# Straight Men Nipple Play **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 31, 2005, 8:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839 "2005-12-31T08:58:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2006, 9:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/41 "2006-01-02T09:31:47Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > I’m aware that not every woman is going to like being bit there–I don’t just go and chomp into it. Actually, I’m really reluctant to bite outright unless I’m 100% certain it’s going to be a good thing for both parties. I’m sure you are aware, but I got scared - my husband has been damn good so far, but if he ever decided to lurk, wandered into this thread, thought, well, hmm… women like this, eh? Maybe I’ll give it a try… Just covering my ass. Er, nips. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2006, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/42 "2006-01-02T13:10:04Z")
I really and truly hate it if Pepper Mill tries to do anything to my nipples. I hate it in a fingernails-on-the-blackboard, chewing-tinfoil-with-a-mouth-full-of-fillings visceral way. It’s not a question of ticklish. And it’s certainly not fear of gayness, any more than intense hatred of rubbing styrofoam is induced by homophobia. I have no idea why I react this way. Fortunately, Pepper doesn’t react the same way, and rather seems to like it. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2006, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/43 "2006-01-02T14:48:40Z")
> [@capybara](#): > > My SO likes it. His are pierced, too. He likes them. Lucky! Pierced nipples are hot. Anyhow, I’ve had mixed reactions from nipples. My last serious boyfriend really loved to have his nipples played with, but he wasn’t straight (he was bisexual, but usually mistaken for gay). The next guy I tried nipple-play with didn’t like it, which stopped me from playing with nipples without permission. The last guy I asked was sort of indifferent. He didn’t mind if I played with them, but it didn’t do much for him. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 6:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/44 "2006-01-03T06:32:29Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > I’m sure you are aware, but I got scared - my husband has been damn good so far, but if he ever decided to lurk, wandered into this thread, thought, well, hmm… women like this, eh? Maybe I’ll give it a try… > > Just covering my ass. Er, nips. 😉 Glad you’re looking out for me. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![DMark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@DMark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMark)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 8:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/45 "2006-01-03T08:09:16Z")
Well, there is a book called, [Why Do Men Have Nipples](http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?isbn=1400082315&cds2Pid=6831&linkid=588025) and, from my experience as a Gay man, I can tell you we don’t need to buy the book. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/46 "2006-01-03T08:43:12Z")
Straight female here. I have tried nipple play with three men. All had hairy chests. One found it a big turn-on, (the hairiest one) but the other two were kinda meh about it, and preferred other spots. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 8:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/47 "2006-01-03T08:50:15Z")
Maybe more gay men then straight men have nipple-piercings, and that confuses the issue, because that makes it seem only they have sensitive nipples? ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/48 "2006-01-03T17:23:43Z")
I’ve had mixed results myself - some gentlemen like it, some don’t, some are “meh”. I, personally, am not that big a fan of having my nipples played with. Probably because the line between “that feels nice” and “Jesus, Mary and Joseph that hurts” is very, very thin in my case with regards to my nipples. There seems to be a time limit of sorts. I can stand maybe two minutes of my nipples being touched and that is _it_. It’s a fairly abrupt sort of thing, and I find it confuses gentlemen when you go from having a good time to giving them resentful looks and clasping your hands protectively over your nipples in seconds. Plus, the nice feeling bit isn’t any nicer-feeling than a hundred other sensations that are much, much less likely to suddenly turn into overstimulated painfulness. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Rhinocerous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f14d63/32.png) [@Rhinocerous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhinocerous)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/49 "2006-01-04T01:02:53Z")
I’m a straight man, and licking my nipples does nothing. You might as well lick my elbow. On the other hand, I do find it stimulating to have my anus fondled during sex. Hey, it’s physiological, I can’t help it! It feels good. But I never ask that of my partner . . . even I don’t want to touch my own anus, not because I’m afraid I might be gay, but because I don’t find that to be the cleanest of areas. I’ve been known to deficate from that orfice. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/50 "2006-01-04T01:05:26Z")
> [@Rhinocerous](#): > > But I never ask that of my partner . . . even I don’t want to touch my own anus, not because I’m afraid I might be gay, but because I don’t find that to be the cleanest of areas. I’ve been known to deficate from that orfice. And have you not been known to ever _clean_ that orifice? :dubious: 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Rhinocerous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f14d63/32.png) [@Rhinocerous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhinocerous)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/51 "2006-01-04T01:13:28Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > And have you not been known to ever _clean_ that orifice? :dubious: 😉 I’m actually quite anal (horrible pun intended) in my wiping habits, even using damp toilet paper to get the job done. But there is still post-wipe fecal reside that would get all over fondling fingers. If I could shower after each BM, I would be more inclined for anus fondling. But unfortunately that’s not always an option. Also, I conducted a few tests, such as cleaning my anus as vigorously as possible with soap in the shower. Even after all that, I took a towel and wiped my anus really hard and then smelled the towel. It still smelled like it wiped an anus. Simply too much deficating goes on down there to ever use that body part in ways that pretend that no fecal residue is present. ---
**Author:** ![buns3000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c89c15/32.png) [@buns3000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buns3000)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/52 "2006-01-04T03:01:26Z")
> [@levdrakon](#): > > Interesting question. All I know is I’m a gay guy, and my nipples don’t do much for me. They seem to go from “that’s boring” to “ow, that hurts.” There’s not much in between, which has disappointed a few people in the past. Aside from not being gay, this pretty much sums up my position on it. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/53 "2006-01-04T03:35:40Z")
I was just looking for that quote, because it also sums up my boyfriend’s position. Except that you can add in “irritation” between “boring” and “hurts”, and the span of time necessary to achieve all three is about 30 seconds. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/54 "2006-01-04T04:02:21Z")
I have only been with one woman who tried anything with my nipples. I married her. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/55 "2006-01-04T04:25:19Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > Except that you can add in “irritation” between “boring” and “hurts”, and the span of time necessary to achieve all three is about 30 seconds. What are you doing to the poor guy??? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![homeskillet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7ba0ec/32.png) [@homeskillet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/homeskillet)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/56 "2006-01-04T08:20:22Z")
> [@DMark](#): > > Well, there is a book called, [Why Do Men Have Nipples](http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?isbn=1400082315&cds2Pid=6831&linkid=588025) and, from my experience as a Gay man, I can tell you we don’t need to buy the book. Looks like an interesting read (and suspiciously similar to the Straight Dope)! But could you expand on this please? I’m having a hard time understanding why as a gay man I would have preternatural knowledge of such things as: \*“Why do I get a killer headache when I suck down my milkshake too fast?” \* or _“Can I lose my contact lens inside my head forever?”_ ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/57 "2006-01-04T08:22:35Z")
> [@homeskillet](#): > > I’m having a hard time understanding why as a gay man I would have preternatural knowledge of such things as: > \*“Why do I get a killer headache when I suck down my milkshake too fast?” \* or _“Can I lose my contact lens inside my head forever?”_ Obviously, you need to spice up your sex life a little. ---
**Author:** ![homeskillet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7ba0ec/32.png) [@homeskillet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/homeskillet)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/58 "2006-01-04T08:31:40Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > Obviously, you need to spice up your sex life a little. With milkshakes and lost contact lenses? ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/59 "2006-01-04T08:46:39Z")
> [@homeskillet](#): > > With milkshakes and lost contact lenses? Yessir. I know a great club you can start at. Well, not so much of a “club”, per se…er… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 9:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839/60 "2006-01-04T09:18:25Z")
My husband gets no pleasure whatsoever out of having his nipples played with. He’s not ticklish at all, just doesn’t find it pleasurable. And just for **JohnBckWld** , I’ll add that he has very little chest hair. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-nipple-play/337839.md?page=4)