# Stop being so weird about sex (tmi) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 13, 2007, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907 "2007-12-13T21:16:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/21 "2007-12-13T21:50:05Z")
Hey, **Forumbot** , you lost your licence plates recently by any chance? [I found them.](http://i164.photobucket.com/albums/u20/loizboy/combo.jpg) Yeah, when a girl jingles your particular bell, there’s no end to the kind of bullshit you’ll put with. I know all about that. But dude, life’s too short. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/22 "2007-12-13T21:56:52Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] What sex there is is quite good, but that won’t last. [/QUOTE] What you described doesn’t even sound like sex, it sounds like you’re masturbating into her (likely through no fault of your own). Sounds like she has deep-seated sex and self-esteem issues, which you may not be able to do much about. If she thinks she’s fat or her vagina is dirty, sex will never be great. I’m sure one day she’ll find a guy (or girl) who’ll introduce her to her showerhead, explain that women who like sex aren’t whores, unleash her inner sexpot, etc. but… well, it obviously won’t be you. Just end it, as nicely as possible. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/23 "2007-12-13T22:00:16Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] My main problem: she is in constant contact with many ladies I am rather interested in courting and absolutely the type to get offended and spread rumors. [/QUOTE] Ditch her. The things she says to her friends will probably only pique their interest in you. ---
**Author:** ![Winston\_Smith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@Winston\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winston_Smith)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/24 "2007-12-13T22:00:22Z")
I have absolutely no pity for anyone who sticks with a lousy lay. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d9b06d/32.png) [@Boozahol\_Squid\_P.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boozahol_Squid_P.I)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/25 "2007-12-13T22:00:31Z")
[QUOTE=samm] I gotta ask… how does one “bottom from the top”? [/QUOTE] Come on, people… use your imagination: the lady 's on top, but sits there motionless (instead of lying there motionless) while the gent still provides all the active motion. ---
**Author:** ![RedSwinglineOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a9adbd/32.png) [@RedSwinglineOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedSwinglineOne)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/26 "2007-12-13T22:01:38Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] …Yeah, I made a mistake. But did I mention how majestic this booty is?.. [/QUOTE] Cite? ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/27 "2007-12-13T22:05:10Z")
[QUOTE=Freudian Slit] Bottoming from the top is sort of a BDSM term. Like, you have someone doing things _to_ you but you’re in control because you’re telling them what to do. [/QUOTE] Hmm. I’d have called that topping from the bottom. YMMV. [QUOTE=ForumBot] \But did I mention how majestic this booty is? And I have an obligation to fulfill. [/QUOTE] Pic? An obligation to fill. How juvenile. :rolleyes: I like it 😃 ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/28 "2007-12-13T22:21:48Z")
“What sex there is is quite good?” What a pitiful definition of good sex. Never settle for just good, especially when this is obviously not even that. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/29 "2007-12-13T22:36:36Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] Ditch her. The things she says to her friends will probably only pique their interest in you. [/QUOTE] Especially if the reason you give her for breaking up is that she can’t get her freak on well enough to suit your needs. That’ll pique some interest amongst her friends, at least the ones you really want to know. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/30 "2007-12-13T22:41:49Z")
That soooo is not worth it. Maybe you should start interviewing potential “dates” based on how good they are in bed and not how their ass looks. What good is that fine ass if she won’t let you leave the lights on to look at it? I mean, that’s pretty much what you are going for and not looking to waste a bunch of time on someone that’s looking for a real realtionship instead of jumping into bed on the first date. I figure if you hit a large enough quantity you’re bound to find some quality. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/31 "2007-12-13T22:45:37Z")
Not only do you owe it to yourself to let her loose - you owe it to her. Once you decide a “relationship” with someone has numbered days, you need to let the person know. If you want to let her know with “I’ll keep screwing you until something better comes along or I can figure out how to dump you without pissing off your friends” and she agrees to it - no harm, no foul. But you do have an obligation to let her know that is where things sit. ---
**Author:** ![Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e56c9b/32.png) [@Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harriet_the_Spry)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/32 "2007-12-13T22:51:15Z")
And don’t hate on her. She is doing something that is probably frightening and emotionally painful for her, because of whatever it is she likes about you. Yeah, it’s not living up to your expectations, so just politely and respectfully end the relationship. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/33 "2007-12-13T22:55:25Z")
[QUOTE=Harriet the Spry] And don’t hate on her. She is doing something that is probably frightening and emotionally painful for her, because of whatever it is she likes about you. Yeah, it’s not living up to your expectations, so just politely and respectfully end the relationship. [/QUOTE] Dammit, there you go, humanizing someone I was laughing at. ☹ (thanks) ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/34 "2007-12-13T22:58:25Z")
In all seriousness, now, have you guys ever talked about this? Does she have hang ups resulting from something traumatic in her past, something like that? ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/35 "2007-12-13T23:06:23Z")
Yeah, it’s time for a talk. Dont string her along. I’m not saying you’re being selfish, but try to think of things from her perspective. ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/36 "2007-12-13T23:17:25Z")
[QUOTE=Harriet the Spry] She is doing something that is probably frightening and emotionally painful for her [/QUOTE] What evidence is there she finds the relationship frightening and (emotionally) painful? She seems only weakly manipulative and selfish to me. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2007, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/37 "2007-12-13T23:24:54Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] Yeah, it’s time for a talk. Dont string her along. I’m not saying you’re being selfish, but try to think of things from her perspective. [/QUOTE] Is this the same **Auto** who regaled us with stories of ladels and so forth? 🙂 You’ve come a long way, baby! ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/38 "2007-12-14T00:10:26Z")
[QUOTE=Freudian Slit] Is this the same **Auto** who regaled us with stories of ladels and so forth? 🙂 You’ve come a long way, baby! [/QUOTE] Thanks, I think. I’m the same person as before, really. Are you saying people attributed my anal picadillos to problems with relationships? I mean yeah I can understand how I seem less immature and attention-whorish, but I’m not getting the connection between my post and yours as it stands. Dont mean to hijack things though, so PM me I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/39 "2007-12-14T00:28:23Z")
[QUOTE=Freudian Slit] In all seriousness, now, have you guys ever talked about this? Does she have hang ups resulting from something traumatic in her past, something like that? [/QUOTE] If it’s not a relationship, that’s probably not a topic of conversation. She needs to get herself sorted out before a relationship, f-w-b action, whatever. ---
**Author:** ![A.R.Cane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@A.R.Cane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A.R.Cane)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/40 "2007-12-14T00:50:47Z")
Sounds like she has some serious psychological issues about sexuality. If you care for her you might try to get her to a therapist, but you should at least be honest w/ her about the problem. Sex and money are the two major deal breakers. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907.md?page=3)