# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Contrary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/db5fbb/32.png) [@Contrary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrary)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/81 "2003-04-01T08:05:06Z")
Dave – as long as you are lining up drinks, I will take a beer. And on an unrelated note, tomorrow I leave China and head home. Yay! ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/82 "2003-04-01T12:38:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Searching For Truth \* > \*\*On the face _is_ a bit rough. On my chest, however, is a little different. > > ::coughs and looks away:: > > [sub]I can’t believe I just said that. [/sub] \*\* Ah, well, you’ve helped us in _our_ search for truth. 🙂 _hands **SFT** a towel_ ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/83 "2003-04-01T12:41:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FaerieBeth \* > **and just out of curiosity, how is that possibly a turn on? I have never understood the ‘money shot’.** It’s a power/dominance/degradation thing. To some extent, I suppose it could also be a “well, if she loves me THAT much…” kind of thing, but I can’t say, for sure. It apparently appeals to a lot of guys, but not this one. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/84 "2003-04-01T12:42:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tracer \* > \*\*Acutally, it’s a little less viscous if the guy’s ad a vasectomy. As I’m just now discovering. > > I wonder what a snowball tastes like post-vasectomy… \*\* Interesting. I hadn’t heard that, before, although I guess it makes sense, now that you mention it. What’s a “snowball”? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/85 "2003-04-01T12:46:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Branwen \* > \*\*Thanks **Davebear**! \*\* You’re welcome. Oh, and welcome to the SDMB. 🙂 Did I welcome her, before? I dunno. Damn that alzheimer’s. It’s nice to see you weren’t afraid to dive right in to the deep end. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/86 "2003-04-01T12:48:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pokey \* > \*\*I don’t want to be rude but there’s no way I’m going to start a thread just to ask this question. Is all blowjob activity supposed to stop as soon as the guy orgasms or is that one of those ‘every guy is different’ things? \*\* Aw, go ahead! What better way to get noticed, around here? 😃 Welcome! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/87 "2003-04-01T12:50:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Contrary \* > \*\*Dave – as long as you are lining up drinks, I will take a beer. And on an unrelated note, tomorrow I leave China and head home. Yay! \*\* _One beer for **Contrary**. Will that be a Tsing Tao (the only Chinese beer I can name), or something domestic?_ ---
**Author:** ![Contrary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/db5fbb/32.png) [@Contrary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrary)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 12:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/88 "2003-04-01T12:55:59Z")
At this point, right before I head for bed one last night in China, I don’t really care 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/89 "2003-04-01T13:00:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pokey \* > \*\*I don’t want to be rude but there’s no way I’m going to start a thread just to ask this question. Is all blowjob activity supposed to stop as soon as the guy orgasms or is that one of those ‘every guy is different’ things? \*\* I already responded, and **Soulburnz** already addressed this, but I thought I would add that, as one of those guys who get sensitive, I would prefer you/her to continue, but gently. No need to keep trying to get that golfball through the garden hose but, by all means, continue the stroking that got us there, if you can. What each man wants, undoubtedly varies, and a man’s climax can’t be extended to the point that woman’s can, but it isn’t over at the point where you first need to swallow, either. (Which is why I, at least, prefer swallowers. Not that spitters aren’t wonderful people, as well, but they tend to get preoccupied just at the wrong moment, if you get my drift.) So, no, all activity should definitely NOT stop, at that point. I _think_ that applies to all men, but YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/90 "2003-04-01T13:21:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TGWATY \* > \*\*A very significant third category has been left out here: ON her face. 😃 Which, as the guy, is my preference with regard to the spitting/swallowing question. \*\* I would do this for my bf if he wanted… but it’d be a special occassion thing and I’d be getting **major** goodies in return lol… Hey Dave, where’s mine??? I’d go a Baileys on ice right now 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/91 "2003-04-01T13:34:04Z")
Methinks Dave’s living vicariously through this thread… and no one offered me a coke! Actually I’ll take something caffeine free and no alcohol please … trying to be good 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Sappho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sappho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sappho)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/92 "2003-04-01T13:35:25Z")
I still don’t really understand, in practical terms, how the spitting thing works. Are there really women who’ll run off to find a sink straight after a blow-job? And, surely, if it’s because they don’t like the taste they’ll only end up tasting more of it that way? I don’t particularly mind swallowing. It wouldn’t be my beverage of choice, but it’s not too bad & it makes men happy. On the post cunnilingus kiss subject, I don’t like it _that_ much but mainly because it makes the kiss sloppy. That said, I once dated someone with a beard and it really wasn’t pleasant to have to kiss a soggy beard that smelt of me afterwards. ---
**Author:** ![Sappho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sappho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sappho)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/93 "2003-04-01T13:44:42Z")
And on another note, I did once have someone ask to come all over my face. Although I can understand why there have been some negative “it’s all about degradation, power” reactions to that idea, I don’t think that was what it was about the time I let someone do it. I would interpret it as being about messiness. The guy I was with was very playful and liked mess. That included things like flicking water at me in the shower. Wanting to come on my face, I honestly think was just an extension of that. Extending it, I think it was a desire for sex to be open and playful and honest rather than “clean”. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/94 "2003-04-01T14:20:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Contrary \* > \*\*At this point, right before I head for bed one last night in China, I don’t really care 😃 \*\* Yep, that pretty much sums up my life, in a nutshell. A woman talks to me for hours about sex, let’s me buy her drinks, then says she’s going to bed, and all I can do is say “Nightie Night”. Sleep well, **Contrary**. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/95 "2003-04-01T14:32:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*You’re welcome. Oh, and welcome to the SDMB. 🙂 Did I welcome her, before? I dunno. Damn that alzheimer’s. \*\* Nope, I don’t think you did. Thanks! It’s great to be here. > [@](#): > > \*\*It’s nice to see you weren’t afraid to dive right in to the deep end. 😉 \*\* It’s a good thing that it’s the deep end, I have a habit of going head first. Uh, no pun intended.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/96 "2003-04-01T14:38:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*I would do this for my bf if he wanted… but it’d be a special occassion thing and I’d be getting **major** goodies in return lol… > > Hey Dave, where’s mine??? I’d go a Baileys on ice right now 😃 \*\* _Sorry, **RH**. Here ya’ go. I gotta get a second bartender for this thread._ I’m really not trying to be offensive, here, especially when you’ve been so nice about participating in this thread, but I’m having trouble phrasing this, so please don’t take it as judgmental or an attack or insult. I really don’t mean it that way. But, this is the second time a woman has referred to expecting something major or trading for something she wanted, in return for some “special” sex. (The other reference may have been in the other thread.) And, I have to ask, why isn’t this wrong? Were you serious, or just joking? I agree, he should _want_ to do something special for you, if you do something special for him. But, I can’t quite get behind the idea of this expectation. It makes it seem sordid, to me. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/97 "2003-04-01T14:42:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*Methinks Dave’s living vicariously through this thread… and no one offered me a coke! > > Actually I’ll take something caffeine free and no alcohol please … trying to be good 🙂 \*\* _One Ginger Ale, with a lime twist, for **Tanookie**. Sorry for the misunderstanding. Our cocktail waitress is \. You’ll have to step up to bar and place an order, tonight._ Well, maybe. But’s it’s a much more interesting life than the real one. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/98 "2003-04-01T14:46:21Z")
I’d like to chime in to the question about trading favors… I think blackmailing someone or berating someone to do something for you in return for something you’ve done is a bad thing but relationships are all about give and take… I watch star wars with him and he watches some chick flick with me… I make his favorite dinner but we have my favorite dessert… Now if I were to allow him to test out a fantasy that I wasn’t too keen on trying then I would most assuredly want kudos in return! If we are clearer about what we want from our partners then I think that alleviates much stress! He can’t say he wasn’t warned and I won’t be resentful 🙂 Oh and thanks for the ginger ale 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/99 "2003-04-01T14:49:38Z")
I don’t spit or swallow. I take it out of my mouth before he shoots the load. One time a guy came in my mouth and I threw up and felt sick the entire day. I enjoy the post cunnilingus kiss. I’d much rather taste myself than his ejaculatory secretions. Never had a complaint. ---
**Author:** ![Spit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/76d3ee/32.png) [@Spit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spit)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/100 "2003-04-01T14:52:56Z")
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