# Spit or Swallow? A followup poll TMI? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 29, 2003, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070 "2003-03-29T20:44:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![TGWATY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5e925/32.png) [@TGWATY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TGWATY)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/101 "2003-04-01T14:53:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by FaerieBeth \* > \*\*:eek: :eek: :eek: > > No! Ick! Sticky! Viscious! > > and just out of curiosity, how is that possibly a turn on? I have **never** understood the ‘money shot’. > \*\* Sorry for the hijack but, FaerieBeth, you think it’s icky to have it on you but yet you _swallow_ it?!? But, hey, believe me, if you were my gal I wouldn’t be complaining either way. 😃 Mrs. TGWATY is in the you’re-not-getting-that-anywhere-near-my-mouth category. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/102 "2003-04-01T15:08:04Z")
I agree with Faeriebeth about the ick sticky don’t want to be covered in it concept and I do (usually) swallow. The two concepts are completely unrelated! I like ice cream but don’t wish to be covered in it either. Think of butterscotch syrup for ice cream… Yummy to eat but that stuff would never come out of my hair! Would you really want to be drenched in spaghetti sauce? So there are lots of things that are icky to have stuck to you but fine to swallow. ---
**Author:** ![TGWATY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5e925/32.png) [@TGWATY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TGWATY)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/103 "2003-04-01T16:13:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tanookie \* > \*\*I agree with Faeriebeth about the ick sticky don’t want to be covered in it concept and I do (usually) swallow. The two concepts are completely unrelated! > > I like ice cream but don’t wish to be covered in it either. Think of butterscotch syrup for ice cream… Yummy to eat but that stuff would never come out of my hair! Would you really want to be drenched in spaghetti sauce? > > So there are lots of things that are icky to have stuck to you but fine to swallow. \*\* I took “icky” to mean revolting, not just uncomfortable. Is your reaction to the thought of syrup in your hair really revulsion? No. But so she finds something revolting to the touch but is okay with swallowing it. People don’t make sense. Sex doesn’t make sense. Again, sorry for the hijack. I’ll shut up now. If anyone else wants to do discuss the beauty of the facial cumshot, let me know and we can start a thread. (Especially if you’re female and live near K.C.) ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/104 "2003-04-01T16:40:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*_Sorry, **RH**. Here ya’ go. I gotta get a second bartender for this thread._ > > I’m really not trying to be offensive, here, especially when you’ve been so nice about participating in this thread, but I’m having trouble phrasing this, so please don’t take it as judgmental or an attack or insult. I really don’t mean it that way. But, this is the second time a woman has referred to expecting something major or trading for something she wanted, in return for some “special” sex. (The other reference may have been in the other thread.) > > And, I have to ask, why isn’t this wrong? Were you serious, or just joking? I agree, he should _want_ to do something special for you, if you do something special for him. But, I can’t quite get behind the idea of this expectation. It makes it seem sordid, to me. \*\* Don’t worry… what I meant is that I would consider this something special, something that I’d want him to know I want to do because I want to make him happy, to please and pleasure him. Not a run of the mill, oh its Friday so you can cum in my face day. By saying getting major goodies in return, I mean that if there was something I really wanted to do, I’d love him to reciprocate by wanting to do it for me. I didnt mean it as “oh so I’ll do this now you gotta do that - we made a deal”. Its more about wanting to do something for the other person to show that you love them so much - about doing something that you wouldn’t **just** do with anyone else. Does that make sense? I wasn’t talking about letting him do that as a way to get something for me - more as a way of showing him how much I care for him and wanting him to want to do something else for me because he cares that much for me. Saying that, I can’t think of a thing that I’d want that I’d even have to ask for - lets just say he knows all the right buttons to push and is extremely creative lol… Hope that explains it? ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/105 "2003-04-01T17:58:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sappho \* > **I still don’t really understand, in practical terms, how the spitting thing works. Are there really women who’ll run off to find a sink straight after a blow-job? And, surely, if it’s because they don’t like the taste they’ll only end up tasting more of it that way?** Yes, they exist. I don’t know if it’s actually the taste, in which case swallowing quickly would be the best course, or the texture, or if it’s just psychological. We haven’t gotten much detail from the spitters, here. I didn’t want to question them, because I didn’t want other spitters to feel unwelcome. > [@](#): > > \*\*I don’t particularly mind swallowing. It wouldn’t be my beverage of choice, but it’s not too bad & it makes men happy. On the post cunnilingus kiss subject, I don’t like it _that_ much but mainly because it makes the kiss sloppy. That said, I once dated someone with a beard and it really wasn’t pleasant to have to kiss a soggy beard that smelt of me afterwards. \*\* Yeah. Basic etiquette for cunnilinguists; wipe before approaching for a kiss. Even on a pillow or sheet. I admit, there _have_ been times I forgot, but I try to remember. As a formerly bearded man, I can tell you it’s pretty much impossible to wipe the scent out of a beard. That takes soap and water. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/106 "2003-04-01T18:00:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sappho \* > \*\*And on another note, I did once have someone ask to come all over my face. Although I can understand why there have been some negative “it’s all about degradation, power” reactions to that idea, I don’t think that was what it was about the time I let someone do it. I would interpret it as being about messiness. The guy I was with was very playful and liked mess. That included things like flicking water at me in the shower. Wanting to come on my face, I honestly think was just an extension of that. Extending it, I think it was a desire for sex to be open and playful and honest rather than “clean”. \*\* Interesting. That’s an attitude I hadn’t considered. One more bit of ignorance vanquished. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![flybynight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/71c47a/32.png) [@flybynight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flybynight)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/107 "2003-04-01T18:03:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by pokey \* > \*\* Is all blowjob activity supposed to stop as soon as the guy orgasms or is that one of those ‘every guy is different’ things? \*\* Well, I can’t speak for all guys, but I will say that I certainly don’t mind it. In fact, one time, I even did the multiple orgasm thing when my SO didn’t stop right away… that was pretty cool, both that I could do it, and that she was into it enough to accomadate that long of an, umm, “act” :o On a side note, am I the only one? No one ever talks about guys being able to do that. Maybe I’m just too 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/108 "2003-04-01T18:04:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Indygrrl \* > \*\*I don’t spit or swallow. I take it out of my mouth before he shoots the load. One time a guy came in my mouth and I threw up and felt sick the entire day…Never had a complaint. \*\* If my editing is off, let me know, but I’m assuming the last sentence was in regard to the first. My take on the lack of complaints is, no, you never will get a complaint from any guy who has any hope of ever getting you to do it, again. That doesn’t mean they’re not disappointed, though. It’s better than nothing, but it’s a distant third, IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/109 "2003-04-01T18:19:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Spit \* > \*\*This’ll teach me not to do a vanity search… \*\* Bahahahahaha…sorry. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/110 "2003-04-01T18:22:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*What’s a “snowball”? \*\* The third alternative to “spit or swallow”, of course. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/111 "2003-04-01T18:26:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rhino’sHoney \* > \*\*Don’t worry… what I meant is that I would consider this something special, something that I’d want him to know I want to do because I want to make him happy, to please and pleasure him. Not a run of the mill, oh its Friday so you can cum in my face day. > > By saying getting major goodies in return, I mean that if there was something I really wanted to do, I’d love him to reciprocate by wanting to do it for me. I didnt mean it as “oh so I’ll do this now you gotta do that - we made a deal”. Its more about wanting to do something for the other person to show that you love them so much - about doing something that you wouldn’t **just** do with anyone else. Does that make sense? > > I wasn’t talking about letting him do that as a way to get something for me - more as a way of showing him how much I care for him and wanting him to want to do something else for me because he cares that much for me. > > Saying that, I can’t think of a thing that I’d want that I’d even have to ask for - lets just say he knows all the right buttons to push and is extremely creative lol… > > Hope that explains it? \*\* Yes, this I can wholeheartedly agree with. **Tanookie** ’s explanation still sounded a little like a business deal. (Sorry, **T**.) Maybe this is what she meant. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/112 "2003-04-01T18:35:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tracer \* > \*\*The third alternative to “spit or swallow”, of course. \*\* Ah! **TGWATY** ’s preference. Didn’t make the connection because you were talking about taste. Obviously, you’re referring to the open-mouthed version of a facial. ---
**Author:** ![Sappho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sappho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sappho)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/113 "2003-04-01T18:37:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*As a formerly bearded man, I can tell you it’s pretty much impossible to wipe the scent out of a beard. That takes soap and water. \*\* Yes, I realise that it wasn’t his fault. He did used to offer to go and wash it out (with special beard shampoo, no less!) but I preferred to have him there with a smelly beard than not at all! As for the coming on your face thing, as I said before, on the only occasion when someone I was with asked me to do it I didn’t think it was particularly icky or scary. I don’t, on the other hand, know whether that was a special case. Or even whether I’m just being naive putting it down to the reasons I gave. But most sexual fixations/desires/fetishes arise for different people for different reasons so I wouldn’t want to condemn any particular practice without experience of it. ---
**Author:** ![\_etalhea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/779978/32.png) [@\_etalhea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_etalhea)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/114 "2003-04-01T20:10:59Z")
Wow, what a thread! I have so many comments I don’t know where to start. Strike that, yes I do. I want to start by saying thank the creator for my (unfortunately non-doper) girlfriend! She gladly swallows, even to the point of doing the little gargle-and-slurp tricks like they do in the movies. She’s also up for facials as long as I aim clear of the eyes (thanks to an unfortunate incident where we had to go to a club with a group of friends and she had to keep explaining why she had one red eye). She’ll take it pretty much anywhere I wanna put it, and she does a good job pretending that it’s the nectar of the gods. I found her after and exhaustive search during which I encountered the whole range of reactions listed above. I love that girl. One comment that kept cumming up in the thread was guys who don’t know what their ejaculate tastes like. Now, I didn’t actually pursue this knowledge, but over the years I’ve accidently hit myself in the face may times, and, well, tasting it was unavoidable. In my opinion, the taste was no problem, it was that stick-in-your throat feeling afterwards that made you feel the need to repeatedly clear your throat. It bothered me, but the //\etallibabe seems to have no problem with it. And a question for **Phraser** , > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by phraser \* > \*\*(this could be considered TMI so if you’re squeamish about butch dykes or any kind of D/s relationship I advise you to **READ NO FURTHER** > > Well, it’s a complicated issue, and this is just my opinion… ask 20 people and you’ll get 20 different answers. > I enjoy it because I can see my partner gets off on it. I also enjoy it as an act of submission to my partner. I don’t especially like the taste of rubber/silicon or the feeling of being about to gag, but i enjoy the intimacy of it, and what it symbolises. > > If I’m getting my (strapped on) cock sucked, I like the power dynamic of it. Also, if you’ve got a good imagination, you can _almost_ feel it and it feels damn good 🙂 > > Does that answer the question? I can go into more detail if you really want… \*\* There’s a harness, I believe it’s called a tuxedo harness, that allows you to have two dildos, one in the normal position and one inside you. Supposedly, this gives the wearer some sensation in response to each thrust, I guess to make it more like the real thing, not that that’s necessarily what you’re going for. At any rate, any experience with these? Does it work? Just curious. ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/115 "2003-04-01T21:50:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by //\etalhea|) \* > \*\*One comment that kept cumming up in the thread was guys who don’t know what their ejaculate tastes like. Now, I didn’t actually pursue this knowledge, but over the years I’ve accidently hit myself in the face may times, and, well, tasting it was unavoidable. > > In my opinion, the taste was no problem, it was that stick-in-your throat feeling afterwards that made you feel the need to repeatedly clear your throat. It bothered me, but the //\etallibabe seems to have no problem with it.\*\* With reference to guys tasting their own (and I guess in response somewhat to Dave said about things a guy wants to do for his girl)… my bf tasted his own cos I asked him to. I didnt know he did til later (phone sex I should explain - thats why I wasnt there at the time lol)… he told me in our next call that he knew I thought it would be interesting if he did, so he did. He wasnt impressed and wont be trying it again in a hurry (though did have the same accident as //\etalhead (sp?) a few times lol)… but I was pretty impressed he tried it. I knew he was squeamish, I knew he never would have tried it had I not mentioned it, I knew he thought it was a bit odd - and I didn’t prompt him or ask him over and over… I just said once have you ever tasted it… I was impressed with this… lol… hmmmmm says a lot about me I guess 😛 ---
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/116 "2003-04-01T22:30:26Z")
“Guy who doesn’t mind spitters” checking in here. I’ve always figured that if i don’t like the idea of having that stuff in my own mouth, then i shouldn’t be offended if my SO isn’t too keen on it either. I should add that my squeamishness regarding the tadpole milkshake is not a product of homophobia or anything - i’ve just always thought that it smells and tastes pretty gross. I don’t quite understand those guys who see spitting as some some sort of rejection, a sign they are is “unwanted,” to use **FaerieBeth** ’s hubby’s term. I mean, come on people, a willingness to suck your member is a pretty poor indication of rejection in my book. If a woman is willing to give me head until i come, then i figure she can do what she wants with the product. ---
**Author:** ![FaerieBeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e95f7d/32.png) [@FaerieBeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FaerieBeth)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/117 "2003-04-01T23:51:30Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Spit \* > \*\*This’ll teach me not to do a vanity search… \*\* Bwahahahahah ha ha ha 😃 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by TGWATY_\*\* > Sorry for the hijack but, FaerieBeth, you think it’s icky to have it on you but yet you swallow it?!? \*\* Hey! I like guacamole, too, but I’m not going to go around rubbing it all over my face! 😛 FaerieBeth ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2003, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/118 "2003-04-02T04:07:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Yes, they exist. I don’t know if it’s actually the taste, in which case swallowing quickly would be the best course, or the texture, or if it’s just psychological. We haven’t gotten much detail from the spitters, here. I didn’t want to question them, because I didn’t want other spitters to feel unwelcome. > \*\* What the hell. I’ll give you some detail, and you can feel free to question me. For me, it’s usually more the texture then the taste. Sometimes it’s more like curdled milk then creamy goodness. I can hold it in my mouth, but I just can’t make it go down. ---
**Author:** ![Honeydew\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e19b73/32.png) [@Honeydew\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honeydew_1)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2003, 8:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/119 "2003-04-02T08:30:50Z")
Friend of mine doesnt/cant swallow… she thinks of egg whites and just wants to barf. Believe me, she’d do it if she could, she just cant - she really cant though has tried many many times (wanting to do it for her guy and all that)… she felt terrible about it for a long time until he finally made her understand that whatever she does for him is a good thing. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2003, 9:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070/120 "2003-04-02T09:11:12Z")
[Sigh… eleven years and counting :(] Mrs M. will, once in a very long while, offer a little oral-genital contact, not usually for more than a minute and extremely tentative at that. Sometimes it helps if she is extremely excited on her own account, but not often. She starts gagging if I even begin to leak, never mind having to worry about spitting or swallowing. For the record, I know what my own stuff tastes like (“tadpole milkshake” 😃 😃 😃 ) and, while the first time I tried it as a teenager was a supreme test of courage and endurance, familiarity definitely breeds confidence. I can’t speak for other men’s and I’m never likely to. I don’t say that it’s a taste I’d ever seek out deliberately, but it’s no big deal if, say, I need to clean it off my fingers. A young lady I discussed the subject with once upon a time swore by keeping a glass of OJ by the bed to take the taste away. [/Sigh… eleven years and counting…] [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow-a-followup-poll-tmi/165070.md?page=7)