# Spongemom - cooling **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 13, 2005, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269 "2005-07-13T01:15:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Genghis\_Bob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/45deac/32.png) [@Genghis\_Bob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genghis_Bob)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/41 "2005-07-13T15:17:04Z")
> [@NurseCarmen](#): > > Well then a mighty fuck you to you, **Spongemom**. Cripes, will you people read the \*whole freaking thread \* before piling on? There’s only 38 posts to slog through! ---
**Author:** ![Spongemom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Spongemom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spongemom)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/42 "2005-07-13T15:18:18Z")
> [@NurseCarmen](#): > > In light of post #36, I’d like to recant post #38. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/43 "2005-07-13T15:18:55Z")
> [@An Arky](#): > > If I may…see post #31. I type extremely slow. Her post wasn’t there when I started mine. Anyway, do you recant? I still don’t think you’ve answered the question now that you understand it correctly. I may be wrong and may have missed your reply. ---
**Author:** ![Ponder\_Stibbons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ponder_stibbons/32/343_2.png) [@Ponder\_Stibbons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ponder_Stibbons)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/44 "2005-07-13T15:18:57Z")
OK, OK, we had a lot of cross-purpose simul-posts there that kinda confused the issue. **Spongemom** just read the post wrong. Everyone re-sheath your claws! FWIW, **Spongemom** , I think you’re OK and we can be friends. Although it might be a good idea to spend more time in MPSIMS. This forum can be very … er … trying. ---
**Author:** ![FisherQueen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/58f4c7/32.png) [@FisherQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FisherQueen)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/45 "2005-07-13T15:19:29Z")
Oh, hey, let’s not revive that old issue, shall we? Can’t we just give Spongemom a chance before we all beat her to death with the nasty stickses? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/46 "2005-07-13T15:19:41Z")
Hold on! We’re all so freakin’ eager to pile on. The question was, Will she be recanting it? She thought it said, Will she be \*\*\*repeating \* \*\* it? She said no. She hasn’t even answered the first question! Cool off people and give her a chance. I defended her in that other thread, too. What happened, happened but do you guys really think she’s going to think about what she did/said if you all jump down her throats? If you really want her to stand back and look at her actions you need to be gentle. If everyone attacks nothing actually gets heard. ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/47 "2005-07-13T15:20:18Z")
> [@Amp](#): > > [Link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=318321). > > Warning! Heck of a train wreck that thread is. No shit that’s a train wreck. Not one of the finer moments of board behavior. “Hey, her cats are dead and she’s upset. Let’s kick her when she’s down.” :rolleyes: Real nice kids. I really don’t see why she should have to retract her “fuck all of you” statement. ---
**Author:** ![Genghis\_Bob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/45deac/32.png) [@Genghis\_Bob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genghis_Bob)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/48 "2005-07-13T15:21:26Z")
> [@NurseCarmen](#): > > In light of post #36, I’d like to recant post #38. In light of the fast-and-furiosity of posts in this thread, I’d like to recant post #41. I’d also like to go back to 1975, and be nicer to Anne in Speech Class… ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/49 "2005-07-13T15:21:44Z")
> [@Genghis Bob](#): > > Cripes, will you people read the \*whole freaking thread \* before piling on? There’s only 38 posts to slog through! We’ll forgive your simulpost. 🙂 [This movie](http://us.imdb.com/title/tt0098383/) taught us that “Fuck you!” is good. ---
**Author:** ![Spongemom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Spongemom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spongemom)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/50 "2005-07-13T15:22:39Z")
I don’t think I’m welcome at this forum anymore. I’m just here because of an email I got about this thread. Everyone jumped to wild conclusions without asking any questions, no one knows every detail, and this issue will never be forgotten, no matter what I post about. I’m sure of it. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/51 "2005-07-13T15:24:09Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > No shit that’s a train wreck. Not one of the finer moments of board behavior. > > “Hey, her cats are dead and she’s upset. Let’s kick her when she’s down.” :rolleyes: > > Real nice kids. I really don’t see why she should have to retract her “fuck all of you” statement. I disagree. I felt that the thread in question was well deserved, but that time is over. The issue is dead. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/52 "2005-07-13T15:24:28Z")
> [@Genghis Bob](#): > > In light of the fast-and-furiosity of posts in this thread, I’d like to recant post #41. > > I’d also like to go back to 1975, and be nicer to Anne in Speech Class… I thank you, and Anne thanks you. ---
**Author:** ![Genghis\_Bob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/45deac/32.png) [@Genghis\_Bob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Genghis_Bob)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/53 "2005-07-13T15:25:34Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > No shit that’s a train wreck. Not one of the finer moments of board behavior. > > “Hey, her cats are dead and she’s upset. Let’s kick her when she’s down.” :rolleyes: > > Real nice kids. I really don’t see why she should have to retract her “fuck all of you” statement. It’s the Pit. People get kicked around there. \*\*Spongemom \*\* invited everyone in to kick her neighbor around a little, more folks found her kick-worthy than they did her neighbors. That’s the chance you take when you initiate a post in the Pit. I think the prevailing sentiment was “hey, she’s at least partially responsible for the death of her cats, but refuses to accept it.” Kicking ensued. ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/54 "2005-07-13T15:26:20Z")
> [@Greathouse](#): > > I disagree. I felt that the thread in question was well deserved, but that time is over. The issue is dead. How on earth is that pile up deserved? ---
**Author:** ![35340](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/8baadc/32.png) [@35340](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/35340)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/55 "2005-07-13T15:26:39Z")
How **convenient** this is now reopened. After moving to the pit. From ATMB. Where bannings and the like are usually discussed in a relatively straightforward and civil fashion. Must have missed that rule, or is it on the ‘seekrit rules we follow when we damn well please’ list? I certainly can’t keep them all straight. That would be rule **eleventy-thirteen** , I expect:\* Bannings are listed in ATMB, warnings and time outs are not, and woe to you who object in ATMB because you are not a mod and your thread will be dumped in the pit and locked. Unless we change our minds. BWWAHHHAHAHAA! Fuck you and your civil discussions! You’ll die in the pit and you’ll like it! Door, ass, you know the drill.\* Which meshes nicely with rule **twelvififthly orange** : _We don’t delete things unless they are porn, posted by socks and we feel like it, or make any of the administrators look bad because we’ve decided to label some of their actions part of “the bad time” to give us an excuse to delete it. Never mind that you’re getting possibly legally actionable threats because of our refusal to act and boobheadedness - our admins don’t look bad (yet) so we don’t give a flying fucksicle (yet). Call us when someone leaves a flaming bag of poop on your doorstep._ > [@Biggirl](#): > > Perhaps this isn’t a pitting of **spongemom** but a pitting of the ‘cooling’ and now **Mynn** is sorry for re-upping to a board that would give SM a cooling off period. Got it partly. Add in: _As well as a board that admonishes people to not ‘bring things here’ or ‘take things elsewhere’ but won’t do jack about removing said threads of shit that keep getting brought up, referenced, and starting ‘taking things elsewhere’ all over again, even when said threats begin to cross the line into what appears to possibly be legal harassment._ I shouldn’t post when I’m pissed, or piss when I’m posting or take longer than 15 min in someone’s bathroom while pissing and posting or something. My original post might have been a tad more coherent if I’d made it after cooling off a bit. > [@Biggirl](#): > > Or mayhaps **Mynn** is writing in shorthand. They gave me a “D” as I recall for my casual approach to Mister Gregg’s way. **stretch** : after having another longtime board melt down by: [ul] [li]changing all of the code of conduct rules[/li] [li]taking all power from the mods[/li] [li]promoting their admin to another part of the company, leaving the messageborads rudderless[/li] [li]changing message board systems [/li] [li]not bringing on a sane admin who has had the reponsibility before[/li] [li]exposing the mod private board to all users[/li] [li]breaking everything from user accounts to URL linking to colors[/li][li]removing some of the favorite features of the boards[/li] [li]randomly adding words to the “starred out bad words” list to prevent users from comparing the ‘new’ site to another really bad site that is also their competitor[/li] [li]adding the name of the site people created to jump ship to “bad words” list[/li] [li]putting it all back again so no words were banned, then asking nicely people don’t actively recruit to the new board way after the fact[/li] [li]locking random threads[/li] [li]ignoring private messages requesting closing of accounts/deleting of accounts, requests still within the rules[/li] [li]deleting random threads[/li] [li]unlocking all previously (before the software change) locked threads[/li] [li]asking people to post in technical support and then ignoring the posts in technical support[/li] [li]replying to tech support questions randomly in their equivalent of GQ, then saying people should post in technical support[/li] [li]exposing everyone, former and current users, to spam spiders because they couldn’t figure out for three weeks how to hide everyone’s email address (especially us who were locked out)[/li] [li]ignoring phone calls to request emails be hidden[/li] [li]emailing or PMing users to tell them to fix their own email problem, even when the users were **locked out because of the changes** [/li] [li]emailing and PMing users to tell them their problem was fixed, when it wasn’t[/li] [li]not doing anything about all the exposed emails until it was pointed out they were violating the Federal CAN SPAM act[/li][/ul] and then people leaving, starting their own board and using the supposedly private registration information to harrass me (others as well? unknown) (I shoulda never signed up to ‘reserve’ my name and prevent imposters) as well as other shit … **I figured this place with one or two fucked up Admins wasn’t so bad after all.** I was wrong. Very wrong. **Spongemom** , looks like they aren’t keeping this one locked and you’ll be invaded for a while. I’m sorry to have unwittingly exposed you to this fuckiness again. I had posted this in ATMB as a general “Y’all’s whole action on this is pretty lame brained” (see above response to Biggirl) … but according to rule eleventy thirteen, it was dragged into the pit so people could shit on you again. … mmmm … flying fucksickles. I could do with a spot of lunch right about now. ---
**Author:** ![Ponder\_Stibbons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ponder_stibbons/32/343_2.png) [@Ponder\_Stibbons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ponder_Stibbons)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/56 "2005-07-13T15:27:20Z")
**Spongemom** , I don’t think it’s a case of being welcome or not. The Pit just brings out nastiness in a lot of people. If you hit a topic where people disagree, it will come out in the most disagreeable fashion possible. It happens here all the time, and you just got bit by it is all. I think, however, you’ll find things different in MPSIMS, Cafe Society, etc. I hope you’ll stick around. And in light of all the recanting going on, I’d like to go back to 1985 and ask that one girl out that I couldn’t get the nerve up to ask out … ---
**Author:** ![Spongemom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Spongemom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spongemom)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/57 "2005-07-13T15:31:08Z")
I’d like to continue in this thread, but I’ve got an appointment to get to, then I’ve got to head out of town to my mom’s. I’ll be back sometime this evening, and hopefully this whole mess can be resolved maturely. ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/58 "2005-07-13T15:33:31Z")
For what it’s worth Spongemom, I think you should stick around. At least try to get your moneys worth. ---
**Author:** ![Slacker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6bbea6/32.png) [@Slacker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slacker)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/59 "2005-07-13T15:34:55Z")
> [@Mynn](#): > > How **convenient** this is now reopened. After moving to the pit. From ATMB. Where bannings and the like are usually discussed in a relatively straightforward and civil fashion. Must have missed that rule, or is it on the ‘seekrit rules we follow when we damn well please’ list? I certainly can’t keep them all straight. (much more snipped out) Ok, I read this post a couple times and I have no idea what you’re saying **Mynn**. Can anyone translate? ---
**Author:** ![Ponder\_Stibbons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ponder_stibbons/32/343_2.png) [@Ponder\_Stibbons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ponder_Stibbons)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2005, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269/60 "2005-07-13T15:36:18Z")
\*_Spongemom_ I don’t have a problem with. **Mynn** , however … good gravy. Let’s look at your OP, hmmm? > [@Mynn](#): > > **Spongemom - cooling** > got it. > > My bad for re upping. > > bye. Where the FUCK are we supposed to get that you’re upset that this has anything to do with > [@](#): > > …a board that admonishes people to not ‘bring things here’ or ‘take things elsewhere’ but won’t do jack about removing said threads of shit that keep getting brought up, referenced, and starting ‘taking things elsewhere’ all over again, even when said threats begin to cross the line into what appears to possibly be legal harassment. And you _dare_ go on about “‘seekrit rules’”? Go read your own OP again, dumbass. It looks like a pitting. The mods moved it because it looks like a pitting. Now you’re upset they didn’t read your mind? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spongemom-cooling/312269.md?page=4)