# Stop being so weird about sex (tmi) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 13, 2007, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907 "2007-12-13T21:16:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/61 "2007-12-14T19:19:29Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Fight] You interpret her previous actions as… stuck up? She didn’t like being touched and thought her body was dirty… and that makes her a snob? [/QUOTE] Yeah, I thought that was a little odd, too. Obviously if she’s dating you she doesn’t think she’s too good for you. It sounds like she has an issue, but not a stuck up one. ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/62 "2007-12-14T19:24:36Z")
Or she’s “saving” herself for someone she deems more fuckworthy. IAC, a talk is due. ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/63 "2007-12-14T19:28:23Z")
[QUOTE=ChiefScott] Or she’s “saving” herself for someone she deems more fuckworthy. IAC, a talk is due. [/QUOTE] 😕 This isn’t like giving it up in the butt here. Throwing on a lamp or letting me get a nice spank in (I love that ass) isn’t so different from the rest of our sex. And when _I’m_ getting bootycalled, well, just say I think you’re wrong. ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/64 "2007-12-14T19:32:27Z")
It wouldn’t be the first time. Every once in a while one of my insecurities prariedogs above the cubicle wall and shades my opinions. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/65 "2007-12-14T19:57:19Z")
> [@ForumBot](#): > > YOU’RE NOT MY REAL MOM 😃 😃 😃 This SLAYED me. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/66 "2007-12-14T20:06:11Z")
[QUOTE=Hostile Dialect] 😃 😃 😃 This SLAYED me. [/QUOTE] Me too. 😃 Kudos. BTW my brother split up with one of my best friends for this reason. (It’s embarrassing to know about the bedroom antics - or lack thereof - of a good friend and a close family member, but there you go.) After they broke up she became a slut for a few years. It might have been hangups when they were an item, but it wasn’t a problem that ecstacy and alcohol couldn’t cure. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/67 "2007-12-14T20:12:05Z")
[QUOTE=appleciders] I have to say, applying free-market economics to sexuality is a novel concept, and this makes a surprising amount of sense. Now I don’t just want sex, I want socialist sex! Share and share alike! Viva la revolucion! [/QUOTE] But in Russia, sex _has you_, tovarisch. ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/68 "2007-12-14T20:22:36Z")
[QUOTE=jjimm] but it wasn’t a problem that ecstacy and alcohol couldn’t cure. [/QUOTE] _Iiinnnnteresting._ ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2007, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/69 "2007-12-14T20:29:35Z")
[QUOTE=AudreyK] What evidence is there she finds the relationship frightening and (emotionally) painful? She seems only weakly manipulative and selfish to me. [/QUOTE] She seems weakly manipulative and selfish to you? Based on what he typed?!? Methinks you’re bringing your own baggage into this situation. He admits this isn’t a relationship and implies that it is just for sex. He’s thinking of getting with another girl if she’s into him, but can’t be bothered to cut this one loose who sounds like she’s uptight as hell. And she’s the one who is selfish? Oh ok. Gotcha. [QUOTE=ForumBot] It’s not clear this isn’t a relationship? Unless you mean “relationship” in the sense that I have a “relationship” with my dad? [/QUOTE] THAT is the funniest thing I’ve read today. You’re not in a relationship, this is just sex. Gee, it sounds like the sex is just fabulous. How hard up are you? ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2007, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/70 "2007-12-15T00:14:20Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Fight] You interpret her previous actions as… stuck up? She didn’t like being touched and thought her body was dirty… and that makes her a snob? [/QUOTE] Bah. No, just wrong usage of “stuck up”. No, I just think she was neurotic. ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2007, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/71 "2007-12-15T17:19:00Z")
Update! The girl is gone. I talked to her, but I don’t think I’m personally invested enough in her to tell her why. Tell the truth, there was even more that I didn’t like about her and all those qualities came out last night. So she’s dumped. I didn’t fully elaborate as to why I didn’t want to see her as anymore as anything but a friend, but the following words may have been used: “hell”, “crazy”, and “as”. Veni vidi vici. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2007, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/72 "2007-12-15T17:30:57Z")
[QUOTE=Cerowyn] Hmmm… I’ve heard “topping from the bottom,” but not “bottoming from the top.” I guess it would describe several people I know, though. Time to update next week’s lecture. [/QUOTE] My bad…It’s been a while since I’ve attended a BDSM club lecture… I guess I assumed it was “bottoming from the top” since the OP used that term and I heard it used on “The Sopranos.” I’m going to a BDSM party tonight, so I think I’ll try to set myself straight. ---
**Author:** ![essell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/34f0e0/32.png) [@essell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/essell)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2007, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/73 "2007-12-15T17:47:07Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] Veni vidi vici. [/QUOTE] I think in this context it’s meant to be Vidi, Vici, Veni. ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2007, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/74 "2007-12-15T18:12:14Z")
Gee, I would have told her why she had to go. Then she would have told all her girlfriends you wanted to be more adventurous in bed. Then they would have come looking for you, seeking adventure. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2007, 7:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/75 "2007-12-16T07:41:27Z")
[QUOTE=Sleeps With Butterflies] She seems weakly manipulative and selfish to you? Based on what he typed?!? Methinks you’re bringing your own baggage into this situation. He admits this isn’t a relationship and implies that it is just for sex. He’s thinking of getting with another girl if she’s into him, but can’t be bothered to cut this one loose who sounds like she’s uptight as hell. And she’s the one who is selfish? [/QUOTE] Please show me where I said the girl was the only one being selfish and manipulative. You won’t have to look far-- you’ve got my entire post quoted there. Just because I didn’t comment on the OP’s actions doesn’t mean I think he acted nobly. I don’t. ---
**Author:** ![ForumBot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee59a6/32.png) [@ForumBot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ForumBot)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2007, 9:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/76 "2007-12-16T09:50:58Z")
How dare you accuse me of associating with a lady of highest class solely for her posterior to be anything but the noblest of actions. How dare you imply that I, the noble **Forumbot** , am to lower myself to such base behavior, to reduce my highest of intentions to that of the common unthinking animal which calls himself man. That you would thing I act with anything other than the highest of enlightened movites is insulting. I challenge you to a duel. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2007, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/77 "2007-12-16T22:32:49Z")
[QUOTE=ForumBot] How dare you accuse me of associating with a lady of highest class solely for her posterior to be anything but the noblest of actions. How dare you imply that I, the noble **Forumbot** , am to lower myself to such base behavior, to reduce my highest of intentions to that of the common unthinking animal which calls himself man. That you would thing I act with anything other than the highest of enlightened movites is insulting. I challenge you to a duel. [/QUOTE] No kidding, eh? ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2007, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/78 "2007-12-17T01:15:39Z")
[QUOTE=essell] I think in this context it’s meant to be Vidi, Vici, Veni. [/QUOTE] Brilliant! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2007, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/79 "2007-12-17T15:47:52Z")
[QUOTE=freckafree] Brilliant! 😃 [/QUOTE] For those of us who only struggled through Greek, and not Latin, could you explain the joke? thanks! ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2007, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907/80 "2007-12-17T15:50:03Z")
[QUOTE=BMalion] For those of us who only struggled through Greek, and not Latin, could you explain the joke? thanks! [/QUOTE] “Veni, vidi, vici” ~ I came, I saw, I conquered. “Vidi, vici, veni” ~ I saw, I conquered, I came. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stop-being-so-weird-about-sex-tmi/429907.md?page=5)