# Straight people - does the notion of showering with a gay person bother you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2012, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469 "2012-02-01T22:12:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2012, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/21 "2012-02-01T23:49:08Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > That’s what I was wondering. What would the discomfort consist of? Are people afraid that the gay person will suddenly jump on them? > [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > That’s certainly what some people seem to think. I did specifically address this in my OP - I think it’s more that someone might be looking at them and desiring them whilst they’re naked. Yes there are people out there who actually seem to think that sharing a shower with a gay person puts them at risk of molestation, but it’s a position so ludicrous that I don’t even want to acknowledge it as worthy of debating. ---
**Author:** ![Suburban\_Plankton](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suburban_plankton/32/219_2.png) [@Suburban\_Plankton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Suburban_Plankton)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2012, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/22 "2012-02-01T23:50:15Z")
At age 44, I’ve got more important things to worry about. ---
**Author:** ![Jack\_Batty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jack_batty/32/3201_2.png) [@Jack\_Batty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jack_Batty)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2012, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/23 "2012-02-01T23:54:22Z")
I’ve been eating so many goddamned cheeseburgers lately, if a gay guy looked at me and desired me whilst naked, I \*would \*think he was sick. ---
**Author:** ![YogSothoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/8edcca/32.png) [@YogSothoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YogSothoth)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/24 "2012-02-02T00:05:44Z")
I didn’t vote because I didn’t fall into the criteria, but I’d just like to say that if I didn’t have a problem showering with people, which I do which is why I didn’t vote, then having a gay guy in there wouldn’t really bug me. I don’t really get oogled, so it might be kind of fun being checked out even by a gay guy ---
**Author:** ![Al\_Bundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@Al\_Bundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al_Bundy)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/25 "2012-02-02T00:08:38Z")
I’d rather shower privately in any case. If a group shower is demanded by conditions, I really don’t care who is there if they also have to be there. On the other hand, if you tell me in advance that I’m about to shower with 15 gays and I’m the only straight, my butt might pucker at that thought. So it’s best not to know unless it is going to be that 15:1 setup, and I do mean setup. ---
**Author:** ![Bosstone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@Bosstone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstone)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/26 "2012-02-02T00:28:38Z")
I’d rather not shower with anyone, but if the situation were unavoidable I’d _rather_ shower with a gay man than a straight one. I’d be more comfortable with someone looking at me in desire (although I doubt that would actually happen) than someone looking at me in competition (which is much more likely IMO). ---
**Author:** ![Fiendish\_Astronaut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiendish_astronaut/32/3295_2.png) [@Fiendish\_Astronaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiendish_Astronaut)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/27 "2012-02-02T00:31:57Z")
If this was a problem for somebody surely showering with a group that might contain openly gay people would be better than showering with a group of people that may or may not contain closet gays WHO COLD LEAP ON YOU AT ANY MOMENT JUST WHEN YOU LEAST SUSPECT IT. IT COULD BE ANYONE!!! ---
**Author:** ![Candyman74](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ad7895/32.png) [@Candyman74](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Candyman74)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/28 "2012-02-02T01:39:46Z")
What’s gay got to do with it? Unless I’m sleeping with the person, I don’t want to shower with ANYONE, thank you very much. So yes, showering with your hypothetical gay person bothers me. So does showering with my sister, my best friend, my father, and everyone else on the planet other than my wife. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/29 "2012-02-02T01:56:25Z")
Am I single or not? I’m generally not comfortable being naked in front of anyone, but I don’t like the idea of being sexualized. I don’t know if it’s a bad and incorrect vibe I get from the gay community (so and so is so hot), but I can see how males would be uncomfortable. \ It’s your body. Everyone has their own thing. I’m a girl, btw, and recently whipped off my shirt in front of a lesbian hospital staffer. She politely turned her head. This may be wrong, but maybe I just get a different ‘vibe’ around lesbians. Again, not a dude, so I don’t know if that matters. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/30 "2012-02-02T02:07:04Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I’m a girl, btw, and recently whipped off my shirt in front of a lesbian hospital staffer. She politely turned her head. I can see how this would bother you. Speaking as a male, every time a gay man declines to check out my assets, I find it gravely insulting. In fact, just the other day someone who I think is gay turned away and said nothing when I dropped my pants at the gym. I went straight to the management and complained of sexual non-assault. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/31 "2012-02-02T02:12:58Z")
The idea of showering with anyone but my wife at this point would be odd, so I voted other. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/32 "2012-02-02T02:14:12Z")
At my age, I’m grateful for any tiny crumb of appreciation I can get. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/33 "2012-02-02T02:15:15Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > I can see how this would bother you. Speaking as a male, every time a gay man declines to check out my assets, I find it gravely insulting. In fact, just the other day someone who I think is gay turned away and said nothing when I dropped my pants at the gym. I went straight to the management and complained of sexual non-assault. yeah, clearly you are trying to pick a fight. I don’t like to be naked in front of anyone, but changing your shirt in front of hospital staff is a shade different, even if I don’t like it. It may surprise you that some people don’t like the idea that they could be sexually objectified. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/34 "2012-02-02T02:18:07Z")
Not as long as they don’t try to hit on me, that is very skeevy(trying to hook up in a toilet or shower). ---
**Author:** ![Dahnlor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dahnlor/32/533_2.png) [@Dahnlor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dahnlor)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/35 "2012-02-02T03:01:16Z")
I didn’t vote, since I am among those who would be uncomfortable no matter what, but I noticed that the OP doesn’t explicitly require the gay person to be the same sex as yourself. I don’t think I would mind sharing a shower with a lesbian, it might make it better! Especially if she brings a friend. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swords_to_Plowshares)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/36 "2012-02-02T03:12:47Z")
I don’t want to group shower with anybody. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/37 "2012-02-02T03:19:58Z")
I’m way to gross to be turning any stranger on in the shower. If I was hot, I’d be all “Yeah, look at this, lesbian stranger and non-interested straight women!” So it doesn’t bother me either way. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/38 "2012-02-02T04:56:02Z")
Doesn’t bother me at all. Hell, this being Japan, I shower and _bathe_ with gay guys frequently (I don’t know who is gay but assuming that 10%, or whatever the figure is, of the population anywhere is gay, some of the other patrons must be). They’re more bothered bathing with a gaijin than I am bathing with potential gay guys. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Room](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_room/32/5069_2.png) [@Little\_Room](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Room)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/39 "2012-02-02T05:06:14Z")
I’m like a lot of others - I am unlikely to find myself in a group showering situation, but if I did, I don’t give a damn if anyone is gay. They will probably be focused on taking a shower and cleaning their bodies anyway. In that respect, it is like standing at a urinal. You take care of the issue at hand _snort_ and you don’t really pay attention to your surroundings. This is one of the arguments that I heard for keeping homosexuals out of the military (the discomfort of straight men), and it really seems to be one of the weakest arguments. If you have such a weak emotional constitution that you can’t be around a man who might - _might_ - be attracted to you, then maybe you shouldn’t be issued a gun with which you are given the authority to end people’s lives. You just don’t have what it takes for such a job. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky_the_Wonder_Spirit)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2012, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469/40 "2012-02-02T06:28:59Z")
I ain’t showering with anyone I’m not also fucking. So that would be no to all gay folks and most straight folks. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-people-does-the-notion-of-showering-with-a-gay-person-bother-you/611469.md?page=3)