# spooners: what do you do with the other hand? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 24, 2005, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425 "2005-08-24T14:36:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![CynicalGabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@CynicalGabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CynicalGabe)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/1 "2005-08-24T14:36:17Z")
When spooning: what do you do with the arm that isn’t around your partner? Under the pillow under your head? Straight down your body? Under the pillow but forearm up in the air? I’ve yet to find a position that is totally comfortable. Please help. ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/2 "2005-08-24T14:39:39Z")
Slide it under their neck, and hold their upper body with it. You’re supporting their head (which is comfy for them), and you don’t need to do gymnastics or stuff it under their torso. ---
**Author:** ![Madd\_Maxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Madd\_Maxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Madd_Maxx)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/3 "2005-08-24T14:39:51Z")
Let your fingers do the walking. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/4 "2005-08-24T14:39:59Z")
Both arms around her. The upper part of the bottom arm acting as part of the pillow. ---
**Author:** ![EarthStone777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ab992/32.png) [@EarthStone777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EarthStone777)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/5 "2005-08-24T14:46:04Z")
I’m not sure which hand you are referring to, as both of my hands are around my partner. When I spoon Mrs. Stone, and I am laying on my left side, my left arm is straight out in front of me in front of the next pillow. She lies down with her back to me and her head on the pillow, such that my biceps is in the crook of her neck. This allows my forarm to bend toward her so my left hand can grip her… stomach. My right arm reaches over and around her allowing my right hand to stroke her… hair. It’s like a hug from behind but while lying down if you do it right. ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/6 "2005-08-24T16:59:15Z")
So this isn’t about eating soup then… ---
**Author:** ![harmless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/2acd7d/32.png) [@harmless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmless)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/7 "2005-08-24T17:11:57Z")
‘Bottom’ arm goes under my pillow under my head. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/8 "2005-08-24T17:27:32Z")
Handful of boob 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/9 "2005-08-24T17:36:19Z")
Straight down my body. Any other position, prevents me from getting close enough to kiss and nibble his neck. ---
**Author:** ![Phlosphr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Phlosphr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phlosphr)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/10 "2005-08-24T17:41:25Z")
> [@harmless](#): > > ‘Bottom’ arm goes under my pillow under my head. Same here. Though I wake up about three hours into the night with a heavy arm - aka it falls asleep in that position. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2005, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/11 "2005-08-24T18:59:01Z")
Crossword puzzles, Mad Libs - whatever’s available. I like to multi-task! Or, similar to a previous poster’s response, get a handful of pecs. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/12 "2005-08-26T13:58:26Z")
Either under the pillow, under both our heads, elbow bent so my hand is under my own head, or under her neck, holding her left (upper) shoulder (I always spoon whilst on my right side, as my left shoulder is wonky and doesn’t like being on the bottom). ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2005, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooners-what-do-you-do-with-the-other-hand/318425/13 "2005-08-26T14:01:12Z")
I sleep on my side, spooned up to my husband while he is on his back. My head on his chest. Consequently, I have the arm problem, which goes straight down my side and usually with my hand on his leg. Make sense?