# Straight guys who enjoy being penetrated anally

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 2, 2007, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463 "2007-04-02T19:47:21Z")\
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**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\
**Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/41 "2007-04-03T21:40:18Z")

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> New meanings to “spooning”…

Not to mention “forking”…

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**Author:** ![garygnu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garygnu/32/2924_2.png) [@garygnu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garygnu)\
**Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/42 "2007-04-03T23:19:25Z")

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[QUOTE=CalMeacham]  
Not to mention “forking”…  
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…or “ladeling.”

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**Author:** ![sinjin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ebca7d/32.png) [@sinjin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sinjin)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/43 "2007-04-04T00:21:35Z")

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… or “sporking”

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**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/44 "2007-04-04T01:21:42Z")

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[QUOTE=Nava]  
Any of you guys ever watched the movie _Airbag_?  
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No, but I’ve seen _Road Trip._

Also the _Law & Order: SVU_ episode where a girl collects high-IQ sperm samples for her mad-scientist father by targeting the right men, slipping a roofie into their drinks, letting them fall unconscious, and penetrating them anally with a miniature cattle prod.

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**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/45 "2007-04-04T01:24:32Z")

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[QUOTE=Annie-Xmas]  
I think the biggest thing gay haters harp on is the “ass bit.” Like that’s all any gay guy ever does and no straight guy every does it.  
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I read a post recently in Free Republic about “gay men in hospital wards who can no longer control their bowels.”

I give that as much credibility as the UL about Richard Gere and the gerbil. No doubt even the Goatse guy can control his bowels.

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**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/46 "2007-04-04T01:53:08Z")

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[QUOTE=BrainGlutton]  
It’s something I sometimes read about in _Penthouse Letters_ – a woman inserts a vibrator (sometimes a strap-on) in a man’s anus and he gets off on it. True?  
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I hesitate to chime in, but here I go. This is not a practice that I indulge in; even a finger starting to go “up there” is extremely unpleasant, and I’ve always let my partner know that that’s a no-no. (No danger of this since getting married, though.)

However, in other posts I’ve mentioned the Eden Club here in Bangkok, the brothel in which you are required to take a minimum of two girls, all of whom are guaranteed bisexual. Well, they also wield a variety of sex toys. I know quite a few patrons of the establishment – am on a nodding acquaintence with Marc himself, the legendary Frenchman who owns and operates the place. Seems it’s not uncommon for the girls to ask the customer if he wants to be banged with a strap-on. One friend told me that he asked the girl whether a lot of guys do that there, and he said she looked at him with a smile and replied, “Very many, darling.”

Odd, but I’ve yet to know anyone who has 'fessed up to that, though. 😃

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**Author:** ![BrainGlutton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/82dd89/32.png) [@BrainGlutton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrainGlutton)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/47 "2007-04-04T02:06:44Z")

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[QUOTE=Siam Sam]  
However, in other posts I’ve mentioned the Eden Club here in Bangkok, the brothel in which you are required to take a minimum of two girls, all of whom are guaranteed bisexual.  
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Geez, I think it’s presumptuous when a club makes you buy a minimum of two **drinks!**

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**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/48 "2007-04-04T04:13:40Z")

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[QUOTE=BrainGlutton]  
Geez, I think it’s presumptuous when a club makes you buy a minimum of two **drinks!**  
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No maximum. The record is 20. Some Irishman took 20 girls upstairs with him. Marc has a photo of the guy and the 20 girls that was taken downstairs.

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**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/49 "2007-04-04T04:28:46Z")

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[QUOTE=Siam Sam]  
No maximum. The record is 20. Some Irishman took 20 girls upstairs with him. Marc has a photo of the guy and the 20 girls that was taken downstairs.  
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I’m half-Irish, which is fitting, since I’m half-proud of that!

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**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/50 "2007-04-04T04:39:27Z")

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[QUOTE=Autolycus]  
Rosie O’Donnel in bed..naked… ewwwwwwww!!! I want to vomit out my brain.  
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Maybe if she weren’t naked? 😃

I used to have a girlfriend who liked to strap it on, but wouldn’t do it naked. She did look quite fetching wearing the rig over her underwear, though. Alas, I am a woman, so this is still kind of off-topic.

A gentleman friend asked me if the scene in _Road Trip_ had any truth to it. I have the feeling he may ask me for a special favor next time.

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**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/51 "2007-04-04T04:50:27Z")

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[QUOTE=Cheesesteak]  
This is also presumably why straight men prefer kissing women to kissing men.  
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The two situations could not be more dissimilar.

Kissing your partner involves looking directly at them, being able to look into their eyes, pass your hands through their hair, carress their cheeks, etc. Also, men’s and women’s lips are different and, possibly, taste differently.

So, bending over and being anally penetrated by either a man or a woman are much more similar than kissing a man versus a woman.

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**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/52 "2007-04-04T04:52:10Z")

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[QUOTE=Autolycus]  
I’m half-Irish, which is fitting, since I’m half-proud of that!  
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So you could take 10 ladies. 😃

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**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/53 "2007-04-04T04:58:29Z")

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[QUOTE=CaerieD]  
Yes, and while there are lesbians who enjoy the feeling of penetration, they don’t enjoy being penetrated by men. Straight men who like to have anal sex with women aren’t assumed to be happy with gay sex normally, so I don’t see a correlation between one’s role in penetration superseding sexual orientation.  
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I see your point, as well as those raised by others.

It’s like the act of holding hands. Even if it’s quite similar to hold two people’s hands, holding the hand of someone you are attracted to gives you feelings that are totally different from holding the hand of someone you are not attracted to.

So, even if the nature of the physical stimulation from physical contact with two people is the same, the “mental stimulation” can be very different.

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**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/54 "2007-04-04T12:52:30Z")

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[QUOTE=Polerius]  
The two situations could not be more dissimilar.

Kissing your partner involves looking directly at them, being able to look into their eyes, pass your hands through their hair, carress their cheeks, etc. Also, men’s and women’s lips are different and, possibly, taste differently.

So, bending over and being anally penetrated by either a man or a woman are much more similar than kissing a man versus a woman.  
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Maybe if the penetration is done through a glory hole you don’t have to look at or touch your partner, but I’m not into that scene.

I don’t have any direct experience here, but maybe some of the ladies and gents who have experienced both live penises and dildos can weigh in on whether or not the experience is similar.

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**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/55 "2007-04-04T16:18:20Z")

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[QUOTE=Siam Sam]  
So you could take 10 ladies. 😃  
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I’m having trouble seeing this as ladies and not ladles. 😃

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**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/56 "2007-04-04T19:38:55Z")

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[QUOTE=featherlou]  
I’m having trouble seeing this as ladies and not ladles. 😃  
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:smack: 😛

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**Author:** ![Lightray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lightray/32/391_2.png) [@Lightray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lightray)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/57 "2007-04-04T19:40:36Z")

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[QUOTE=featherlou]  
I’m having trouble seeing this as ladies and not ladles. 😃  
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I didn’t think that until I read who it was in response too; I’d originally parsed it as “laddies” \*, but now, yeah.

- although I suppose that’s if he were half-Scotch.

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**Author:** ![Wee\_Bairn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/90db22/32.png) [@Wee\_Bairn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wee_Bairn)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/58 "2007-04-04T20:29:54Z")

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In Soviet Russia…

But seriously, nothing a guy a does with a girl is gay.

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**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/59 "2007-04-04T20:33:08Z")

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[QUOTE=Wee Bairn]  
But seriously, nothing a guy a does with a girl is gay.  
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…except looking at guys together, of course.

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**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\
**Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-guys-who-enjoy-being-penetrated-anally/398463/60 "2007-04-04T20:39:19Z")

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[QUOTE=Polerius]  
The two situations could not be more dissimilar.

Kissing your partner involves looking directly at them, being able to look into their eyes, pass your hands through their hair, carress their cheeks, etc. Also, men’s and women’s lips are different and, possibly, taste differently.

So, bending over and being anally penetrated by either a man or a woman are much more similar than kissing a man versus a woman.  
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Again, there’s a lot more tactile sensation going on then what’s being felt in the dick and anus. Body hair alone is a huge difference: if you feel chest hair rubbing against your back, it’s a pretty safe bet that you’re not being penetrated by a woman. There’s also scent, the sound of the other person’s voice, the feel of their skin: all of these are going to be significantly different depending on the gender of your partner.

Also, I usually look my partner in the eyes when I’m penetrating him anally. There’s also quite a bit of stroking, carressing, and kissing. Like any other sort of intercourse, it’s pretty much a full-body contact kind of thing. I don’t just stick my dick in a guy and then lean way back and hold my arms over my head so that there’s no other point of contact between us.

> [@Wee Bairn](#):
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> But seriously, nothing a guy a does with a girl is gay.

Except figure skating.

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