# Strangest Request by your Partner **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 15, 2009, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165 "2009-09-15T13:16:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Emily\_Litella](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emily_litella/32/3370_2.png) [@Emily\_Litella](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emily_Litella)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/41 "2009-09-16T17:39:20Z")
Female / 51 Going back about 10 years my (at the time) boyfriend asked me to stop moving while we were doing it, he came, that was that. The next time he asked me to pretend to be a paraplegic and during sex to tell him I couldn’t move my legs, that I couldn’t feel them, that I couldn’t feel him inside me. It was great for him, it did nothing for me. Later that week he asked if it would be okay if he bought a wheelchair and could I spend the weekend at his house pretending I couldn’t walk. I declined and broke up with him. That’s when I started reading about Devotees, I think there’s a Wikipedia article on it. The psychology is interesting. The strangest request I made was back in high school. My boyfriend’s parents had a house in the country and me, him and another couple we were friends with used to go there to have some fun, but in different bedrooms. I was joking with my boyfriend that we should ask them if they wanted company, and I was surprised but they said yes. And no, it didn’t turn into a foursome. But I can tell you there are no 4 people on earth coordinated enough to make love on the same inner spring mattress at the same time. (or is there? :dubious:) ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/42 "2009-09-16T18:03:04Z")
I’ve never had a partner make a strange request. The only thing that was even _slightly_ odd was when one girl asked me to masturbate in front of her, and then “cum on her tits.” I did so, but honestly masturbating in front of each other isn’t that strange of a thing to do. ---
**Author:** ![Quercus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/7ab992/32.png) [@Quercus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quercus)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/43 "2009-09-16T18:19:56Z")
> [@I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](#): > > About ten minutes before I lost my virginity- > Him-“Do you have any lipstick?” > Me-“Yeah…why?” > Him-“I’m gonna go down on you and I want to wear your lipstick.” > (I let him have it) > 26/Female :blinks: : opens mouth: :shuts it without saying anything: :blinks again: I mean, I wouldn’t personally like to get peed on (or, really, do the peeing) or have serious pain during sex or any of the other things here, but I can at least in some way sort of understand how it could be sexy and desired for someone. Except this one. Going by the OP of ‘strangest’ (not ‘grossest’, ‘most self-destructive’, or whatever), this really has to be up there. **Lorax** , do you have any clue what this was about? (My only guess: first step in a male-to-female transition. Other than that, I got nuthin’) ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/44 "2009-09-16T18:23:42Z")
> [@Quercus](#): > > I mean, I wouldn’t personally like to get peed on (or, really, do the peeing) or have serious pain during sex or any of the other things here, but I can at least in some way sort of understand how it could be sexy and desired for someone. > > Except this one. I thought it was hot. Of course, it had nothing to do with the lipstick. I wish I had a good one to contribute, but I don’t. Just the pedestrian liked-to-be-spanked, talked dirty to, be handled roughly (but not too roughly), etc. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/45 "2009-09-16T18:25:16Z")
> [@Emily\_Litella](#): > > The strangest request I made was back in high school. My boyfriend’s parents had a house in the country and me, him and another couple we were friends with used to go there to have some fun, but in different bedrooms. I was joking with my boyfriend that we should ask them if they wanted company, and I was surprised but they said yes. And no, it didn’t turn into a foursome. But I can tell you there are **no 4 people on earth coordinated enough to make love on the same inner spring mattress at the same time.** > (or is there? :dubious:) Depends on the size of the bed. King? Hell yeah! Queen … depends on the size of the folks involved. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/46 "2009-09-16T18:31:09Z")
> [@Emily\_Litella](#): > > But I can tell you there are no 4 people on earth coordinated enough to make love on the same inner spring mattress at the same time.(or is there? :dubious:) if you think that is hard you should try it on a water bed. oral is especially difficult, a person could get a fractured face or at least a bloody nose. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/47 "2009-09-16T18:35:28Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > Hummm… > > (wonders if I’m the only person reading thread to see if any of my former partners post some strange request I made) I hadn’t had any particular desire to attend Dopefests before, but now I’m more interested. ---
**Author:** ![Telcontar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3bc359/32.png) [@Telcontar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telcontar)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/48 "2009-09-16T18:44:42Z")
> [@The\_Weird\_One](#): > > This was several years ago, when my then-boyfriend and I were exploring a lot of different kinks with each other. These were all things that he wanted me to do to or for him: > > 1. cutting (this is the one that made me most uncomfortable) > 2. choking > 3. furry play (specifically, dressing up in a furry catsuit) > The request that I found “strangest” came from a different beau, who asked me to cover his face with my armpit when he was about to come. I was happy to indulge him, but in my whole kinky life, he’s the only person I’ve met with an armpit fetish. > > Female/27 > > ETA: Oops, temporarily blocked one out. > 4. wanted to perform cunnilingus on me while I was having my period. NO. I think breathplay may rate above cutting on the danger scale, though it depends a lot on what you mean by each. Pretty heavy stuff all around though. > [@Kobal2](#): > > “Draw on me” (with magic markers). > She was a she, not sure about her age though - we were both in our mid twenties. On that point: > **[Pens for skin](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=531989)** > > So, I know these exist…but where? Way back in high school one of the girls in my class had a pen with ink that was designed to write on skin safely and be easily washable. She had a fun time playing with it, as you might imagine. Recently I’ve tried... Nothing wrong with a little silly. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/49 "2009-09-16T19:37:03Z")
> [@Telcontar](#): > > On that point: > [Pens for skin - Factual Questions - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=531989) > Nothing wrong with a little silly. 🙂 Oh, I agree. Once I got past the “Bwuh ?!” factor, we had all kinds of fun being artistic on each other in between bouts of fucking like rabid mongooses. Boy, was that girl intense… Anyway. However, among all the kinks and weirdnesses that I had the pleasure (or awkward embarassment) of partaking in, this one has the distinction of being the only one to totally stump me. I swear I drew a 10 seconds blank just to process the request. ---
**Author:** ![Orange\_Skinner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Orange\_Skinner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orange_Skinner)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/50 "2009-09-16T22:20:35Z")
I was still in high school and had exhausted just about every alternative to intercourse with my then boyfriend when he, a hardcore EasyCheez connoisseur, came up with this idea: “How bout we go to Taco Bell and order a Nachos Bell Grande, and I’ll eat it off yer tits?” I declined, for three reasons: 1). Sharp edges of the components involved 2). Propensity for it making a mess and getting everywhere and smelling, plus me having to clean up “the leftovers” afterwards (bear in mind, on another occasion, he went down on me with a piece of gum in his mouth, lost it, and kept going without telling me…and i wound up with Winterfresh stuck to the ass of my fav underwear and ground into the nap of my mother’s oriental rug where we’d been doing it) and 3). His already tenuous relationship with digestion and dairy. I was 16, he was 17. My strangest request of a partner was only strange in that I got turned down…I love giving head and have no gag reflex. I wanted my b/f (not the same boyfriend as in the Nachos anecdote, as he would have complied before the words were even out of my mouth) to “try and make me choke on it.” He started to comply, but I could tell he wasn’t real into it, and finally he said that that was the kind of thing you do with a hooker, not your girlfriend. I told him he was an idiot. I was 21, he was 23. ---
**Author:** ![Orange\_Skinner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Orange\_Skinner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orange_Skinner)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2009, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/51 "2009-09-16T22:22:22Z")
> [@Orange\_Skinner](#): > > 1). Sharp edges of the components involved The nachos, that is, not the tits. ---
**Author:** ![Digger1914](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@Digger1914](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digger1914)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/52 "2009-09-17T01:20:26Z")
Coming at this from the other side…I’ve asked my wife for many mildly pervy things and just get a “Meh”. I love her to pieces and have been married for many many years. I just don’t get why some girls don’t have it in them to say yes. Even if they don’t get thrilled w/ it, I just always thought a lover should do something to make the other person happy. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/53 "2009-09-17T16:50:34Z")
> [@Digger1914](#): > > Coming at this from the other side…I’ve asked my wife for many mildly pervy things and just get a “Meh”. I love her to pieces and have been married for many many years. I just don’t get why some girls don’t have it in them to say yes. Even if they don’t get thrilled w/ it, I just always thought a lover should do something to make the other person happy. some people are just vanilla. you might give her as a birthday present whatever she wanted you to do. maybe she’ll think that a good present for you as well, or at least get closer to what you want. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/54 "2009-09-17T16:52:29Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > you might give her as a birthday present whatever she wanted you to do. Not want sex? ---
**Author:** ![Lust4Life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecc23a/32.png) [@Lust4Life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lust4Life)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/55 "2009-09-17T17:41:08Z")
The strangest request I ever had from my ex after sex was Baa Baa. But then again she was a sheep and we all know how fucking weird they are. ---
**Author:** ![Orange\_Skinner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Orange\_Skinner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orange_Skinner)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/56 "2009-09-17T18:27:41Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > some people are just vanilla. I have a friend who is more like Sam’s Choice, 30% less fat vanilla. She only has sex with her boyfriend by appointment, (Tuesday afternoon, some Sundays, providing neither work) and the kinkiest thing she bought at a Spice of Life Party was Linen Mist :rolleyes: And this is a marked improvement, after years of him wearing her down. Despite the fact that I didn’t participate in proposed Taco Bell body topping business, I totally agree with **Digger**. As long as it’s not likely to be incredibly painful or have any long-lasting ill-effects, why not humor the person and say you’ll try it, or at least be willing to meet them halfway? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/57 "2009-09-17T19:05:59Z")
For the record, I will be perfectly happy to “choke you with it” _or_ participate in Taco Bell body topping business, either by appointment or as a walk-in. ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/58 "2009-09-17T19:11:23Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > you might give her as a birthday present whatever she wanted you to do. maybe she’ll think that a good present for you as well, or at least get closer to what you want. This immediately reminded me of the joke that ends with, “Right now, she’s painting my house.” ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/59 "2009-09-17T20:52:59Z")
Why is it that the women who want you to choke them with it can’t be choked (b/c of no gag reflex), while the women who choke easily don’t want you to (“don’t push so hard- I’ll choke!”)? It’s a cruel, cruel joke. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 17, 2009, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165/60 "2009-09-17T21:10:24Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Many years ago, someone wanted me to torture him to death. Literally. Needless to say, I refused. Since I posted this, my mind has been returning to this individual, curious to know whether he ever found someone to grant this request. So far, I can’t find any trace of him, but I’ll keep looking. Sadly, if someone genuinely wants to be snuffed, there are probably lots of people who’d comply. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/strangest-request-by-your-partner/510165.md?page=2)