# Spooning / Cuddling and the pain **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 3, 2015, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770 "2015-02-03T22:57:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2015, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/21 "2015-02-04T20:23:47Z")
Another pillow or thicker pillow under her head, and put your arm through the gap between her shoulder and the pillow? ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2015, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/22 "2015-02-04T21:21:31Z")
I wrap my bottom arm across my chest/upper arm to avoid that problem, as well as the problem of waking her when I eventually pull my arm from under her pillow to roll over. Also, I read somewhere years ago that sleeping with your bottom arm up or under your or her pillow is really bad for your shoulder. I heard it substantiated elsewhere but never actually looked into the veracity of it, but chose to alter my sleeping position in case it’s true. ---
**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/23 "2015-02-05T01:43:56Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Well, ya’ know, hey… If your arm goes numb, you can always just gnaw it off and roll over to a more comfortable position. Not with this girl, but there were some in the past where a numb arm could have been desired just for this purpose.🙂 You guys are cracking me up. Thanks for the humor and the suggestions. I’ll try a few over the weekend and give everyone the full blow-by-blow report! ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/24 "2015-02-05T03:32:15Z")
Look for the “Gel” toppers. They have some sort of cooling gel that counteracts the warming effects. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/25 "2015-02-05T03:52:43Z")
> [@somepumpkin](#): > > I’ll try a few over the weekend and give everyone the full blow-by-blow report! TMI!! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/26 "2015-02-05T04:01:29Z")
So the arm in pain is the one ‘under’ your lady. Put that arm under your head (under your own pillow). [Be like Picard on a Klingon ship with no pillow](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BMu4lhY7X4). Try not to have an android facing you as you try to sleep. ---
**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/27 "2015-02-05T14:21:08Z")
> [@bup](#): > > So the arm in pain is the one ‘under’ your lady. > > Put that arm under your head (under your own pillow). [Be like Picard on a Klingon ship with no pillow](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BMu4lhY7X4). Try not to have an android facing you as you try to sleep. Hey, that Picard move might work. And double-bonus… she “loves her some” JLP, so it might help w/ this weekend’s blow-by-blow account 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/28 "2015-02-05T17:12:06Z")
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**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2015, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/29 "2015-02-05T17:21:59Z")
> [@somepumpkin](#): > > Hey, that Picard move might work. And double-bonus… she “loves her some” JLP, so it might help w/ this weekend’s blow-by-blow account 😛 …make it so… ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2015, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/30 "2015-02-12T04:07:15Z")
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**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2015, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/31 "2015-02-12T18:36:22Z")
I know most of you have been losing sleep 😃 worrying about my plight, so I thought I’d give a brief update of our work-in-progress. Well, the J-LP trick didn’t work. Part of the problem is that, while I’m equally as handsome as Jean-Luc, I’m not as charming. That could be due to the fact that my French vocabulary is limited to words like; porte cochere, omelette, macrame & grand prix. Additionally, the arm under the head thing might work for 3-4 takes of a 1-minute scene, but I’ll bet even J-L wouldn’t last 15 minutes in that pose. What did work was the arm-sandwich between 2 slices of pillow. Well, it worked for me, but baby-cakes wasn’t thrilled with her head being that high through the night. We’re going to try an egg-crate (pad, not an actual crate) this weekend, though I like to think that all the valentine’s amour (hey, more ~french that I know!) in the air will allow me to “muscle” through it for a night. Also, she’s game to the gel-top but we’re still researching at the moment. Thanks again for all the great suggestions, links and humor! ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2015, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/32 "2015-02-12T18:48:35Z")
I’m awfully sorry. > [@somepumpkin](#): > > That could be due to the fact that my French vocabulary is limited to words like; porte cochere, omelette, macrame & grand prix. Such a shame! Truly, Grand Prix was a disappointment to her…? That IS too bad. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2015, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770/33 "2015-02-12T20:09:49Z")
She’s not much into grand prix, but she did enjoy [Rush](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rush_%282013_film%29). Grand Prix is one of my favorite French words (and sports), but porte cochere is much more fun to say. Though neither one is very sexy. I should try to put all 5 of my French words into a romantic sentence for our dinner on Saturday. Or maybe I should just cook her an omelette. :rolleyes: Anyone care to offer some assistance? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spooning-cuddling-and-the-pain/711770.md?page=1)