# Spit or Swallow? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 8, 2001, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022 "2001-01-08T16:51:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Mersavets](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/aca169/32.png) [@Mersavets](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mersavets)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/81 "2001-09-03T14:46:43Z")
So I guess there’s no chance you’ll be joining me for a Quarter Pounder if you ever get to Melbourne? I hope I haven’t scared you away Pixie. It is a fine town although I do get a little sick of all the deviates running around here. :)Me ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/82 "2001-09-03T15:25:09Z")
Well, my BF and I are both monogamous and HIV negative, so I have swallowed his load on occasion. I just go extra deep when he is about to cum and then it slides down like an oyster. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/83 "2001-09-03T16:35:44Z")
I swallow. For four reasons: 1. The risk is quite low, barring open wounds in the giver’s mouth. 2. If I’m going to do all that work, I’ll be damned if I’m going to pass up the reward. 3. It is a definite enhancement of the receiver’s orgasm. I’ve had guys convulsing when they came. 4. I **like** the taste of semen. Apparently I’m weird… jayjay ---
**Author:** ![Potter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Potter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Potter)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/84 "2001-09-03T17:44:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jayjay \* > **4. I like the taste of semen. Apparently I’m weird…** Oh me too. Ohh yes. Speaking as someone who both gives and receives (yea so I consider myself something of an expert, shoot me)- [sub]Heheh **shoot** me, I kill myself sometimes[/sub] I swallow because I want, to because I _like_ to. I also find there’s nothing better for a scratchy throat if I’m feeling under the weather. Ditto with deep throat. If it’s just a lack of confidence in your abilities or limits, ask your partner if you can practise on him - he is NOT going to say no. Have something nearby to take the taste away if you’re not sure you’ll like it. Practise subtley - rather than a big ‘oh BLAH’ and a grimace, just flush it down with beer/juice/whatever. If somebody I was with didn’t want to swallow, no biggie. I would hate to think they were doing anything with me they didn’t feel comfortable with and making love should never be a chore. But someone who is into what they’re doing, and into you and all your tastes is a **good thing**. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/85 "2001-09-03T22:31:40Z")
jayjay wrote: > [@](#): > > 1. It is a definite enhancement of the receiver’s orgasm. I’ve had guys convulsing when they came. I thought **everybody** convulsed during an orgasm! ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [September 3, 2001, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/86 "2001-09-03T23:13:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by tracer \* > \*\*I thought everybody convulsed during an orgasm! \*\* Um…I don’t mean “tense up and grunt”…I mean “back arching, shuddering for over a minute, snap upper body forward by reflex with every secondary, tertiary, quaternary shot” convulsions. Goodness…I may have just made myself need to take a cold shower… :eek: jayjay ---
**Author:** ![DougC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7feea3/32.png) [@DougC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DougC)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/87 "2001-09-04T12:33:39Z")
- - - I’m all for equality and I swallow hers, so she has to swallow mine. Stopping to spit interrupts the experience at its most crucial moment. - As far as “he goes to the bathroom out that thing,”, take a shower and bring him along. I expect oral sex, and most guys I know of do also, and women that are known to refuse to do it do get avoided just for that reason. Try congratulating yourself on your high self-esteem the next time you’re sitting at home alone because you couldn’t find a date. - In my case, it is expected of the GF and will be of the (future) wife too. I am willing to return the favor, I am _more than willing_ to return the favor, but I won’t do hers more than two or three times if she don’t do mine, and if she isn’t willing to do it, I will find someone else who is. - MC ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/88 "2001-09-04T16:05:33Z")
I really don’t care either way, as long as I get to cum in her mouth. I don’t want to psychoanalyze it or anything, but that’s what I like. The worst, well okay, there are a lot worse things in life, is when you’re 99% percent there and your love monkey stops and gives you a handjob or something. ARGH! I will happily reciprocate. Heck, I’ll reciprocate to the 10th power. Kissing is great. Before or after, who cares. Actually, in my experience, I’ve known a fair number of women who don’t want to kiss after. Actually, once they know it’s “okay” then no problem. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2001, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/89 "2001-09-04T20:19:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jay-c \* > \*\*After foolin’ around with the SO last night, I came up with another thought - how many guys will kiss their partner post-swallowing? I’ve had one SO who would squeal like a girl and run if my mouth even came near his afterthe deed. The current SO has no such problems, however. He says that if I don’t have a problem with it, why should he? How common is this attitude? \*\* I have no problem kissing someone post-swallow. In fact, I think it’s slightly erotic. I’ve women lick my finger after pulling it from them, and it’s essentially the same thing. I’ve had women kiss me after I’ve went down on them. The reason guys prefer girls who swallow, IMHO, is this: If she doesn’t like the taste, or it makes her gag or whatever, it’s a subconcious rejection of him. ---
**Author:** ![thermalribbon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@thermalribbon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thermalribbon)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/90 "2001-09-05T03:39:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Survey1215 \* > \*\*Sophomore year in HS, I had the (mis)fortune of getting my first head job from a very attractive girl who kept the change. Friends told me that was rare and they were right - it wasn’t til after I graduated from college that I found another girl that actually liked/preferred to swallow. She said it was “rude” to do otherwise. She loved giving head, even more than getting it. I was in absolute heaven. > > Then we got married. > > Turns out that we had a limited oral sex clause in the vows. I didn’t hear it, sure didn’t write it, but apparently it was there. > > I shouldn’t complain. The actual sex is incredible, and there’s plenty of oral, as long as I’m reciprocating at the same time. But I do miss the times where I’d be doing laundry or somethin and it would get interupted by a quaaaality act of fellatio, with her following through by keepin the results. > > But hey! Marriage is bliss! \*\* — And all along, I thought I was the only one. Did you infiltrate my brain for this story or what?? This is the point where I hang my head sorrowfully, longing for days gone by. ---
**Author:** ![Mekhazzio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b38774/32.png) [@Mekhazzio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mekhazzio)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/91 "2001-09-05T04:08:38Z")
I don’t personally find the stuff delightful (it’s not the taste, it’s the texture) but my attitude on it is the same as **jayjay** ’s: as much fun as it is to actually get someone to that point, I’ll be damned if I’m gunna stop there 😉 It’s really not that bad, and, seeing as how I’m male myself, I know it really does help to stay there and give more care during and after the fact, both physically and psychologically. I can’t say I really understand why someone would spit. If you don’t want the stuff in your mouth, why are you even giving a blowjob in the first place? As for the “he goes to the BATHROOM out of that!” – so? I believe the same thing goes for female genitalia, and there’s any number of gross things people do with their hands, and hey, people sometimes -vomit- out of their mouths. Better not go kissing anyone. Sex with a psycho clean freak must really take all the fun out of it. ---
**Author:** ![Mekhazzio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b38774/32.png) [@Mekhazzio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mekhazzio)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/92 "2001-09-05T04:13:32Z")
Definitely mark me down for kissing after the fact, too – it’s a hell of a turn-on, and another nice part of the whole psychological acceptance bit. There’s really no reason not to – getting a taste of yourself after the fact isn’t bad at all. It’s a lot fainter secondhand…you get the nice musky taste, but none of the slimy texture. It’s good 😃 ---
**Author:** ![My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f14d63/32.png) [@My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/My_Darn_Snake_Legs)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/93 "2001-09-05T05:42:59Z")
As I remember, it didn’t matter much to me either way. It takes me forever to get off oraly, so I don’t stress it to much. As for kissing afterwards, sure! I would expect her to kiss me after I go down on her, so I think it’s only fair. I don’t really think about it really. I swear, my virginity is growing back… \ –==the sax man==– ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/94 "2001-09-05T14:05:16Z")
I also love giving head… my SO loves receiving it! After he’s climaxed and I’ve downed the goods I just continue what I was doing but I do it very gently and very softly… he’s very sensitive afterwards but really enjoys it and so do I. The better he feels, the better I feel. As for kissing afterwards, he has no problem with it and neither do I. Nothing is gross and nothing is a turn off. Being completely uninhibited and really enjoying everything about each others bodies is what sex is all about. The only time I won’t finish him off is when I have a head cold (no pun intended!)… it’s hard to do when I have a stuffy nose! ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/95 "2001-09-05T14:37:56Z")
But I have had some more experiances since my last addition here. After finishing a superlative act of fellatio (if I do say so myself) on a friend of mine he grabbed me and kissed me thank you quite happily. Think about it later I asked him why he wasn’t weirded out by the whole ‘I just had your semen down my throat’ aspect. His answer was “Once you get past the idea that full blown sex includes putting your most sensitive member in a warm phlegm filled hole, everything else is a step cleaner.” Some of my friends have wonderfully unique views on life. I adore them anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/96 "2001-09-05T16:28:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Medea’s Child \* > \*\* > After finishing a superlative act of fellatio (if I do say so myself)…\ \*\* **Medea’s Child** , will you marry me? Seriously. ---
**Author:** ![freckles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47c2d/32.png) [@freckles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckles)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/97 "2001-09-05T16:42:04Z")
I think it tastes different for different men. I had a boyfriend and I tried to swallow but I kept getting sick, then there is my new guy and there is absolutely no problem in swallowing. The taste is much sweeter! BTW, have you ever heard that eating fruit (a lot of fruit, sepecially melon) makes it taste sweeter, so guys get fruit shopping!!! ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/98 "2001-09-05T19:05:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Superdude \* > > **Medea’s Child** , will you marry me? Seriously. What do I get out of the deal? ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/99 "2001-09-05T19:18:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Medea’s Child \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Superdude \* > > > > **Medea’s Child** , will you marry me? Seriously. > > What do I get out of the deal? \*\* Well, FWIW, I believe in giving AND receiving, if that appeals to you. What would you LIKE out of the deal? ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [September 5, 2001, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022/100 "2001-09-05T19:33:39Z")
not that…but that may be more TMI than the Teemings really need. Hmmm…I think about it… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spit-or-swallow/49022.md?page=6)