# Straight Men & Sexual Thoughts **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 28, 2012, 10:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244 "2012-02-28T10:22:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![woodstockbirdybird](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/woodstockbirdybird/32/7905_2.png) [@woodstockbirdybird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/woodstockbirdybird)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/21 "2012-02-28T17:30:07Z")
41, at least a few times an hour, on average. ---
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/22 "2012-02-28T17:32:34Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > I’m 44, straight, and yeah, probably a couple of times an hour. Doesn’t mean my libido is necessarily enormous, but it’s never far from my thoughts. The only time it went away was when I had acute depression. And yes I do undress hot women in my mind. No apologies - it’s in my nature. You only undress hot women? I include anyone with the right curves, or a cute face, or attractive in some other way - the bar is not set very high. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/23 "2012-02-28T17:38:47Z")
“So men can be friends with ugly women?” “No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![2ManyTacos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/2/3da27b/32.png) [@2ManyTacos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2ManyTacos)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/24 "2012-02-28T17:40:11Z")
This is such a difficult thing to quantify. 20 year old guy here. On average days - days when I’m not overworked by my job or by school or whatever - I probably have sexual thoughts a few times an hour. But here’s the thing, just because it’s a sexual thought doesn’t mean that it equates to me being ready or even _wanting_ to have sex; it just means that, y’know, I _thought of something sexual._ Hell, most of the time those thoughts are incredibly fleeting anyway, lasting only a few seconds before I move onto something else. When I get the characteristically “horny” feeling, though, those thoughts become a lot more prevalent simply because there’s an actual _urge_ there I guess. Still, if you throw work or school into the mix, my sexual thoughts become a lot more erratic (and often muted entirely) because I’ll be too preoccupied with other stuff to even care about sexual activities. I guess that, ultimately, I’ll be far more prone to thinking about sex if I’m not busy with other things and if the free time is there to begin with. Hell, there was a period a few months ago when I was going weeks at a time without thinking about sex; I think that it must’ve been due to work, but still, that was fuckin’ wierd in retrospect. And yes, I do have the occasional sexual thought when I see a random attractive woman on the street or wherever. The vast majority of the time those thoughts never amount to anything more than “huh, she’s hot,” but sometimes I will extend that initial acknowledgement into a sexual thought. Yeah, it usually doesn’t happen, but it does. Whatever lol. I’d be far more interested to see how this question applies to women though. Care to enlighten us **OP** as to how this applies to you? ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/25 "2012-02-28T17:57:14Z")
Constantly while in the vicinity of any even vaguely attractive female, about twice per hour without any present stimulant sounds right. Which is actually quite rare as we are constantly bombarded with sexual imagery. ---
**Author:** ![pyromyte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d26b3c/32.png) [@pyromyte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pyromyte)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/26 "2012-02-28T18:44:22Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > “The projections for this quarter… hey there comes Jane from accounting…nice ass… okay, the projections for this quarter” I can’t be the only one that had a nice mental image of this fictional Jane from accounting with a nice ass when I read the quote above. I’m 32, and Including the above, I’d say a few times an hour. As others have said, it can vary depending on the situation. I can honestly say that I haven’t noticed any decline with age so far. Now back to this Jane… ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/27 "2012-02-28T18:54:06Z")
> [@Trom](#): > > The first, IMHO. This is a little misleading, and nearly meaningless. How many times do I think “nice ass” when I see a nice ass? Approaching 100% of the time. So how many times I think that in a day depends on how many nice asses I see. When I’m doing the hermit thing, it’s not often. ---
**Author:** ![Trom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@Trom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trom)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/28 "2012-02-28T19:03:04Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > This is a little misleading, and nearly meaningless. How many times do I think “nice ass” when I see a nice ass? Approaching 100% of the time. So how many times I think that in a day depends on how many nice asses I see. When I’m doing the hermit thing, it’s not often. Huh? It’s 100% accurate, by the definition of “IMHO.” It rarely happens that I have a sexual thought distracting enough that I lose track of what I was doing. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/29 "2012-02-28T19:05:20Z")
> [@Trom](#): > > Huh? It’s 100% accurate, by the definition of “IMHO.” > > It rarely happens that I have a sexual thought distracting enough that I lose track of what I was doing. I’m not talking about it being that distracting. I’m talking about noticing 100% of the time that I notice. Whether that turns into a sexual thought is another matter. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/30 "2012-02-28T20:00:36Z")
I suppose I pretty much think of it constantly without paying attention to it. Sort of like blinking. Not so much in a “holy shit look at that ass” sort of way. More like “Oh. We’re getting new plants for the office. That’s nice. [hmm…I’d hit that ass]” > [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > If I were to survive a nuclear attack, I think I’d stop thinking about sex once in a while. Then again, the thought of all those babes roaming the shattered, uninhabited, irradiated city with their blouses in tatters–that is HOT!! Plus someone needs to repopulate the Earth! > [@tdn](#): > > I will admit that I often think about sex while masturbating. Is that wrong? Won’t internet porn get jealous? ---
**Author:** ![spankthecrumpet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a87d85/32.png) [@spankthecrumpet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spankthecrumpet)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/31 "2012-02-28T20:45:33Z")
I genuinely go hours without thinking of it and always have done. I don’t understand why. I obviously don’t have a low sex drive overall, but it is also fairly obviously muted and perverted in some way. ---
**Author:** ![colonial](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/34f0e0/32.png) [@colonial](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colonial)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/32 "2012-02-28T20:48:44Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > How often do you think about sex? I mean things along the lines of imagining a specific/non-specific woman naked or picturing engaging in some specific act with her (from kissing to whatever). Dozens of times a day. > [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Does something trigger the thoughts? Not necessarily-- I can be sitting here reading an SDMB political thread and sex sex sex will intrude intrude intrude intrude upon my mind. > [@ThelmaLou](#): > > How has this frequency changed (if it has) with age? Maybe a little. Maybe. > [@ThelmaLou](#): > > I’ve read statistics on this, but I’d like to hear from the source. Commendable of you. Anything else you would like us sources to “share” with you? > [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Also, have you ever had long periods of time (days, weeks, months, years) when you didn’t think about sex much or at all, maybe due to grief, illness, or other plagues/woes? No. However, I can imagine how the death of someone close might shut down one’s sex drive. > [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Did you ever deliberately try to stop thinking about sex for a long period of time? No. Why in the world should I? ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/33 "2012-02-28T21:15:41Z")
> [@Mijin](#): > > I am a freak? Yes ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/34 "2012-02-28T21:45:31Z")
There is usually a trigger but it can be anything, hell I burned my hand severely to the point I can’t use it and am in pain and so I was gonna ask my wife to come help me shower annnnnd yea a good few minutes spent \. If the op is female and not on the pill I think the best comparison is you know how you feel around ovulation? Well guys feel the same way only its every few days. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/35 "2012-02-28T21:47:04Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Won’t internet porn get jealous? What, that cheating bitch? ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/36 "2012-02-28T21:54:22Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > The only time it went away was when I had acute depression. Sex seems to the default topic my brain goes to if I’m not concentrating on anything else important. I’ve suffered from depression my entire adult life and ironically I get hornier and think about sex more when I’m really depressed. My depressed brain tends to alternate between “You’re a loser, you should kill yourself.” and “SEX!” ETA: I’m 33. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/37 "2012-02-28T22:00:05Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Did you ever deliberately try to stop thinking about sex for a long period of time? [QUOTE=colonial] No. Why in the world should I? [/QUOTE] I dunno. Maybe you entered the Catholic priesthood? * * * My abridged story: I’m a widow, long postmenopausal, and I think of sex pretty much all the time, too. It’s always there in the background… how men are relating to me, how I look, how I’m coming across. It’s an awareness, not so much a drive. And it’s not triggered by or related to a man’s looks or appearance, status, finances, or conventional “hotness.” It might be triggered by his voice, more likely by the intelligence of what he says, how he connects with me mentally/intellectually. This has not changed with age; I’ve pretty much always been this way. ---
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/38 "2012-02-28T23:07:24Z")
> [@pyromyte](#): > > I can’t be the only one that had a nice mental image of this fictional Jane from accounting with a nice ass when I read the quote above. It was a large conference room with glass windows towards the hallway, light colored table, high backed comfy/cushiony chairs. She was walking towards the front with a long wavy-ish brown hair, light shirt and a medium length brown skirt that just perfectly hugged her hips, ass and thighs. I was standing on the other side of the table. I’m not sure why but “Jane” is a brunette, other names have other defaults. Did not pay attention to the quarterly results being shown on the power point. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [February 28, 2012, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/39 "2012-02-28T23:24:43Z")
Her skirt was gray. ---
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2012, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-men-sexual-thoughts/614244/40 "2012-02-29T00:15:15Z")
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