# Straight persons: ever kissed someone of the same sex as yourself? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2013, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968 "2013-04-17T19:27:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/21 "2013-04-17T21:30:52Z")
> [@Skammer](#): > > I answered “maybe to win a bet” but that was before I read about the tongue action. That’s a dealbreaker I think. A little lip-lock I could take. > > I suppose maybe if I was a serious actor, and the role required me to french-kiss a guy… well maybe. Other than that I can’t see it happening. I bet most straight males would rather have oral sex with a man than french kiss him. I think kissing is pretty intimate, and would have a harder time kissing a woman I didn’t like than having sex with her. ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/22 "2013-04-17T21:32:57Z")
I made a mistake here, the same one Skammer did. I voted ‘I’ve never kissed another dude, but I might do so to win a bet or whatnot.’ That was before the tongue was required to be involved. That is something beyond the pale for me. But, then again, apparently kissing a male in that manner is something that my girlfriend really likes. As they say, YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/23 "2013-04-17T21:34:51Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I bet most straight males would rather have oral sex with a man than french kiss him. I think kissing is pretty intimate, and would have a harder time kissing a woman I didn’t like than having sex with her. I’ve Frenched a guy to win a bet, but it would take approximately eleventy blobillion dollars to get me to blow another guy. Or a gun to my head; I’m not stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/24 "2013-04-17T21:38:40Z")
Peck on the lips and a hand on the boobies. But not a “kiss” as you defined it, no. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/25 "2013-04-17T21:47:42Z")
I never have and have no desire to, but if I had some particular reason to, like winning a bet for something good, then why not? Not my cup of tea, but I’ve kissed men I wasn’t attracted to and not even gotten anything for it. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_fun_ball/32/17664_2.png) [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/26 "2013-04-17T21:47:48Z")
I did once on a dare. Wouldn’t do again. Got nothing from it, no excitement, no disgust, just a waste of time really. It was a stupid dare. I think people who are grossed out at kissing a member of the same sex (or opposite sex for a homosexual), or even performing a sex act are kinda strange. I am not grossed out at the thought of a woman kissing a man or giving a man a blowjob, why would it be gross if a man did the same act? It doesn’t turn my crank, but why would it be gross? Does anybody else feel this way? ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/27 "2013-04-17T21:56:20Z")
Never had the desire or need to. You pony up enough dough, though, and Bob’s your uncle. We’re talking new car dough, not 2 sacks of Krystals, which is my usual remuneration for services rendered. ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee7513/32.png) [@Darth\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Panda)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/28 "2013-04-17T21:59:52Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I bet most straight males would rather have oral sex with a man than french kiss him. Yikes, I’d recommend you stay out of the gambling business 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Panda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee7513/32.png) [@Darth\_Panda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Panda)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/29 "2013-04-17T22:03:34Z")
> [@L. G. Butts](#): > > I am not grossed out at the thought of a woman kissing a man or giving a man a blowjob, why would it be gross if a man did the same act? It doesn’t turn my crank, but why would it be gross? Does anybody else feel this way? The idea of people doing it doesn’t gross me out at all. The idea of me doing it does a little. No idea why, but then again I have no idea why eating bugs grosses me out. Some stuff is just hard wired I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/30 "2013-04-17T22:16:22Z")
> [@L. G. Butts](#): > > I did once on a dare. Wouldn’t do again. Got nothing from it, no excitement, no disgust, just a waste of time really. It was a stupid dare. > > I think people who are grossed out at kissing a member of the same sex (or opposite sex for a homosexual), or even performing a sex act are kinda strange. I am not grossed out at the thought of a woman kissing a man or giving a man a blowjob, why would it be gross if a man did the same act? It doesn’t turn my crank, but why would it be gross? Does anybody else feel this way? I’m not grossed out, particularly, by a man french kissing (or blowing I guess) another man. I’m grossed out by _me_ doing it. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/858c86/32.png) [@I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Made_French_Toast_For_You)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/31 "2013-04-17T22:35:37Z")
Anything to win a bet, eh guys? ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/32 "2013-04-17T22:40:31Z")
> [@Darth\_Panda](#): > > Yikes, I’d recommend you stay out of the gambling business 🙂 I meant my comment to be more about kissing than blowing, but I get the reaction. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/33 "2013-04-17T22:44:43Z")
> [@I\_Made\_French\_Toast\_For\_You](#): > > Anything to win a bet, eh guys? Nah. By actual count, there are 245,943,541 things I won’t do for money. I’m just not squicked out enough by the notion of kissing a guy to add it to the list. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/34 "2013-04-17T22:53:02Z")
I don’t kiss people I’m not attracted to. ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/35 "2013-04-17T23:11:03Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > I never have and have no desire to, but if I had some particular reason to, like winning a bet for something good, then why not? Not my cup of tea, but I’ve kissed men I wasn’t attracted to and not even gotten anything for it. I don’t think it’s analogous - after all, straight men have a much larger pool of potential partners than do gay women. What if the person you kissed wasn’t in on the bet? It seems far crueler to tease or lead on the person with the limited dating pool. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2013, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/36 "2013-04-17T23:15:33Z")
I was at a party, and kissed my girlfriend. Another guy said, “I’m jealous.” So I kissed him. ---
**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/37 "2013-04-18T00:54:25Z")
I was promiscuous and bi-curious through my 20’s, so yeah. The times I spent with other women, though, were spent with at least one dick in the room, too. It didn’t take much for me to figure out I really wasn’t into other girls, but had fun in the meantime. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/38 "2013-04-18T01:18:30Z")
> [@SeaDragonTattoo](#): > > I was promiscuous and bi-curious through my 20’s, so yeah. Count me on the spectrum with SeaDragon, although I am more ok with girls. If there were no attractive men in the universe, and a crapload of nice attractive girls, I’d have no real troubles being a lesbian, but it’s not where I’d end up voluntarily. In fact, what’s really vastly amusing is that I’ve actually french-kissed quite a few more girls than I have guys. Have to say that girls are the better kissers in my experience - much more responsive and not so demanding. Also, less moustache/beard hairs getting all scritchy in the way. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/39 "2013-04-18T01:27:22Z")
> [@OleOneEye](#): > > I don’t think it’s analogous - after all, straight men have a much larger pool of potential partners than do gay women. What if the person you kissed wasn’t in on the bet? It seems far crueler to tease or lead on the person with the limited dating pool. I doubt I’m that good at kissing (I don’t really like it) that she’s gonna fall in love with me or anything just because we kiss 🆒 But I don’t think the question was supposed to take into account the possibility of hurting someone’s feelings. ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/40 "2013-04-18T01:51:04Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > But I don’t think the question was supposed to take into account the possibility of hurting someone’s feelings. There is a lot of potential baggage that may or may not be implied in the scenario, depending on the people involved. There’s the issue of feelings or the squick factor. But there’s also cultural baggage. Maybe it’s because I came of age circa 1992, when feminists were still calling women “wimmin” or “womyn”, but I learned to associate lesbianism with a political statement against the patriarchy and with avoiding the Big Bad Rapist. Male homosexuality is allowed to be _fun_ - two guys kissing is just two guys having fun. Female homosexuality is about _duty_ and safety. Or something. So the idea of kissing another woman brings up too many negative feelings - I’d be feeling squicked out because there’s one too many women in the scene, I’d be feeling guilty because I’m not permitted to feel squicked out, and I’d be feeling sad because something fun had turned into a politicized chore. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968.md?page=3)