# Spouses, etc...ever grossed out by s/o naked? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 5, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615 "2010-07-05T18:24:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2010, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/21 "2010-07-06T22:35:51Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > My husband strongly resembles a dirty old man. Actually, I think I’m going to start calling him Dirty Old Frenchman like **mnemosyne.** But is your husband actually a Frenchman? (Well, mine’s Québecois French, but still…!) 🙂 > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Your husband and my husband - separated at birth? Telling Jim something he’s doing is unattractive is pretty much a surefire way to get more of it. 🙂 Then whatever you do, do not mention high-waisted pants around him while he’s wearing pyjama pants, because that’s a sure-fire way to get him to hike them up as far as they’ll go, slouch and stick out his belly and then try and fondle you. Trust me on this.! :eek:😛 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2010, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/22 "2010-07-06T23:33:27Z")
> [@mnemosyne](#): > > B\ > Then whatever you do, do not mention high-waisted pants around him while he’s wearing pyjama pants, because that’s a sure-fire way to get him to hike them up as far as they’ll go, slouch and stick out his belly and then try and fondle you. Trust me on this.! :eek:😛 I must regretfully inform you that it’s too late - he already does this with both pajamas and gitch (that’s tightie-whiteys to you Murkins). I’m not exactly sure what the draw is of hiking his pants up like that; it certainly isn’t for looks. ---
**Author:** ![Superhal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Superhal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superhal)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/23 "2010-07-07T00:24:07Z")
Inspired by this thread, I had a conversation about what is attractive/not attractive about each other with my wife. For me, I wish several things were bigger (fingers, lips) and other things were smaller (thighs, cellulose) on her. But to her, apparently I’m still a hot piece of ass who dresses like a hobo and always has something stuck in his teeth. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/24 "2010-07-07T00:32:06Z")
> [@Superhal](#): > > Imho, about 80% of divorces are a result of making a bad decision about who to marry The other 20% come from making a GOOD decision about who to marry? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Rex\_Goliath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bcef8e/32.png) [@Rex\_Goliath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rex_Goliath)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/25 "2010-07-07T03:41:55Z")
nvm ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/26 "2010-07-07T03:54:26Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I’m not exactly sure what the draw is of hiking his pants up like that; it certainly isn’t for looks. I believe it’s the bizarre man camel-toe that happens when the balls get smooshed on either side of the crotch seam. Most guys seem to find that hilarious. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/27 "2010-07-07T04:45:54Z")
When I look at the woman I love I still see her as she was 30 years ago. When voting for matters of the heart, the eyes have it. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/28 "2010-07-07T05:00:03Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > The other 20% come from making a GOOD decision about who to marry? 🙂 Heh heh. > [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I believe it’s the bizarre man camel-toe that happens when the balls get smooshed on either side of the crotch seam. Most guys seem to find that hilarious. That must be it. For the record, I believe that is known as “moose knuckle.” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/29 "2010-07-07T08:17:23Z")
> [@Superhal](#): > > Inspired by this thread, I had a conversation about what is attractive/not attractive about each other with my wife. For me, I wish several things were bigger (fingers, lips) and other things were smaller (thighs, cellulose) on her. But to her, apparently I’m still a hot piece of ass who dresses like a hobo and always has something stuck in his teeth. Underline mine: you’re married to Poison Ivy? ---
**Author:** ![Flipshod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f19dbf/32.png) [@Flipshod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flipshod)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 11:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/30 "2010-07-07T11:15:20Z")
> [@Superhal](#): > > … I had a conversation about what is attractive/not attractive about each other with my wife. … Are you freakin’ crazy?😃 ---
**Author:** ![Flipshod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f19dbf/32.png) [@Flipshod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flipshod)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/31 "2010-07-07T11:19:20Z")
The attractive things were memorialized the first 2 years. The unattractive things have been building up silently the whole time. Let that sleeping dog lie. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/32 "2010-07-07T12:59:18Z")
> [@Superhal](#): > > Inspired by this thread, I had a conversation about what is attractive/not attractive about each other with my wife. For me, I wish several things were bigger (fingers, lips) and other things were smaller (thighs, cellulose) on her. But to her, apparently I’m still a hot piece of ass who dresses like a hobo and always has something stuck in his teeth. I’m really curious why you wish her fingers were _bigger_, but I’m a little afraid to ask. :o ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/33 "2010-07-07T14:52:19Z")
Good thread, folks – thanks. Several have hit upon what I think is an important general observation: that just about anyone can be sexy to their spouse SOME OF THE TIME, and not at OTHER TIMES. The factors which determine this are so numerous – half the factors are about the perceiver’s state of mind, hunger, etc., etc., at the moment, and the other half are about the perceived’s appearance (and smell, and attitude, etc.) at the moment, including such things as posture, time since last shave, etc. Then, there are the entirely external factors which can make a moment sexy or not (ambient temperature, noise, presence of kids, etc. etc.). So many complex factors, there are bound to be moments when we find our SO sexy, and bound to be other moments when we do not. Try not to take it personally, and don’t make any radical decisions about the relationship just based on this. And to paraphrase the Robin Williams character in _Good Will Hunting_, the flaws _are_ (or can be part of) the “good stuff”. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/34 "2010-07-07T14:54:33Z")
> [@mnemosyne](#): > > But is your husband actually a Frenchman? (Well, mine’s Québecois French, but still…!) 🙂 Nah, he’s Indian. But Dirty Old Indian Man sounds so forced. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/35 "2010-07-07T16:50:22Z")
I find my boyfriend incredibly sexy but I must admit it took me a long time to get used to his uncircumcized penis. I still don’t find it his most attractive attribute. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2010, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615/36 "2010-07-07T17:13:24Z")
> [@Superhal](#): > > Inspired by this thread, I had a conversation about what is attractive/not attractive about each other with my wife. For me, I wish several things were bigger (fingers, lips) and other things were smaller (thighs, cellulose) on her. But to her, apparently I’m still a hot piece of ass who dresses like a hobo and always has something stuck in his teeth. I’m really having trouble imagining how this conversation went that didn’t result in your wife feeling pretty crap about herself. I dunno, if my husband asked me what parts of him I found unattractive and I said ‘none’ and then he launched into a laundry list of things about me that he found nasty including my big flabby thighs, skinny lips, etc. I think my feelings would be pretty hurt. However, I totally recognize that I wasn’t there and that may not be how the conversation went down. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/spouses-etc-ever-grossed-out-by-s-o-naked/545615.md?page=1)