# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 29
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/561 "2003-04-25T00:15:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > **Well, having no experience on that end of things (so to speak), I’m just guessing. But, would having a beverage on hand to sip or gulp at the appropriate time help? Maybe clear the sensation away quickly?** **MDM. President** I haven’t had that sensation before but I think Dave’s suggestion is good… maybe a fizzy drink you can swish about a bit and then swallow… I know it’d spoil the rhythm maybe but its better than having that feeling all day… You could try it once and see how it goes perhaps??? ---
**Author:** ![tag](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f14d63/32.png) [@tag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tag)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/562 "2003-04-25T19:51:41Z")
> [@](#): > > Jes’ fine, honey chile. An’ yo’self? I gots no problem a’tall with “genitalia in flames of throbbing lust”, although I prefer to bring them to that state myself. Darlin’, “genitalia in flames of throbbing lust” is a southern girl’s specialty. We know how to cool off when it gets too hot down here. Know what ah mean sugah? 😉 > [@](#): > > I knew I liked your style. I guess we know where you stand (kneel?) on the subject. _tag bats her gently bread eyelashes at DaveBear…why yes, sugah, I do so love to kneel 😉_ ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/563 "2003-04-25T20:24:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\ ***MDM. President** I haven’t had that sensation before but I think Dave’s suggestion is good… maybe a fizzy drink you can swish about a bit and then swallow… I know it’d spoil the rhythm maybe but its better than having that feeling all day… > > You could try it once and see how it goes perhaps??? \*\* Alrighty, now tell us: Do Things go Better with Coke…? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/564 "2003-04-25T21:53:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tag \* > \*\*Darlin’, “genitalia in flames of throbbing lust” is a southern girl’s specialty. We know how to cool off when it gets too hot down here. Know what ah mean sugah? 😉 \*\* > Hummina, hummina…umm…_ahem_…why Ah shorely do, ma’am! > > \*\*_tag bats her gently bread eyelashes at DaveBear…why yes, sugah, I do so love to kneel 😉_ \*\* > Who hit you in the face with a sandwich? OH! You meant “gently bred”. Silly me. 😃 > > Well, I guess I just blew any chance of getting _her_ to email me. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![tag](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f14d63/32.png) [@tag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tag)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2003, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/565 "2003-04-25T23:05:13Z")
LOL I was wondering if you were going to catch that!! DaveBear gets an A for alertness. **giggle** ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/566 "2003-04-26T00:37:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tag \* > \*\*LOL I was wondering if you were going to catch that!! DaveBear gets an A for alertness. **giggle** \*\* Well, I guess it’s better than nothing. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Mdm.President](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@Mdm.President](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mdm.President)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/567 "2003-04-26T02:07:16Z")
Drinking _anything_ does help for about 10 seconds but for such an insignificant amount of relief I’d rather not screw up the rhythm. Iv experimented with tons of things to find the antidote to jism-coated throat, even drinking some Dimetapp (didn’t work). I was hoping someone else had experienced this feeling. Maybe it’s just his semen…as it causes other strange problems… but that’s another thread ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/568 "2003-04-26T02:16:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MDM. President \* > \*\*Look Look I’m on topic! and I’m new! Is there maybe a rookie of the thread award? > My problem begins even before the…payload. As soon as pre-ejaculate enters my mouth my throat gets all coated-feeling where I feel the involuntary reflex to clear my throat, cough and swallow repeatedly. I suppress the need to stop and clear my thought et al but that sure gets annoying and it’s beginning to take away from MY enjoyment of the magnificent male member and its manufactured memento. AND this feeling lasts all day. Any suggestions? \*\* Welcome to the boards! Have you tried eating caramels or milk duds before and after? I know, sounds like a strange suggestion. However, if it’s something like his semen being too acidic for you, it may help to coat your throat before you do the deed. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/569 "2003-04-26T04:23:29Z")
Well, I’ve been lurking on this thread for almost a month, now, so I guess it’s time to 'fess up: I have never had a blowjob to climax. (There, I said it.) My first gf and I had oral sex exactly once, about a year after we first became lovers. Even I, who’d never had a pair of lips on his tool before, could tell that she was tentative, and my thought at the time was that she’d never had a penis in her mouth. I never asked straight out if this was the case – lack of communication was the hallmark of that relationship. In that same session, I went down on her and loved it, the taste of her, the texture, the way she squirmed. She never offered again, and I never asked her to. On the other hand, _I_ offered to eat her several times, and she always declined. I _think_ she was afraid I would demand reciprocation but (that communication thing again) I never asked. We broke up about a year after that. My second gf, later my wife, OTOH, had no qualms at all about taking me in. About half of our lovemaking sessions involved oral sex, but I never climaxed in her mouth. Typically she would get me good and wet (not to mention stiff), then depending on our positions, either straddle me or pull me into her to finish me off that way. It wasn’t a case of gag reflex; she would slide quite deep at times. Nor was it a case of not liking the taste; sometimes she would finish me off by hand just to watch the semen fly, then collect it to annoint her naught bits and lick it off her fingers. She just preferred to feel my climax throb in her pussy instead of her mouth. I didn’t mind For my part, I loved to go down on her, and brought her to climax many times, both before and after despositing into her, but that was the way our relationship worked. She would cum easy and frequently had two or three climaxes (big and small) to my one. If it had gotten to the point where I’d asked, “Honey, I’d like to cum in your mouth once, just to see what it feels like,” she would have gladly obliged, but she was taken from me suddenly before it got to that point. DD ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/570 "2003-04-26T04:32:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DesertDog \* > **Well, I’ve been lurking on this thread for almost a month, now, so I guess it’s time to 'fess up: I have never had a blowjob to climax. (There, I said it.)** Well, when you decloak, you really decloak. 😉 That was a heck of a post, **DD**. Thanks for sharing it with us. And, I’m sorry about your loss. Would you like to join me in a toast to loved ones lost? ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/571 "2003-04-26T05:43:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Well, when you decloak, you really decloak. 😉 That was a heck of a post, **DD**. Thanks for sharing it with us. > > And, I’m sorry about your loss. Would you like to join me in a toast to loved ones lost? \*\* Thank you barkeep; I’ll have a JD up. But it’s more like a toast to the ones we love. Call me weird but, in a way, I still feel married – I just haven’t seen her for a while. It may be because I subscribe to the “recycle” theory of religion, and I will meet with her again, here on Earth, to finish what we didn’t complete or learn this time around (“Honey, I’d like to cum . . .” 😉 ). The bond we shared went deeper than would seem possible in the all too short time I had with her. (Raises glass) To the maidens. DD ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/572 "2003-04-26T11:31:18Z")
Ack DD… _hug_ Love like that will stay in your heart forever. I hope you do get to meet her again somehow 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 11:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/573 "2003-04-26T11:53:47Z")
…and those who miss them! _drains his glass, and smashes it in the fireplace_ As luck or fate would have it, I happen to subscribe to a very similar set of beliefs. I just wish I found it as comforting as you do. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/574 "2003-04-28T05:26:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*…and those who miss them! _drains his glass, and smashes it in the fireplace_ > > As luck or fate would have it, I happen to subscribe to a very similar set of beliefs. I just wish I found it as comforting as you do. \*\* Golly, Db, we seem to have killed this thread. Sorry about that, and sorry to hear of your lack of comfort, too. Sometimes it is the only thing that has kept me going. I knew my wife for a little over five years before she . . . hmmm, asked a direct question, lovers for not quite a year before we were married, then married for a little over five years before she died. We’ve all heard the phrase, “I’m married to my best friend” so many times it’s almost a cliche. In our case, it was the simple truth. We had strangers come up to us and comment on how much in love we must be. In those eleven-odd years, six if you want to count only the time it really counted, we never, ever had a fight. My goal was to make her happy; her goal was to make me happy. You would think this would mean one or the other of us would be a doormat for the other, but we both seemed to realize instinctively what was important to the other and when to assert our own desires. Some couples never learn this, but for us it was as natural as breathing from early on, far easier than would seem possible in that short amount of time. My conclusion has been that we _must_ have known each other before. That, even though I had no – and still have no – conscious memory of her outside this life, a bond that deep must be a continuation of something that had gone on before. If that is so, then the bond will survive her time, and mine, upon this earth, and that day she died is simply a hiatus, not an ending to that story. Otherwise, what is the point? Wow, this is really off-topic. Perhaps we should start a new thread. What to call it though? DD ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/575 "2003-04-28T08:21:25Z")
Lovely lovely lovely DesertDog - I love the way you see that… Thanks for that 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![galen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecc23a/32.png) [@galen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/galen)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/576 "2003-04-28T13:27:58Z")
I think that **Davebear** really, really needs to go out and get a _real_ blowjob! ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/577 "2003-04-28T23:16:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DesertDog \* > \*\*Golly, Db, we seem to have killed this thread. \*\* > > Oh, don’t worry about that. It’s been hanging on by its fingernails for a while, now. I have to say I’ll miss it, when it finally goes. I’ve had a lot of fun, and met most of the people I know on the board, in this thread. > > **If that is so, then the bond will survive her time, and mine, upon this earth, and that day she died is simply a hiatus, not an ending to that story. Otherwise, what is the point?** > > That’s a beautiful story. You were a lucky man to have met such a perfect match for you. And, it seems our philosophies are extremely similar. > > **Wow, this is really off-topic. Perhaps we should start a new thread. What to call it though?** > > Well, I don’t know what you _should_ call it, but I can tell what _not_ to call it; Thoughts on Mortality. I tried to start a thread with that title a while back, on more or less this same subject, and it went totally off course. (My fault.) But, I’d be interested, if you’d care to start that one off. Of course, I’m not sure what I’d have to add, other than “I agree”. 🙂 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by galen_ > **I think that Davebear really, really needs to go out and get a real blowjob!** > > I’d totally agree, if it fit within my framework of ethics. Unfortunately, it doesn’t. Of course, I wouldn’t know how to go about it, anyway. I haven’t dated in ten years, either. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/578 "2003-04-28T23:20:41Z")
Twelve pages and counting… ---
**Author:** ![bittersweet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c57346/32.png) [@bittersweet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bittersweet)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2003, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/579 "2003-04-28T23:22:10Z")
9 out of 10 times I will swallow. I think it’s far sexier than spitting, and I know it drives men wild. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2003, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/580 "2003-04-29T01:18:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MeanOldLady \* > \*\*Twelve pages and counting… \*\* > > I’d say “But who’s counting?”, but we already know, don’t we? 🙂 > So, what’s your stand on the issue of the day? If you already chimed in, back on page 3, or something, please excuse my poor memory. > > And, can I get you a drink? You missed the memorial toast, but Happy Hour is about to start. You just have to promise not to pour any drinks over anyone’s heads. Especially mine. 😉 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by bittersweet_ > **9 out of 10 times I will swallow. I think it’s far sexier than spitting, and I know it drives men wild.** > > Well, I certainly agree. And, I can’t think of more appropriate username. 🙂 So, what about that 10th time? What makes it different? > > And, what you like to drink? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=28) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=30)