I thought I knew you better than that, too, but what you’ve written here is tremendously insulting. I mean, look at what you’ve written here:
You start with “Why make the Asian guy gay,” then immediately segue into, “Asians don’t get a lot of roles in Hollywood.” Which is an odd complaint to bring up in this context, as the actor currently playing Sulu, John Cho, is Asian. Then you bring in Cumberbatch as Khan, as an example of Hollywood erasing an Asian character. What, exactly, is the connection between the trend of erasing Asian characters in Hollywood, and making this character Asian? The only connection I can see is that being gay and being Asian are somehow mutually incompatible - that by making Sulu gay, they are somehow taking away his ethnicity. I’d really love it if you meant something else by that - but if you did, I cannot divine it from what you’ve written here.
I’m aware of the ongoing issue with Asian in Hollywood never being cast as the protagonist, or as a serious romantic lead, and I agree that it’s an important issue. And I think that issue does exist with the new ST movie, but the way you’ve stated it in this thread is terrible. By giving Sulu a family (and making the family largely incidental to the actual plot) they’re effectively taking Sulu off the table for potential romantic subplots.* But that’s an issue that exists regardless of his sexuality. If he had a wife and daughter, it’d be exactly the same problem. But you didn’t address this issue: you said, “Asian guys never get the girl,” and making Sulu gay guarantees that. But he does get (or has gotten) the guy, which is every bit as much a victory for representations of Asians in romantic relationships as it would be if he had a wife. By presenting Sulu being gay as a continuation of the trope of effectively sexless Asians, you’re implying that “getting the guy” is a less desirable outcome than “getting the girl.”
And that’s not even touching the comparison between revealing that Sulu is gay, and killing off an Asian character, which just… holy shit! What were you even thinking with that?
*This cuts against the movie in more than one way, actually, because by making the gay character married and a parent, they also preclude themselves from having to write a gay romance subplot somewhere down the line.
And this is the coup de grace. You’re explicitly saying that making an Asian character gay makes him less Asian. I mean, I don’t even with this. How can you look at that post, and think that this is in any way an okay thing to say? Sorry, straight lady. If Hollywood is wrong for ignoring Asians, then you are every bit as wrong (if significantly less culpable) for ignoring gay Asians. You don’t get to argue about Asian representation as much as you do, and then turn around and complain that they’re not showing the right kind of Asian.