# Straight Getting Married to one of Twins girl **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 2, 2015, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593 "2015-04-02T05:03:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/61 "2015-04-03T20:56:09Z")
> [@kiranlove](#): > > this is not xxx movie lyrics… ahhhhh ☹ > [@kiranlove](#): > > this is not xxx episode either now you’re just trying to hurt my feelings ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/62 "2015-04-03T21:28:15Z")
> [@AnaMen](#): > > You’re marrying someone you don’t even know at all. This is completely idiotic, regardless of how “normal” it is in your culture. :dubious: > [@Anaamika](#): > > People, this is India and this is an arranged marriage. Everything Anaamika said. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2015, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/63 "2015-04-04T00:35:21Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2015, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/64 "2015-04-04T01:23:35Z")
> [@kiranlove](#): > > do not rape anyone. your p\*\*\*\* will be stink of blood. no wild act, be human. I just know this is going to be a new board meme. **You penis will be stink of blood** Perfection. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2015, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/65 "2015-04-04T13:28:04Z")
> [@CairoCarol](#): > > nm Haven’t you said enough? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2015, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/66 "2015-04-04T14:14:15Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > Haven’t you said enough? > > 😉 Well, I could say more if you like! ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2015, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/67 "2015-04-04T22:10:47Z")
> [@Honey](#): > > I just know this is going to be a new board meme. > > **You penis will be stink of blood** > > Perfection. 😃 Just try not to say it when Umbridge is around. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2015, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/68 "2015-04-05T05:31:53Z")
To the OP. I’d suggest getting to know both women. Take them both out to eat and have a long talk with both of them. After all the other sister will be your new sister in law so she will be a part of your life whether you like it or not. Hopefully they will both become comfortable with you and will open up and you will better understand their different and unique personalities. On twins. It depends. Some were raised practically as one unit hardly spending a day away from each other. Others have developed their own personalities and can be quite different from the other. Either way you need to get to know them. ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2015, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/69 "2015-04-05T11:31:32Z")
> [@kiranlove](#): > > Do they like to have it/sex? Or uncomfortable? > Not from a reliable source, my grand parents and neighbors used to say it, so i have to listen to some extent. > A person had married to twin girl and they blessed with identical twins babies. A girl who is a twin is no more or less likely to be uncomfortable during sex as any other girl, unless she had physical complications during birth. Your grandparents and neighbors are wrong. A twin is not more likely to have twins (or at least not significantly). As with any marriage, communication about sexual matters is key. Talk to her. It’s likely, but by not means certain, that your wife will have a particularly strong relationship with her twin sister. It likely won’t get in the way of your relationship with her, but if it does, communicate your concerns with her. ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/70 "2015-04-06T08:24:09Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Do you have the performance enhancing drugs where you reside? lol. i do not need that, just freaking… so one man one lady ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/71 "2015-04-06T08:26:20Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > No you don’t. > > You can ignore them. Because they don’t know what the hell they are talking about. > > Here’s what you should worry about… that you’re easily led and don’t have sufficient strength of mind to seek out facts over old wives tales. > > Between you and your bride to be, I worry more about what she’s likely to get stuck with. What do you think she would think of you if she knew you had these ridiculous ideas about her state of health and mind? Do you think she wants a husband who will judge her based on nonsense he heard from people who are about to become her relatives and will almost certainly continue to judge, meddle and spread ignorance on a subject they know nothing about? her parents, they are well wishers. i just have to know her mentality ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/72 "2015-04-06T08:27:35Z")
> [@Peter\_Morris](#): > > But are they biological or cultural? how can i judge this? ofcourse they are cultural, what do you mean by biological then? ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/73 "2015-04-06T08:28:47Z")
> [@AnaMen](#): > > If you are old enough to be considering marriage, you should be old enough not to listen to people spouting nonsense, regardless of their age or position. They are not telling you “news,” they are passing along ignorant backward ideas. > > As they are elders, you might do well to listen to them in the sense that you attend to what they are saying and treat them respectfully, but that doesn’t mean you should believe them when they say things that are absurd. You have the internet. When an elder tells you something that seems questionable, Google it, then read and evaluate. (: yup ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/74 "2015-04-06T08:31:39Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > People, this is India and this is an arranged marriage. Our OP has limited opportunities at best to talk to people about this. He can’t just ask her, not necessarily. It depends on how “arranged” it is, and really, how close they are. If they were arranged first and became friends after, then they may not really be comfortable enough to ask questions like “Are you ok with sex?” > > Don’t tell him that he’s not mature enough to get married if he can’t ask those questions. In India, marriage comes first and all of that other crap second. If you don’t like it, well work on changing the culture. OP has a more immediate problem. > > To kiranlove: In my experience, twins aren’t that different from others. They will be close to their sibling. They may have a chance of having twins. You might want to look at the family and see how many other sets of twins there are. This is a question you can ask the matchmaker or the family. > > There should be no particular hangups about sex because she is a twin. Other reasons, who knows? > > I suggest that maybe you sit down with her next time you see her and ask her “What’s it like to be a twin?” You might get some interesting answers. > > Also, yes, do some research on twins. Look it up on the Internet. I am Indian and I can tell you, there’s a lot our elders don’t know but they don’t ever want to admit it so they will just say anything that comes into their head. If you ask too many questions, they say, “chup baccha” and that’s the end of it. > > You say they are not married to twins nor are they doctors. In that case I would nod and smile and not really listen to what they say. Instead, I would talk to your future wife whenever you can! Ask her how close she is to her sister. How many times a day will she want to talk to her? Remember that just because she is close to her sister doesn’t mean she can’t be close to you, too. That closeness takes time to grow, so don’t rush it if immediately after the marriage she’s not your best friend. Try to understand that her twin has been in her life since the beginning and you are the new one, so try to be a family. > > Above all good luck and mubarak ho! perfect and nice thought. ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 8:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/75 "2015-04-06T08:35:02Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > To the OP. > > I’d suggest getting to know both women. Take them both out to eat and have a long talk with both of them. After all the other sister will be your new sister in law so she will be a part of your life whether you like it or not. Hopefully they will both become comfortable with you and will open up and you will better understand their different and unique personalities. > > On twins. It depends. Some were raised practically as one unit hardly spending a day away from each other. Others have developed their own personalities and can be quite different from the other. Either way you need to get to know them. i guess this also pretty good idea. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/76 "2015-04-06T12:07:58Z")
> [@kiranlove](#): > > i just have to know her mentality The only way to know her thoughts on the matter is to ask her. There are no generalities that apply to all twins, and there are no significant differences between twins and non-twins when it comes to sexuality. So strangers on the internet can’t help you here. ---
**Author:** ![Orville\_mogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/aeb1de/32.png) [@Orville\_mogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orville_mogul)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/77 "2015-04-06T12:48:34Z")
Not aiming to fan the flames here, but this thread got me thinking a bit (which can be a dangerous thing…) I have never been in a relationship with an identical twin, but I could imagine some of my feelings of closeness and attraction for my wife getting unintentionally transferred to her twin. After all, they look alike, are genetically identical, and may have quite similar personalities. So it is not impossible that I might find myself with more feelings for the twin than I might otherwise have for a non-twin sister-in-law. And if I were a jealous type, imagining some other guy sleeping with the twin might be a bit unsettling. Might. Just some idle conjecture… ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2015, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/78 "2015-04-06T15:34:34Z")
Just make sure the other guy is you. Problem solved. ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2015, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/79 "2015-04-07T02:41:38Z")
> [@Orville\_mogul](#): > > Not aiming to fan the flames here, but this thread got me thinking a bit (which can be a dangerous thing…) > > I have never been in a relationship with an identical twin, but I could imagine some of my feelings of closeness and attraction for my wife getting unintentionally transferred to her twin. After all, they look alike, are genetically identical, and may have quite similar personalities. So it is not impossible that I might find myself with more feelings for the twin than I might otherwise have for a non-twin sister-in-law. > > And if I were a jealous type, imagining some other guy sleeping with the twin might be a bit unsettling. Might. > > Just some idle conjecture… ooooooooooooo ---
**Author:** ![kiranlove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/87869e/32.png) [@kiranlove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kiranlove)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2015, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593/80 "2015-04-07T02:42:38Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Just make sure the other guy is you. Problem solved. no way [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-getting-married-to-one-of-twins-girl/716593.md?page=5)