Exactly. If it’s jealously of success, why don’t people hate Jean-Luc Picard, the captain of Starfleet’s flagship, a seventy-times decorated veteran and super-genius starship captain, interstellar explorer, and diplomat?
My problem with the Wesley Crusher character was exactly that; he doesn’t belong on the bridge. He CAN’T. It’s the flagship of a gigantic military operation, which (according to multiple examples throughout the various Star Trek shows and movies) accepts only exceptionally talented people, and among all the ultra-talented officers aboard, the no-nonsense captain lets a kid be the helmsman on the first shift? Even granting that it’s a fantasy show, it’s just impossible to swallow. Every other lieutenant and ensign on the ship would be shrieking with rage and writing redress-of-grievance letters to Starfleet. Picard’s sanity would be openly questioned. Starfleet would order him to put a stop to it. It’s not even consistent within its own mythology. Would the United States Navy allow a captain’s kid to steer an aircraft carrier in combat operations?
What’s further frustrating is that I never could divine any reason for it. Wesley wasn’t young enough to appeal to kids, and teenagers hated him as much as anyone and likely would have preferred to see another Starfleet officer.
What’s REALLY strange about it, though, is that the idea of having a kid on the ship is actually a very good one; it would allow for some characterization of the other main characters, especially Dr. Crusher and Captain Picard, as they try to relate to a precocious kid. Alexander, although he could be irritating, brought a lot of life out of the character of Worf, and properly used Wesley could have done the same with Dr. Crusher. Conceptually, he’s a very promising character. Kids are part of life, and it would be neat to see a kid in the 24th century, and it opens up avenues for the other characters. But Wesley instead spent more time saving the Enterprise than he did interacting with his mother and friends, which leads the the problems described above AND robs Dr. Crusher of any hope of being an interesting character; she instead became an irritating, sanctimonious windbag.