, so I don’t get much chance to pracitce, and before I met him I was pretty much chaste for 2 years. So yeah, I’m a little rusty, but hey, as soon as I get hold of him permenently I’m gonna be brushing up on old skills sommink chronic! 😛 However, the main thing that will make me stop if it’s taking a while is that I just get too goddam horny, and I have to get him inside me **now!** 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/322 "2003-04-11T11:26:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*The fangster is back! 🙂 > > Umm, not to sound like your dad but, I’d think that would be really bad for your teeth. They say tongue piercings are bad for your teeth, in general, but having it constantly clicking on the insides of your front teeth would probably be worse. I’d hate to see that great smile ruined. Besides, how would you eat an ice cream cone, with that?\*\* Nah, the novelty of rattling the thing against your teeth wears off pretty quick, and the way my tongue sits in my mouth (which I would imagine is just the same way as anyone elses) means that it’s not in permanent contact with my teeth. I know lots of people who have multiple tongue piercings, and they don’t seem to have any problem. Ice-cream… Want a demonstration? 😛 > [@](#): > > \*\*On the other hand, I’d really like to experience that from the guy’s side. > \*\* The tongue stud or the fangs? heh! ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/323 "2003-04-11T12:10:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Ten or fifteen minutes is nothing to me, when I go down on a lady, but I realize it’s much harder on a woman’s jaw, when she returns the favor. So, for my future (Dammit!) refence, and because I owe **Elvis** something for allowing me to needle him, can you give us guys some kind of guideline? \*\* It really depends on the guy’s size (bigger can leads to more jaw ache), how much the woman is enjoying it, how the guy behaves (ie my ears are not handles !!!)… Also I’ve never timed it either (for the same reasons as you) and I have a horrible sense of time without a clock beside me… So my answer is … I dunno 😛 (useful ain’t I 😃 ) ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/324 "2003-04-11T12:12:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Hey, I’m willing to…_ahem_…take one for the team. 😃 Ahahahaha! Or, a hundred. Or, whatever it takes. I’m just here to help, after all. > > I crack me up! \*\* Instead of leaving your body to science when you die, you should contact that school in California and donate yourself now 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/325 "2003-04-11T12:15:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **In my case the reasons are twofold. First, and try not to hurt yourselves laughing, I am _not_ a talker. In real life, I’m one of those guys who will silently take in an entire conversation going on around him and then, if asked, recap it in four sentences. My sister once sent me a computer generated horoscope. Under Communication Style, it said “Your verbal style is silence.” And, it was right.** Ah so YOU’RE the quiet one my Mum warned me about _lightbulb goes on_ ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/326 "2003-04-11T12:34:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*I’m going to highjack my own thread, here. I had other things I wanted to say to **Elvis** , and this didn’t fit in, but he got me wondering. Ladies? How long _IS_ too long? \*\* Actually, I did a thread on this about a while back (okay, about a year ago, but still). It was while I was still new to the whole experience, and my short timedness was a bit of a worry to me. The general concensus was: It all depends. As with everything else, it’s one of those personal preference/why you’re doing it kinda thing. For those who do it because they like pleasing their man, there’s no time. Quick is good, long is good, so long as he enjoys it and is appreciative, that’s all that matters. For those with TMJ and those that don’t like it, the quicker the better. For those that really enjoy it, the longer they can make it last, the better. One girl claimed to be able to keep her guy going for **FOUR HOURS!!**. From what I gathered, it should last 1) as long as it takes, 2) till her jaw starts hurting, 3) till she’s bored with it, or 4) as **Tir Tinuviel** puts it, “I just get too goddam horny, and I have to get him inside me now!” As for the direct comments towards me, I’m 24. As for the other thing, I got the hint the first time, but trust me, it’s not advice I should take. We’ve been down that road before, and it just caused problems. As for the hands on the head thing, I like to put my hands on the side of the head, but not necessarilly on the back. I like keeping the hair out of the way, but trying to shove a woman’s head down just doesn’t seem like a very bright move when there’s teeth encircling my cock. Occassionally, I’ll thrust my hips, but I’m pretty keen on talking, and don’t mind making requests. Plus, it’s always a good idea to say pleasant things at this point. She’s doing me a great service, the least I can do is show my gratitude. And in terms of the tongue stud, I’ve never gotten a bj from a girl with one, but **Tir Tinuviel** ’s comments about the sub zero temperatures just gave me horrible flashbacks to the flagpole scene in _A Christmas Story_. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/327 "2003-04-11T12:44:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by El Elvis Rojo \* > \*\*And in terms of the tongue stud, I’ve never gotten a bj from a girl with one, but **Tir Tinuviel** ’s comments about the sub zero temperatures just gave me horrible flashbacks to the flagpole scene in _A Christmas Story_. :eek: \*\* I haven’t seen it, but I assume someone get their tongue stuck to an icy flagploe then? I can’t see that happening with the tongue stud, it only stays cold for a second. I was more commenting that in temperatures like that, most blokes don’t want to flop it out to let me experiment! heh! ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/328 "2003-04-11T13:10:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel \* > \*\*…I was pretty much chaste for 2 years. So yeah, I’m a little rusty, but hey, as soon as I get hold of him permenently I’m gonna be brushing up on old skills sommink chronic! 😛 \*\* My impressions are that A) he’s a dead man, within three months, and B) the undertaker is _not_ going to be able to remove the smile from his face. ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/329 "2003-04-11T13:13:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*My impressions are that A) he’s a dead man, within three months, and B) the undertaker is _not_ going to be able to remove the smile from his face. \*\* Nor will they be able to close the coffin lid… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/330 "2003-04-11T13:14:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel \* > **Ice-cream… Want a demonstration? 😛** YES! 😃 Dammit, someone turn up the AC! > [@](#): > > \*\*The tongue stud or the fangs? heh! \*\* :eek: I thought the fangs were just decorative. But, it was the stud, and particularly the ring in the tip of the tongue, I was referring to. I’ve just got to experience that at least once before I die. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/331 "2003-04-11T13:21:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by El Elvis Rojo \* > \*\*Actually, I did a thread on this about a while back (okay, about a year ago, but still). \*\* Ya know, I may actually have seen that, way back when I only occasionally strolled these halls. > [@](#): > > **One girl claimed to be able to keep her guy going for FOUR HOURS!!.** Holy cow! I’d be dead of a heart attack. And, there’d be another pissed off undertaker. > [@](#): > > \*\* As for the direct comments towards me, I’m 24. \*\* So, you had nature working against you, with the 20 second thing, as well. I thought as much. Nature can be such a mean mother. > [@](#): > > \*\*As for the other thing, I got the hint the first time, but trust me, it’s not advice I should take. We’ve been down that road before, and it just caused problems. \*\* Sorry. Butting out, now. And, I’m also sorry the relationship didn’t work out. > [@](#): > > \*\*And in terms of the tongue stud, I’ve never gotten a bj from a girl with one, but **Tir Tinuviel** ’s comments about the sub zero temperatures just gave me horrible flashbacks to the flagpole scene in _A Christmas Story_. :eek: \*\* :eek: Ahahaha! I bet the firemen would be telling that story till the day they died! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/332 "2003-04-11T13:22:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*So my answer is … I dunno 😛 (useful ain’t I 😃 ) \*\* You’re useful in _other_ ways. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/333 "2003-04-11T13:25:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*Instead of leaving your body to science when you die, you should contact that school in California and donate yourself now 😉 \*\* Believe me, if I could locate it… 😉 Actually, I don’t know if I’d do them any good. With my lack of recent exposure, _I_ might not last 20 seconds. But, I’d be willing to give it my best shot. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/334 "2003-04-11T13:28:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*Ah so YOU’RE the quiet one my Mum warned me about _lightbulb goes on_ \*\* 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/335 "2003-04-11T13:29:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*Ah so YOU’RE the quiet one my Mum warned me about _lightbulb goes on_ \*\* So, how is your Mum, these days? Do give her my best when you see her, and tell her I still think fondly of her. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/336 "2003-04-11T13:41:20Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\* :eek: I thought the fangs were just decorative._\* Nope, they’re permanent crowns. Result of an interesting rendevous with a dentist some 7? 8? years ago. Solid titanium with a ceramic veneer. Pretty bloody sharp too! 😉 That’s why I made the comment about them not getting in the way, it’s not as if I can take 'em out! ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/337 "2003-04-11T13:42:02Z")
Time is relative… if we’re going for a mid afternoon quickie while the kid is asleep then time is of the essence… if she’s at the babysitter’s and we have a few hours well… So the jist of it is he lasts as long as I want him to… I’ve learned over time what to do to speed things up or slow things down. We’re not college kids anymore! Sex of all kinds matures with age and familiarity and the ability to say “no dear a little to the left” (among other things 🙂 Oh and on a side note I have noticed there is a certain crew of regulars in this thread and we all read it between 8 and 9 ish 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Pebbles131](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/eada6e/32.png) [@Pebbles131](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pebbles131)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/338 "2003-04-11T14:07:13Z")
Oh dear God, my first TMI thread!! Be gentle! > [@](#): > > It feels good to have him hold my head tight and just fuck my mouth - eg, he makes all the movement, I just use my tongue and lips. I dont really have a gag reflex, so him going deep doesn’t bother me too much. I find this SOO sexy when it happens to me!! did I say that out loud?? /blushes like mad ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/339 "2003-04-11T14:26:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel \* > \*\*Nope, they’re permanent crowns. Result of an interesting rendevous with a dentist some 7? 8? years ago. Solid titanium with a ceramic veneer. Pretty bloody sharp too! 😉 > That’s why I made the comment about them not getting in the way, it’s not as if I can take 'em out! \*\* Umm…I didn’t say removable. (BTW, you’re gonna be one hell of a scary 80 year old.) You were kind of implying they were usable for some kind of sex play. Or, was I misreading that? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/340 "2003-04-11T14:28:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*Oh and on a side note I have noticed there is a certain crew of regulars in this thread and we all read it between 8 and 9 ish 🙂 \*\* Well, every pub depends on its regulars. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=16) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=18)