# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 24
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/461 "2003-04-17T03:23:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flybynight \* > **Honestly folks, get it together. Newbies, ya just can’t get them to do things right… 😃** ::points and screams:: NEWB! ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/462 "2003-04-17T03:54:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by irishgirl \* > Personally, i’ve always started any BJ situation with a " if you want to cum in my mouth, you’re grand" statement (which might not be comprehensible to the non-irish, but it seems to work ok). I guess I’m not Irish (enough). I really can’t tell if “you’re grand” means “that’s OK” or “don’t you dare!” Care to translate for those of us across the pond? ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Lao](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@Dr.Lao](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Lao)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/463 "2003-04-17T03:55:53Z")
It means “that’s OK.” ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/464 "2003-04-17T11:18:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > **Sexy? Me?** Yes, you. Were you not aware of this? Let me guess; you’re one of the many “but, I’m no supermodel” women, aren’t ya? But sexiness is in the mind, the heart, and the personality, not the body. And, you definitely qualify on that scoring system. And, you probably do better on that other scoring system than you realize. 🙂 Mmmmm…tummy! > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Searching For Truth_ > \*_Good lord. I wander out of the bar for a day, only to come back and find this mess? What have you kids been doing?_ Someone mentioned RH passing out and animal fights…and now you want to start a new thread. > > Kids are so needy.\*\* Sorry, Mom. We’ll try to do better, from now on. I think the neediness comes from insufficient breastfeeding when we were babies. Maybe you could make up for that, now… Oh, and would you mind not screaming? Some of us are nursing hangovers. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by flybynight_ > \*\*I’d have to give that matchup to the Rhino (no offense, of course)…runs out before grizzlies and rhinos and truth seekers can hurt him \*\* Not so fast, there, flyboy. I think you’re probably right about the rhino, if we’re talking real critters. But, you ain’t goin’ nowhere till we get this mess cleaned up. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel_ > **You are so wrong.** Oh, well, thanks for stopping by to point that out. Want to slap me, while you’re here? 😉 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by irishgirl_ > **…if you want to cum in my mouth, you’re grand…** :eek: Hummina, hummina…humm…eep. Damn, these irish girls are _hot!_ > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by irishgirl_ > **although Davebear is free to avail himself of a hug from me anytime he wants because he’s a sweetie** Awww! _blush_ C’mere, you! {{{{ **irishgirl** }}}} Thanks, \*\* Dr. Lao\*\*. You dropped in at just the right time, it seems. And, welcome to you, too, **Musicat**. So, as to topics…I’ve thought of two possibles. _The scent of sex_, about how scent affects our passions, or _Cut vs UnCut_, the great debate over circumcision. I haven’t seen either of those discussed. Of course, I spend most of my time behind the bar, here, so I may have missed them. I did learn, yesterday, that “eating ass” is a forbidden topic, though. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/465 "2003-04-17T11:37:55Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\* Oh, well, thanks for stopping by to point that out. Want to slap me, while you’re here? 😉_\* ooooooh baby! 😃 (I guess I should have put a smiley at the end of the “you’re so wrong” post, it wasn’t ment to be a telling off… I just don’t think anyone needs to feel they are at fault in that situation. ;)) ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/466 "2003-04-17T12:42:18Z")
Hmmm Dave… the Circumcision thing was done a little bit ago probably not exactly as you envisioned but there is this: [Do American women prefer circumcised lovers](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=170244) There was another one that was more of a should you circumcise your baby thread too IIRC. I haven’t seen anything on the scent of sex… I was thinking last night that maybe a “How noisy are you” thread might be fun as I was trying really hard not to make any noise that would carry through to where my mom was sleeping. (She’s staying with us for a couple weeks because she broke her leg) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 1:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/467 "2003-04-17T13:14:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel \* > \*\*ooooooh baby! 😃 > > (I guess I should have put a smiley at the end of the “you’re so wrong” post, it wasn’t ment to be a telling off… I just don’t think anyone needs to feel they are at fault in that situation. ;)) \*\* I was just teasing. I knew what you meant, but I figured that would goad you into another response. 😃 Is it still trolling if what you catch is a hot babe, and not a troll? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/468 "2003-04-17T13:17:10Z")
heeee! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/469 "2003-04-17T13:19:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*Hmmm Dave… the Circumcision thing was done a little bit ago probably not exactly as you envisioned but there is this: > > There was another one that was more of a should you circumcise your baby thread too IIRC. > > I haven’t seen anything on the scent of sex… > > I was thinking last night that maybe a “How noisy are you” thread might be fun as I was trying really hard not to make any noise that would carry through to where my mom was sleeping. (She’s staying with us for a couple weeks because she broke her leg) \*\* Thanks! I’d forgotten about that circ. thread. No, it isn’t at all what I’d envisioned (much too clinical), but it is still pretty recent. So, the scent idea is still in play, and I like your idea, too. Would you want to start that one? Sorry about your Mom. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/470 "2003-04-17T15:10:16Z")
Well, if we’re still looking for a sex topic, I’ve got one, but I’m still a little embarrassed to bring it up as a full thread started. A lot of women preach the whole “It’s not the size of the boat, it’s how you sail it that counts” concept, but none of them go into exactly HOW one is supposed to sail said dingy. Personally, I’ve never had any complaints, but like most guys, I’m still concerned about it, and never actually having engaged in full on sex (not to say I haven’t had the opportunity, I’m just still waiting for the right gal), I’m a little concerned that when the time comes, I’ll be completely useless (hence, the dedicated studies of cunnilingus). Of course, by writing this, I’ve already addressed the issue, but something about seeing my sig in the tittle thread’s poster makes me kinda nervous. What do you think, is IMHOP free of enough sex threads for a new one, or should it wait till later? ---
**Author:** ![soulburnz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@soulburnz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulburnz)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/471 "2003-04-17T16:37:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > But sexiness is in the mind, the heart, and the personality, not the body. I kinda like that phrase… need the first 3 to run the last one. And don’t forget the nose… > [@](#): > > _The scent of sex_, about how scent affects our passions… This sounds like a great topic !!! > [@](#): > > I did learn, yesterday, that “eating ass” is a forbidden topic, though. 😃 ::shaking head:: Aren’t WE getting brave now ? 😃 Do bears have more sensitive noses than other animals ??? [yogi]Boo Boo - Do I smell a pic… nic… basket ?[/yogi] > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by El Elvis Rojo_ > HOW one is supposed to sail said dingy. This is a very good point El. “Dingies for Dummies” comes to mind. 😃 But seriously… this would be a good discussion topic as well. ---
**Author:** ![flybynight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/71c47a/32.png) [@flybynight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flybynight)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/472 "2003-04-17T16:50:56Z")
That might be an interesting topic, **El Elvis Rojo**. Doesn’t seem any worse to me than threads that have already been started, but I’m new so I don’t yet know people’s tolerance level here. It’s definitely more tame than “eating ass,” as **Davebear** mentioned. Although I honestly don’t see what’s that much worse about that than what we’ve already been talking about, but that’s probably just me 😉 As for the _Scent of Sex_, I can imagine that would be entertaining. Possible not as informative as the above topic, but entertaining nonetheless… probably would get more attention too. oh, and **SFtT** : > [@](#): > > :: points and screams:: NEWB! No kidding! Geez, n00bs these days… think they can come in here and do whatever they feel like. :rolleyes: When will they ever learn? 😛 disclaimer: I know n00b is not the proper SDMB approved way of spelling, I’m just being ironic and clever by showing my n00bness in that context. oh I kill me… ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/473 "2003-04-17T17:08:08Z")
> [@](#): > > **What you should know before reading this post:** > _A real IM conversation occuring after I hit ‘preview.’_ > > me: DAMMIT > friend: problems? > me: ack > me: i constructed a big long reply post and it didnt go through when i previewed and now its lost to the fucking hamsters > me: RAWR > me: oh well > friend: ouch > friend: at least it’ll keep the hamsters fat and happy for a little while > me: 🙂 hehehe > me: IT CAME BACK! THE HAMSTERS LVOE ME!@ > friend: lol > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*I was thinking last night that maybe a “How noisy are you” thread might be fun… \*\* ::fit of giggles:: Oh, please, please, **tanookie** , can we? Can we? We can work it into **El Elvis Rojo** ’s thread somehow, right? Right! Of course! **Rojo** , (may I call you that?), I’m sufficiently paranoid that I would wait a while before starting a new IMHO sex thread. Then again, you’re not me. (Whew, right?!) Concerning size and operation of your boat: my friends say that (way too often to be healthy) “It’s not what you got, it’s how you work it.” to each other all the time. Cuz I honestly think most of us believe it. In previous threads, other female Dopers reminded us that, like in oral sex, someone with an average-sized penis is often preferrable\* to someone with a painfully-large one. Besides- the love, attention, affection and intimacy, the emotions of the experience itself-- that is what makes sex the wonderful thing it is (or should be), not the so-called ‘quality’ of one’s body parts. \*It’s too early for me to care if that’s a word or not. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/474 "2003-04-17T17:40:08Z")
Like your friend, I know a lot of women who say “It’s how you use it.” Only, NONE OF THEM SAY HOW TO USE IT! It’s like looking at one of those wierd horseshoe puzzles, and having someone say “If you know the trick to it, it’s simple” but not telling you the trick, you know? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/475 "2003-04-17T19:54:02Z")
Use it in whatever way makes both of you satisfied… Do what feels good and follow your partner’s cues to see what does and does not feel good for them! I think the trick is that sex is more than just penetration. There are all kinds of erogenous zones and many ways to make these zones happy. Too much focus on any one thing tends to detract from the experience as a whole. IMHO anyway 🙂 Communication is really important too… some days I want to be silly and play games… other days I’m looking for a more emotionally close experience… then some days I just want raw sex. If I can’t communicate that then I’m likely to be disappointed when I don’t get what I wanted. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2003, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/476 "2003-04-17T23:48:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by soulburnz \* > **I kinda like that phrase… need the first 3 to run the last one. And don’t forget the nose…** The nose? I like noses, but are we talking sexy, or running? 😉 As in, “to run the last one”. > [@](#): > > **This sounds like a great topic !!!** Thanks. 🙂 I don’t think it could possibly be as much fun as this one, but it might be worthwhile. > [@](#): > > \*\*::shaking head:: Aren’t WE getting brave now ? 😃 \*\* For the record, I didn’t start the “eating ass” thread. I thought it had a lot of potential, though, until it got shut down about 4 posts later. 😃 > [@](#): > > \*\*Do bears have more sensitive noses than other animals ??? [yogi]Boo Boo - Do I smell a pic… nic… basket ?[/yogi] \*\* I assume this is just a joke, but I’m gonna answer it anyway. Yes, bears have exceptional senses of smell. Which is good, because their eyesight is pretty weak. > [@](#): > > \*\*This is a very good point El. “Dingies for Dummies” comes to mind. 😃 But seriously… this would be a good discussion topic as well. \*\* I agree, but I think **Elvis** should start it. And, now we’ve got three different people each using a different part of his name. 😃 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by flybynight_ > \*\*That might be an interesting topic, El Elvis Rojo. Doesn’t seem any worse to me than threads that have already been started, but I’m new so I don’t yet know people’s tolerance level here. > \*\* I think it would be okay. I’m still pretty new, here, too. But, it seems like a reasonable topic, to me. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Searching For Truth_ > \*\*the love, attention, affection and intimacy, the emotions of the experience itself-- that is what makes sex the wonderful thing it is (or should be), not the so-called ‘quality’ of one’s body parts. > \*\* Very true. Did I say Irish girls are hot? I meant southern women. 😉 BTW… [annoying AOL voice] You’ve got mail! [/annoying AOL voice] > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*Use it in whatever way makes both of you satisfied… Do what feels good and follow your partner’s cues to see what does and does not feel good for them! > > I think the trick is that sex is more than just penetration. There are all kinds of erogenous zones and many ways to make these zones happy. Too much focus on any one thing tends to detract from the experience as a whole. IMHO anyway > > Communication is really important too… some days I want to be silly and play games… other days I’m looking for a more emotionally close experience… then some days I just want raw sex. If I can’t communicate that then I’m likely to be disappointed when I don’t get what I wanted.\*\* This would be an _excellent_ post for the “Dingies for Dummies” thread! So, what do you say, folks? I’ll start the Scent thread, **Tanookie** will start the Screamers Anonymous thread, and **Elvis** will summon up his courage and start the Dingies thread. No need to reveal the reason why you’re asking, if you’re uncomfortable, **Elvis**. **Elvis** also made me think of another one; are you still a virgin, if you’ve done everything _except_ intercourse? Or, has that been done, recently, too? ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2003, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/477 "2003-04-18T00:59:56Z")
Ok… I started my thread and I see Dave started his… now where’s Elvis?? Oh and I think that while technically you’re probably a virgin… oral sex is sex! IMHO that is more intimate than genital intercourse!! mumble mumble semantics mumble mumble 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![soulburnz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@soulburnz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulburnz)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2003, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/478 "2003-04-18T03:56:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > I assume this is just a joke, but I’m gonna answer it anyway. Yes, bears have exceptional senses of smell. Which is good, because their eyesight is pretty weak. Whoops… I forgot the smartass smiley 😃 😃 so there’s one for good measure. Yes I was joking… ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2003, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/479 "2003-04-18T06:29:10Z")
Okay, it will go up shortly. It’s been a busy day, so sorry for the delay. ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2003, 7:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/480 "2003-04-18T07:45:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **Yes, you. Were you not aware of this?** Nope, sure wasn’t. \*\* > [@](#): > > Let me guess; you’re one of the many “but, I’m no supermodel” women, aren’t ya?\*\* Ya caught me. \*\* > [@](#): > > But sexiness is in the mind, the heart, and the personality, not the body. And, you definitely qualify on that scoring system. And, you probably do better on that other scoring system than you realize. 🙂 > > Mmmmm…tummy!\*\* Thank you. This comes at a time when…well…I really needed it.🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=23) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=25)