# Spit or Swallow? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 8, 2001, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022 "2001-01-08T16:51:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/21 "2001-01-09T01:09:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Melpomene \* > \*\*Anyway, I too would like some input from the guys. I have a million and one guy pals and while they will share with me, in great detail, many of their sexual escapades - on this issue they hedge quite a bit. \*\* Speaking for myself, and by extension generalising for the masses, I think it is fair to say that 99.9% of all heterosexual men **really, REALLY like** receiving a good blow job. If he says it’s not important to him, he’s trying to spare your feelings. Of course, he’s a guy, so he transparently nags you about it simultaneously 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Gunslinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/4491bb/32.png) [@Gunslinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gunslinger)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/22 "2001-01-09T01:26:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by racinchikki \* > \*\*Me? Well, I’m certainly not adverse to the idea of blow-jobs or whatever other (relatively) harmless thing that would bring my partner pleasure, and the way I see it, if you’re having it in your mouth in the first place ya might as well swallow it. :shrug: \*\* 😃 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/23 "2001-01-09T01:34:02Z")
hey jay-c, why don’t you jerk off & then put the come in your mouth & decide if you should spit or swallow? That way you can see what your family has to put up with. Also, let us know what you decide. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/24 "2001-01-09T01:46:31Z")
You’re a good reader, once again, handy. Barring the instance that **jay-c** is gay, I’d say she’s female. ---
**Author:** ![lno](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@lno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lno)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/25 "2001-01-09T04:00:13Z")
Hetero guy checking in. Swallowing’s better, for very vague reasons. It feels more personal, more sensual, and the longer she lingers down there, the better. When she gets up to spit, I just feel like sulking, not necessarily because she’s spitting rather than swallowing, but because she’s moving. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/26 "2001-01-09T05:53:14Z")
jay-c, hypergirl, why don’t you both come on over and we’ll discuss this in more… depth. now then. My wife has TMJ, to the point where eating a meal is painful, and I’m one of those guys that it takes forever to finish that way. Needless to say, I don’t get them from her hardly ever. I don’t push, I don’t nag, it’s something she just can’t do… However, with other women, if they swallow, it is much more satisfying. It’s not a requirement, I’m not JDT for ghod’s sake, but it is better. And I will always return the favor if I possibly can… for as long as possible. Hell, a glass of water and some caffeine pills and we can make a night out of it… hehehehe Just my bit. ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/27 "2001-01-09T06:38:37Z")
Well, unless my husband wants me to throw up on him, I don’t swallow (I can’t stand the taste). But we both find it erotic to watch the…er, show. BTW - we have a signal (warning, TMI) when he’s ready to climax, he squeezed my arm and I withdraw. ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/28 "2001-01-09T10:08:03Z")
I don’t care, as long as she doesn’t spit it ON me. ---
**Author:** ![zen101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c68b51/32.png) [@zen101](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zen101)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/29 "2001-01-09T11:03:07Z")
I have only had orgasm from oral sex once and she swallowed. I was nearly passed out at the time and this is probably why I climaxed. I don’t ejaculate in a woman’s mouth for one main reason, I wouldn’t want it in my mouth. Smells funny, looks funny, probably tastes funny too. The only problem I could see from spitting would be if it was spat onto the bed or wherever. I supposes if there was a towell nearby that would be handy dandy. on the gripping hand I would probably be too caught up in the euphoria of the moment to notice much of what was going on anyhow. I have never had a woman give me oral sex after intercourse (too timid to ask or too tired) but have often fantasized that it would be the bees knees, but then again I’m hypersensitive after copulation so it might be too much for me. ---
**Author:** ![jay-c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@jay-c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jay-c)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/30 "2001-01-09T14:40:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\*hey jay-c, why don’t you jerk off & then put the come in your mouth & decide if you should spit or swallow? That way you can see what your family has to put up with. Also, let us know what you decide. \*\* > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coldfire \* > \*\*You’re a good reader, once again, handy. Barring the instance that **jay-c** is gay, I’d say she’s female. \*\* …I am a semi-hetero, 25 year old female. After foolin’ around with the SO last night, I came up with another thought - how many guys will kiss their partner post-swallowing? I’ve had one SO who would squeal like a girl and run if my mouth even came near his afterthe deed. The current SO has no such problems, however. He says that if I don’t have a problem with it, why should he? How common is this attitude? ---
**Author:** ![Amazing\_Tiki\_God](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/779978/32.png) [@Amazing\_Tiki\_God](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amazing_Tiki_God)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/31 "2001-01-09T14:51:12Z")
Personally I think swallowing is better because my SO stays down there while I climax and just gives me the most friggin’ outrageous orgasms. Oh Jay-C I don’t think the kiss after oral sex thing is common. I don’t give a crap but that is just me most guys are weird when it comes to it. The way I figure it is if she’ll kiss me after I go down on her then it’s basically the same when she goes down on me. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/32 "2001-01-09T15:05:17Z")
Depends on mood and how in lust I am for the guy I’m with. Or his member. (Some dicks are too cute…but that’s my thing. I don’t have penis envy, I have bouts of penis worship.) I usually swallow, its more artistc that way. I enjoy the process and if I’m having fun its no big deal. If I’m bored/tired/don’t care I’ll withdraw. Unless I’m sick. I hate adding crap in my throat if there’s already crap there. And yes, it is an art. mm…kissing…mixed results, but the good ones don’t care. Kissing’s too much fun to miss out on. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/33 "2001-01-09T15:07:31Z")
I swallow because I hate having to clean up. Just keep a glass of soda handy and let those scrubbing bubbles do the trick. \<\\> ---
**Author:** ![Egad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Egad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Egad)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/34 "2001-01-09T15:16:30Z")
[QUOTE] \*Originally posted by jay-c \* \*\* > [@](#): > > After foolin’ around with the SO last night, I came up with another thought - how many guys will kiss their partner post-swallowing? I’ve had one SO who would squeal like a girl and run if my mouth even came near his afterthe deed. The current SO has no such problems, however. He says that if I don’t have a problem with it, why should he? How common is this attitude? \*\* If I may be blunt, I’ve had my partner take the mouthful of it and spit it back in mine. I think it’s called a " snowball. " And quite frankly I didn’t find it tasted much like anything. I’ve also kissed her with cum all over her face. But I like sex messy, so it’s all good to me. Was that too blunt? Oh well. ---
**Author:** ![Nen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Nen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nen)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/35 "2001-01-09T15:30:37Z")
Pertaining to question one, I can’t quite answer with a definitive spit or swallow. See the thing is, I could care less about were it goes. Sex is a liquid act. Everything from the undulation of bodies to the fine sheet of sweat to genital juices is at least reminiscent of liquid. My problem with oral sex arises if my partner retracts at the slightest taste of semen. That is a problem because I obviously haven’t had an orgasm yet. If my partner were to stick around long enough, technically speaking, the difference between spitting and swallowing is no big deal. Regardless, I do prefer a swallowing technique. It adds to the art that is sex. Women don’t always taste that great. So what? I’m not going to stop doing what I do best because of a little flavor. Sex is meant to be reveled in. I’m not going to stand back three feet and wiggle my fingers at arms length to avoid something unpleasant. In fact, one of the things that I like about sex is that because it is so deliciously intimate, limits fall away–a preconceived unpleasant act becomes that which one desires most. Regarding question number two, as I have said, sex is liquid art. I can’t expect my partner to taste the fluids I produce and flee at the prospect myself. If my partner were to do likewise, I wouldn’t be with them for long. I wouldn’t leave for the reason that there is something that someone dislikes, but because the act is just an act when one institutes limits. I like sex to be an art. I’ll kiss her more deeply than ever after she’s given me a blow job and I’d expect her to do the same after I’ve pleased her…and after the quivering subsides. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/36 "2001-01-09T15:49:26Z")
I’ve never been with a “spitter”, quite honestly, but I imagine that’d be pretty jarring. Swallowing implies an intense enjoyment in the act and, heck, of ME. I really really like that. Still, I have a hint for the ladies: we like receiving oral a lot, but it’s not real easy to have an orgasm (for many of us), so we don’t expect to have one at every BJ. Don’t kill yourself going for the finish line every time. As for the question of kissing after a swallow: as long as a minute or so goes by, I’m cool with it. If you’re squeamish about your own body fluids, you should be more reluctant to kiss a spitter because of the “gets all over the lips” factor mentioned earlier. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/37 "2001-01-09T16:28:14Z")
Mostly hetero female here. I have always swallowed, never thought to spit. It doesn’t taste bad. My husband doesn’t mind kissing me after, and I really like kissing him after he goes down on me. Further to these questions, can you girls (or guys!) deep throat? My husband likes me to do that but it makes me gag, and I can’t breathe. ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/38 "2001-01-09T16:40:06Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Medea’s Child \* > \*\* that’s my thing. I don’t have penis envy, I have bouts of penis worship.) > \*\* Just in case you were wondering, my e-mail is in my profile. And I don’t mind making long distance calls. Or travelling. FYI.😉 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/39 "2001-01-09T17:12:07Z")
“After foolin’ around with the SO last night, I came up with another thought - how many guys will kiss their partner post-swallowing?” Oh, I knew this was coming next (no pun intended). Why not just cut to the chase & talk about felching next jay-c? ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2001, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/40 "2001-01-09T17:29:34Z")
Deep throating. Yes I can, occasionally I do. No I can’t breathe…but I can also hold my breath for a couple of minutes at last check, so going a few seconds without air is only moderately disconserting. I’m usually much more worried about the fit of things. My mouth is not the most well organised of spaces. I have a cross bite, the roof of my mouth is slightly smaller than the base. This can cause an uncomfortably tight fit at my back molars. Singing helps, both to learn how to open and relax your throat/create space in your mouth and with breath control. (It also does not bad training for fine control of one’s tongue, but I’m beginning to think this is more that I really need to share…) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022.md?page=3)