# Straight persons: ever kissed someone of the same sex as yourself? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2013, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968 "2013-04-17T19:27:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/41 "2013-04-18T01:57:51Z")
I wasn’t even thinking about who the other woman would be. It could just be some other straight woman who was in on the bet. I would find the whole thing extremely awkward, but not really squicky. But I think people should be able to kiss someone one time who it turns out wasn’t into it, without being too hurt by it. Unless they were already in love with the person or something. ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/42 "2013-04-18T02:09:45Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > But I think people should be able to kiss someone one time who it turns out wasn’t into it, without being too hurt by it. Unless they were already in love with the person or something. It probably doesn’t help that I recently saw “Jeff Who Lives At Home”. Susan Sarandon’s character has a secret admirer who she assumes is a man. When she finds out it’s a woman she trusted and considered a friend, she’s weirded out. But then the admirer gets to kiss her by using something Sarandon had told her. Erm.. ---
**Author:** ![Iggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iggy/32/3364_2.png) [@Iggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Iggy)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/43 "2013-04-18T02:14:07Z")
Never. Skald, I was hoping for some raspberry torte too. You let us down. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/44 "2013-04-18T02:56:15Z")
Kissed a guy once at one of the early Dopefests. Someone said “I’ll give you guys a dollar to kiss right now” and, hey, free dollar. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Bravo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_bravo/32/493_2.png) [@Johnny\_Bravo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Bravo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/45 "2013-04-18T03:02:35Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I bet most straight males would rather have oral sex with a man than french kiss him. I bet that there are several billion straight dudes who would love to take up that bet with you. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/46 "2013-04-18T03:24:11Z")
I have no desire whatsoever to kiss another man, and I find the idea of myself doing so somewhat uncomfortable. But then again, there are lots of things I find somewhat uncomfortable and which I have no inherent desire to do, but which I’ve done for various external reasons. I expect that kissing a guy would fall into that category. I don’t know exactly what my price would be, but it would have to include at the minimum a very clear understanding between both me and the other guy that nothing was meant by it beyond whatever reward we were getting. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/47 "2013-04-18T03:29:23Z")
Never been inclined or offered sufficient monetary motivation. Or any monetary motivation for that matter. But throw enough lucre my way and I’'ll be glad to demonstrate my complete lack of insecurity. Oral? You’re going to have to be holding a gun to my head or one of my family. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/48 "2013-04-18T03:34:01Z")
Yes. It was delightful. This may mean that I’m not all that straight. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/49 "2013-04-18T04:12:46Z")
This reminds me of a movie I saw a couple of weeks ago. It had a subplot about two gay men falling in love and getting married. There was a bonus feature on the DVD about the making of the movie and one of the actors explained that he had gone to the casting call thinking that the other character was a woman. When he got there and found out he’d be playing part of gay couple, he figured acting was acting, did the audition, and ended up getting the part. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/50 "2013-04-18T04:25:09Z")
Never have, never been interested. I suppose I’d do it in theory or enough money but I’d be very suspicious since I can’t think of many desirable reasons someone would _pay_ me large sums of money to kiss a guy. > [@Procrustus](#): > > I bet most straight males would rather have oral sex with a man than french kiss him. That would be me, but then I’m weird. Males kissing really bugs me for some reason, even when it’s a woman or a puppy they are kissing much less me. An explicit video close up of two men having oral or anal sex? Meh, doesn’t bother me. Them kissing? Bleh! ---
**Author:** ![Jragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e19b73/32.png) [@Jragon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jragon)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/51 "2013-04-18T04:29:09Z")
Nope. I wouldn’t say I never would, maybe .3% of all the guys I’ve ever seen in my life I’d consider it with. I’m not “totally” straight, but I’m straight enough that the tiny minority of guys I’m attracted to (and even smaller amount that are probably attracted to men themselves as well) really aren’t worth swinging the other way for considering the lingering stigma and such. (And even if I was attracted to them, there’s every possibility that I’d try and my brain would get weirded out halfway through). Granted, I’ve never kissed a girl by the OP’s definition either (I had a girlfriend for 2 years and of course I kissed her, but she absolutely hated kissing with tongues and so I’ve never kissed with tongue). ---
**Author:** ![Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curiosity_Kills_Her)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/52 "2013-04-18T04:38:30Z")
Never have, not really interested, could happen under the right circumstances but unlikely to occur. ---
**Author:** ![\_Olive](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/4af34b/32.png) [@\_Olive](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Olive)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/53 "2013-04-18T04:47:40Z")
Never. I can’t imagine why I would. ---
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/54 "2013-04-18T06:04:29Z")
Straight male. Never have, and probably never will. But while gay sex isn’t for me, I’ve never understood why so many straight guys find the very idea of it to be disgusting or even threatening. So I voted #3- “Never have, but might to win a bet or what not.” Sure. Big deal. . ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/55 "2013-04-18T06:22:35Z")
A very brief kiss to help out my bff at the time. We were both 15 years old and she was insecure about her new braces, and wanted feedback if she was still kissable with them. Not something i’d like to repeat. Kissing is so intensely personal. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 10:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/56 "2013-04-18T10:13:55Z")
I voted “Yes, and I’d do it again” with the caveat that it wouldn’t happen while I’m still married. But while I consider myself mostly straight-ish nowadays\*, I liked to dabble in my youth. Not sure if that would re-assert itself if I were single, which I guess would make me more bi than straight. \*(Aesthetic appreciations for Messrs Depp, Mortensen and Cumberbatch notwithstanding, I’m going by my tastes in erotica to determine this) ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/57 "2013-04-18T11:00:53Z")
I shouldn’t vote in the poll since I’m gay, but I’ll answer appropriately: I am a gay male and have never so much as kissed a female, let alone french kissed one. But I certainly wouldn’t hesitate to give it a try if a reasonably attractive one who knew me well expressed an interest. I’d give it a try 🙂 I’d also do it as a bet of course, then as well. Kissing a girl would actually probably be quite nice. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/58 "2013-04-18T11:11:44Z")
> [@Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](#): > > Never have, not really interested, could happen under the right circumstances but unlikely to occur. Same here. But I’ve never been a big kisser under any circumstances; I could count the number of women I’ve kissed romantically on one hand. I’d count on the hand, that is; I didn’t kiss them on the hand. ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/59 "2013-04-18T11:37:21Z")
Ahh shit. I voted before I read all the OP. This bit > [@](#): > > I do, however, which to specify that “kissing” here refers to lip-to-lip contact **involving at least one of your tongues entering the other’s mouth**. means my vote is wrong. Basically I worked with a gay bloke, he was great value. I knew he was gay for months before anyone else in the workplace and as he wasn’t deliberately hiding it but wasn’t advertising it either, I left it up to him to when he let others know. A couple of the ladies there had serious issues when they found out he was gay because of the way he and I interacted. They had this set opinion that I was a homophobic bogan and it confused hell out of them.😃 Anyway, at a Christmas party (yeah it always happens there) the conversation must have got around to something I don’t remember and my response was to grab him by the tie, pull his head across the table toward me and plant one right on his lips. No tongue. The look on his face was as priceless as everyone elses. Good old Jimmy, 6’3 110 kg of vegetarian. I used to razz him all the time about how he was such a tubby cnut when he only ate veges. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968/60 "2013-04-18T12:02:28Z")
I’m a straight guy AFAIAA. I’ve yet to kiss a woman, let alone a man. And I’m really not interested in kissing men. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/straight-persons-ever-kissed-someone-of-the-same-sex-as-yourself/655968.md?page=4)