# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 51
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1001 "2003-05-24T15:55:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pencilpusher \* > \*\*Hey Dave… too bad your in Boston 😉 \*\* Hi **pencilpusher**. Welcome! 🙂 Not that I disagree with you, but why do _you_ say it’s too bad I’m in Boston? ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1002 "2003-05-24T21:13:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pencilpusher \* > \*\*Hey Dave… too bad your in Boston 😉 \*\* **Dave’s** got a not so secret admirer … cool 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1003 "2003-05-24T22:39:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Honeydew \* > \*\ ***Dave’s** got a not so secret admirer … cool 😃 \*\* Hmmm…okay, maybe. I hope it’s a least a woman, if that’s true. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2003, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1004 "2003-05-25T00:52:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Hmmm…okay, maybe. I hope it’s a least a woman, if that’s true. \*\* Hey, keep an open mind :D. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2003, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1005 "2003-05-25T02:07:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Hey, keep an open mind :D. \*\* I’m open to a lot of things, but that ain’t one of them. Nice to see you back, though, **bete**. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2003, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1006 "2003-05-26T13:07:27Z")
Hey! We passed the 1,000 Post mark, for this thread! WooHoo! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1007 "2003-05-27T08:25:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*I’m open to a lot of things, but that ain’t one of them. Nice to see you back, though, **bete**. 🙂 \*\* Hey, you know what they say. Bisexuality automatically doubles your chance of date on Saturday night :D. And just think, then you could form your own opinion on the question you raised way back at the OP :D:D:D. Ok, sorry, sorry. I really should go to bed now. 🙂 (Nice to be back, anyway :)) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 27, 2003, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1008 "2003-05-27T10:56:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Hey, you know what they say. Bisexuality automatically doubles your chance of date on Saturday night :D. \*\* 2 x 0 = 0 _shrug_ ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2003, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1009 "2003-05-28T04:37:38Z")
I find it awe-inspiring that this thread continues. And, I like The Doors. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2003, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1010 "2003-05-28T07:52:45Z")
How about the Scorpions? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2003, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1011 "2003-05-28T16:47:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Searching For Truth \* > \*\*I find it awe-inspiring that this thread continues. And, I like The Doors. \*\* Well, you know it is with these things; you give them a bit of a rest, and they’re ready to go, again. 😃 I knew you’d have good taste in music. 🙂 I’m not familiar with the Scorpions, **Shoes**. ---
**Author:** ![Simple\_Dreamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@Simple\_Dreamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simple_Dreamer)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2003, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1012 "2003-05-28T23:04:04Z")
I like the Scorpions too… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2003, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1013 "2003-05-29T06:30:42Z")
After 21 pages, I’m too bleary-eyed and exhausted to post anything witty. Of course, after 21 pages, it’d probably be a repeat of someone else’s witticism anyway. Sigh, such are the trials of being a newb. Swallow, definately. I always thought that everyone over 30 swallowed, less to clean up so it’s just more pragmatic. FWIW, I’ve known lots of guys that had similar issues to overcome to fully…uh…exerience the joys of swallowing. It’s usually a combination of always having been told not to, an honest empathetic revulsion on the givers behalf, and sometimes an actual physical problem. Especially with younger guys, they tend to be unable to climax without that special rythym that they’re used to controlling, it just takes time and a sense of security to get over any of the above. It’s definately worth the journey! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2003, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1014 "2003-05-29T11:19:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Queen Tonya \* > \*\*After 21 pages, I’m too bleary-eyed and exhausted to post anything witty. Of course, after 21 pages, it’d probably be a repeat of someone else’s witticism anyway. Sigh, such are the trials of being a newb. > > Swallow, definately. I always thought that everyone over 30 swallowed, less to clean up so it’s just more pragmatic. > > FWIW, I’ve known lots of guys that had similar issues to overcome to fully…uh…exerience the joys of swallowing. It’s usually a combination of always having been told not to, an honest empathetic revulsion on the givers behalf, and sometimes an actual physical problem. Especially with younger guys, they tend to be unable to climax without that special rythym that they’re used to controlling, it just takes time and a sense of security to get over any of the above. It’s definately worth the journey! 🙂 \*\* Greetings your Majesty, and thank you for honoring us with your presence. We’ve had both saints and sinners join our little party, but I think you’re the first royalty. And, welcome aboard! 🙂 I’m impressed that you read the whole thing. Especially since at least a third of it is off-topic silliness, these days. And, you’re probably right; there probably aren’t any on-topic jokes that haven’t already been made, but don’t worry about that. You made up for it with the quality of your post. It’s interesting that your perception was that everyone over 30 swallowed. I probably should have asked people to state an approximate age range when they posted, so we’d have more data to work with. Maybe I should start a new thread to ask that question. 😃 It also sounds like you understand the male side of the equation quite well. But, it’s interesting that you feel that younger men have more trouble reaching orgasm orally. I understand your point, but I would have thought the younger man’s tendency towards having a “hair trigger” would cancel that out, if not swing the balance in the other direction. I will say, though, that changing rhythym _at the wrong time_ did tend to cause problems for me, back when it was an issue. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2003, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1015 "2003-05-29T12:30:43Z")
Thanks for the welcome! Coffee’s about the only beverage I can handle just now, barkeep. 😉 I see your point, in my experience it was the fellas who needed to be in charge of the rhythym that had the issue. Seems more prevalent in young guys somehow, that need to jackrabbit thrust to climax just won’t be duplicated by our mouths, and that’s where they get hung up so to speak. You’re oh so right about changing it up making it last, but that’s when being vocal is just ever so important. A nice color commentary from above keeps everyone convienently on the same page. Nothing worse than deciding a position change would be handy right about now, going to move and seeing Mr.Happy rather disenchantedly leak all over the space you just vacated. Ack! ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2003, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1016 "2003-05-29T12:59:22Z")
Now dave… you do know it is impolite to ask a lady her age! Although you could argue that many of us are not ladies but that would also be impolite 🙂 I myself am exactly 30 … well not to the day but you know what I mean… but I didn’t start magically swallowing on my birthday it is something I have done all along! ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2003, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1017 "2003-05-29T13:27:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Queen Tonya \* > **Thanks for the welcome! Coffee’s about the only beverage I can handle just now, barkeep. 😉** One cuppa joe. I’ll let you add the cream, yourself, as you see fit. Wouldn’t want anyone wondering where it came from. 😉 > [@](#): > > \*\* I see your point, in my experience it was the fellas who needed to be in charge of the rhythym that had the issue. Seems more prevalent in young guys somehow, that need to jackrabbit thrust to climax just won’t be duplicated by our mouths, and that’s where they get hung up so to speak. > > You’re oh so right about changing it up making it last, but that’s when being vocal is just ever so important. A nice color commentary from above keeps everyone convienently on the same page. Nothing worse than deciding a position change would be handy right about now, going to move and seeing Mr.Happy rather disenchantedly leak all over the space you just vacated. Ack! \*\* Ah, the foolishness of youth! Oh, well. At least there are compensations for it. Hmm…communication during sex…another potentially interesting thread topic. Which means it’s probably been done, and I just didn’t see it. But, I tend to be very UNcommunicative during sex. At least, verbally. Of course, I’m not very talkative _most_ of the time. I really prefer non-verbal means of communication. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*Now dave… you do know it is impolite to ask a lady her age! Although you could argue that many of us are not ladies but that would also be impolite. > > I myself am exactly 30 … well not to the day but you know what I mean… but I didn’t start magically swallowing on my birthday it is something I have done all along! \*\* I suspect many, if not most, of the ladies who’ve posted, here, _are_ ladies, in that sense of the word, in public. You certainly seemed to be, at the Dopefest. That doesn’t mean they can be wanton women in private. 🙂 But, this board isn’t exactly a hotbed of polite manners, anyway, and it would have been a useful data sample, had I thought to ask when posting this thread. Of course, I never expected to get so many responses. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1018 "2003-05-30T13:03:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > > But, this board isn’t exactly a hotbed of polite manners, anyway, and it would have been a useful data sample, had I thought to ask when posting this thread. Of course, I never expected to get so many responses. \*\* Never expected so many responses? On such an interesting question? 😉 I do wish more of the C._none of the above_ folks had answered, I truly don’t understand that P.O.V. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2003, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1019 "2003-05-30T13:41:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Queen Tonya \* > \*\*Never expected so many responses? On such an interesting question? 😉 \*\* No, I didn’t. This thread is over 2 months old (we missed its birthday, dammit!), and has over 1,000 responses. There’s no way I could have anticipated that, when most threads, including sex threads, last a week, or less. > [@](#): > > \*\*I do wish more of the C._none of the above_ folks had answered, I truly don’t understand that P.O.V. \*\* The “unfortunate consequence” option? Yeah, we didn’t hear from many of those people. I guess none of my ex’s are Dopers. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Rob\_V](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Rob\_V](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rob_V)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2003, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/1020 "2003-08-22T23:21:23Z")
Hi folks! Name’s Rob. Been lurking thru this WHOLE UNBELEIVABLE THREAD for days. I must say, you all are an impressive bunch of nice people. Feel like I’ve gotten to know a lot of you, 'specially Dave (sorry about the recient bad dating experiences dude, but your writing style is awsome!) Unfortunately, it is quitting time and I must go home and leave the Spit -r- Swallow Pub for the weekend. I’ll havta pick up on page 20 next week. I just wanted to say what an amazing little place y’all have here. (Dispite the wanker over in the corner ;^) ) And I wish you all the best luck, Dave. And the same for the rest of ya! I would like to offer an answer to I think it was the nice lady refered to as Dream Girl asked, which was: How does a gal get her point across that it’s ok if her guy cums in her mouth? I would think that making yummy sounds and, at the appropriate time, a lusty “Oh yeah, c’mon, give it to me!” would SURELY do the trick! (Geez, just writing that just about did it for me) For the record on the OP, the once or twice I actually DID cum in my wife’s mouth she descretely jus let it dribble. OK by me. Would be nice for a swallow, but I’m not too picky. I understand it’s uncomfortable after a while, and, I eat a lot of spicey food too, so I imagine I don’t taste too good. Here’s to hoping the ol Spit-r-Swallow never closes and you exceed the 100pg record! Cheers, Rob [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=50) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=52)