# Straight guys, are you turned off by hetero porn? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 5, 2012, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799 "2012-03-05T08:00:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/21 "2012-03-05T15:02:14Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > For some reason I do not enjoy cunnilingus performed by a guy- I just don’t want to see his face in there, for some reason. Same here, or the man kissing her - that also bothers me for some reason. Funny thing is, it’s the same thing with homosexual porn; a closeup of full-on man-on-man anal sex doesn’t bother me, but men kissing each other is yucky. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dc4da7/32.png) [@The\_Man\_With\_The\_Golden\_Gun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Man_With_The_Golden_Gun)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/22 "2012-03-05T18:00:15Z")
I don’t like seeing men in porn. Not because it’s “gay” or anything, but because male porn actors are almost always ugly as hell. Seriously, I’m straight and even I wouldn’t mind cock in porn if it was attached to a guy that didn’t look like he’d been whacked with the ugly stick a few thousand times. Maybe it’s just the porn I watch. I think I read somewhere that many porn studios do this intentionally because most porn is marketed to men and they want to ensure that the men watching will be turned on by the woman and not the man so the watcher won’t have one of those uncomfortable “homo moments”, as the article I read put it. Maybe I’m just an enlightened type, but having a “homo moment” where I’m briefly turned on by the guy honestly doesn’t bother me. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/23 "2012-03-05T18:29:33Z")
This is one of the most amusing threads I’ve read in a long time-- at least as entertaining as most porn(of any kind). My 2 cents’ worth: Not homophobic in the least, so seeing male/female or male/male sex doesn’t bother me at all. But for arousal, I’ll watch female/female every time. I think it’s simply because I find women much more attractive than men. FWIW, my ex-girlfriend(we were together 6yrs) felt the same way. She was bisexual, but would only watch lesbian porn. She was equally attracted to both sexes, but said that women were _ **visually** _ more erotic. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/24 "2012-03-05T18:50:08Z")
I guarantee they watch normal hetero porn. It started with one retard saying it trying to sound very-not-gay and then the other retards agreed with him, also trying to sound very-not-gay. The only problem I have is when I’m watching a woman get fucked in a porno and it cuts to the guy’s face for like five seconds. Really? Do we really need to have a random zoom-in on his face? ---
**Author:** ![obbn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/d6d6ee/32.png) [@obbn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/obbn)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/25 "2012-03-05T18:57:50Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Is it a generational thing? I’m 51, grew up on “Golden Age” porn, and prefer straight porn. The male star’s dick functions as a proxy penis for my own. I look at him receiving some excellent attention from a really skilled porn star like Vanessa del Rio and imagining that _my_ dick is receiving the same attention. Porn viewing is fantasy - me wishing I was in that situation. What part of this is gay? THIS. Sounds like the friend you are talking about is borderline homophobe. I’ve seen it in my younger days, one of our friends so intent on showing us that he was an all-American straight male that he would denounce anything as gay. Really stupid, porn is a fantasy, and while I like watching lesbians as much as the next guy all lesbo’s all the time would get down right boring. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/26 "2012-03-05T19:12:28Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > The only problem I have is when I’m watching a woman get fucked in a porno and it cuts to the guy’s face for like five seconds. Really? Do we really need to have a random zoom-in on his face? Look away! Look away! Aaaaaaah! ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/27 "2012-03-05T19:18:44Z")
Ron White weighs in. NSFW [RON WHITE- Do You Like Porn - YouTube](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mY711HJK7pg) ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/28 "2012-03-05T19:20:22Z")
That’s really silly. I’m gay and enjoy on occasion watching bi porn where the guys fuck the girls, then play with each other, and I seriously get into watching a hot guy putting his hot dick in a vagina that I’m not all that fussed about. So if I can look at something that is in fact alien to me (don’t have a vagina, never been near one) and not freak out about it, why wouldn’t they be able to look at a penis when they’re quite familiar with their own? Sounds like doth protesting too much, but not because I think they’re gay, just sounds like they’re of the mindset that conflates being a straight man by being SUPER NOT GAY AND MEN URGH GROSS ARGHHHHHHHHH!!!, rather than just being attracted to women. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/29 "2012-03-05T19:20:30Z")
> [@obbn](#): > > THIS. Sounds like the friend you are talking about is borderline homophobe. I’ve seen it in my younger days, one of our friends so intent on showing us that he was an all-American straight male that he would denounce anything as gay. Really stupid, porn is a fantasy, and while I like watching lesbians as much as the next guy all lesbo’s all the time would get down right boring. Thank you. I don’t get straight guys only watching “lesbian” porn - by this I mean the all-female productions intended for consumption by men and straight couples. (I’ve seen _genuine_ lesbian porn featuring women who look more like K.D. Lang and Rachael Maddow, and it is totally different.) My fantasy life, and porn viewing, is about having sex with hot women. The best way to do that is by seeing the women having sex. And the sort of sex I wish to see is fucking and sucking. And for that you need a penis. There are few things in this world stupider looking than woman sucking a dildo. ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/30 "2012-03-05T19:21:33Z")
I love getting blowjobs. I don’t enjoy watching blowjobs. I also don’t enjoy watching money shots or facials. I enjoy watching women receiving pleasure. Men? Not so much. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/31 "2012-03-05T19:23:29Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > There are few things in this world stupider looking than woman sucking a dildo. That’s for the androidsexuals. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/32 "2012-03-05T19:25:13Z")
I’m hetero, but I don’t watch very much porn at all. I have a basic requirement that both individuals be somewhat photogenic and the vast majority of people in porn films are just plain butt-ugly to me. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/33 "2012-03-05T19:26:28Z")
I’m not turned off by it _per se_, but I earnestly appreciate any and all efforts by the cameraman/editor/director to de-emphasize the man’s presence whenever possible. That, and dildoes take me out of the moment entirely. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/34 "2012-03-05T19:26:32Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > There are few things in this world stupider looking than woman sucking a dildo. Now, _ **that** _ is absolutely true! But for me, I still insist that lesbian porn is arousing if it’s reasonably believable. ---
**Author:** ![Accidental\_Martyr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ce7236/32.png) [@Accidental\_Martyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Accidental_Martyr)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/35 "2012-03-05T19:28:16Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > The only problem I have is when I’m watching a woman get fucked in a porno and it cuts to the guy’s face for like five seconds. Really? Do we really need to have a random zoom-in on his face? They need an edit point to cut from one shot to another. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/36 "2012-03-05T19:55:43Z")
Personally, I much prefer porn without men in it (lesbian\* or solo), but I don’t for a moment think that liking hetero porn makes one gay. The way I see it, there are basically two different ways of appreciating porn: Some guys will identify with the dude in the scene, and if there’s nobody to identify with, they’ll feel left out. On the other hand, some guys (myself included) mostly don’t identify with the guy on screen, and that makes him competition, not an avatar. I don’t want to share the hot chick with anyone. I especially don’t get the appeal of fellatio porn. What I’m seeing on screen there is a lady’s face, which is something I see live every day, and a guy’s penis, which is something I see every time I use the bathroom. And I agree that dildo blowjobs are especially absurd. Who’s the audience for that supposed to be, anyway? My guess would be that the folks who like dildos will be mostly disjoint from the folks who like blowjobs. \*(And yes, I’m quite aware that most of the ladies I’m watching probably aren’t actually lesbians, and that it might not necessarily even be something that would be appealing to a lesbian. I’m OK with that. Porn is not about reality.) ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/37 "2012-03-05T20:17:54Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > For some reason I do not enjoy cunnilingus performed by a guy- I just don’t want to see his face in there, for some reason. I _love_ watching girl-on-girl cunnilingus, but I _hate_ watching guy-on-girl cunnilingus most of the time. Because when girls do it, they tend to get their whole mouth into the action, getting their lips right on the other girl’s pussy and their nose buried in the other girl’s pubic hair if she _has_ any, or at least where the hair _would_ be, and their whole tongue sliding up and down the slit. They actually look like they’re “eating” pussy. Men performing cunnilingus tend to look like they’re thinking “camera angle” the whole time, their lips never touching the pussy, their head turned at a weird angle, and their tongue unnaturally extended and waggling away rapidly on the clit. And the men in hetero porn need to _shut the fuck up_. Or at least stop trying to do a male version of the “fake orgasm moaning” that the women do. Few things sound as ridiculous as a guy going, “Uh! Uh! Uh! Uh!” while he’s coming. Gentlemen, the women have to moan and squeal because _we can’t see their orgasm_. Yours, OTOH, is center stage, in full view. Your moaning and grunting is superfluous, and sounds stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/38 "2012-03-05T20:44:00Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Personally, I much prefer porn without men in it (lesbian\* or solo), but I don’t for a moment think that liking hetero porn makes one gay. The way I see it, there are basically two different ways of appreciating porn: Some guys will identify with the dude in the scene, and if there’s nobody to identify with, they’ll feel left out. On the other hand, some guys (myself included) mostly don’t identify with the guy on screen, and that makes him competition, not an avatar. I don’t want to share the hot chick with anyone. I used to not identify with the dude in straight porn and watched a lot of lesbian porn. For some reason I’m now more likely to see the dude as an avatar and I watch more straight porn. I don’t like to watch dudes go down on chicks because seeing the dudes’ faces ruins the fantasy that he’s me. I do like to watch cunnilingus in lesbian porn. Thinking that watching straight porn makes you gay because of penis is retarded. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/39 "2012-03-05T21:10:03Z")
> [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > Thinking that watching straight porn makes you gay because of penis is retarded. Eww, hetero sexual porn! That’s so gay! ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2012, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799/40 "2012-03-05T22:16:30Z")
Sounds like typical hyper-male posturing typical of the “bro” culture. I don’t care if people make noise during porn sex, as long as it’s realistic. Women who squeal with every thrust are a big turnoff, though. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-are-you-turned-off-by-hetero-porn/614799.md?page=3)