# Stripper good idea/bad idea **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 10, 2001, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408 "2001-04-10T00:25:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2001, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/21 "2001-04-10T13:06:42Z")
> [@](#): > > I believe that if he has the urge to be touching another woman then maybe he should rethink the whole wedding thing I couldn’t agree more. Grow up already! You said you don’t want him to be “fondling” any women. End of story! I agree, cheating means different things to different people. I would consider my husband laying his hands on another woman “cheating”, and that goes for prior to our marriage, as well. (As an aside, my husband got taken to strip clubs for his bachelor party. He was home by 11:30 pm because he ended up in a pushing fight with a stripper who would not take her hands off him when he asked. The group got bounced and he came home. I was proud as punch, right or wrong) Zette ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2001, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/22 "2001-04-10T13:44:10Z")
19 years old?! Well well. Slightly pissed at OP for leaving this little item out but then again I didn’t ask. So we’re talking about current **teenagers** just out of high school getting married (someday). Principle of what I said doesn’t change but context of advice was intended to apply to more mature, responsible, committed situation than current Romeo and Juliet scenario. As an aside you guys might want to have a discussion I think you’ve got more fundamental issues to address than hypothetical bachelor parties. ie kremit334 “when we decide to get married someday.” “a.k.a. Mrs. Tiki God” The Mighty Tiki God “That’s how I feel right now it could change in 20 minutes 20 months or 20 years from now.” ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2001, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/23 "2001-04-10T13:50:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by kremit334 \* > **I believe that if he has the urge to be touching another woman then maybe he should rethink the whole wedding thing.** Boy, the only think I can think to say is that if the above were true the smart money is on 95% of the marriages in the world shouldn’t have happened. And that might be a conservative estimate. It’s perfectly natural for a guy to see a woman and get those urges…and that doesn’t go away just because he’s made a committment to a woman (marriage or what-have-you). Those urges will **always** be there. But what seperates the men from the boys is what you do about them. So, I think it’s unreasonable to assume that the whole male response thing is going to change after the ceremony. Just make sure you’re marrying a man and not a boy, if you get my drift. ---
**Author:** ![SuaSponte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/67e7ee/32.png) [@SuaSponte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuaSponte)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2001, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/24 "2001-04-10T18:48:39Z")
Without creating ones out of thin air? Two people in their late teens, together for about a year, who have talked about marriage but haven’t reached that stage yet. And they’re arguing about whether the guy can touch the stripper at the hypothetical bachelor party at some unknown point in the future?! For all the two of you know, if and when you decide to get married, circumstances or choice may mean that there is NO bachelor party - you decide to elope, you find yourself in Guam, whatever. Let this one go, and get back to arguing about important things, like his refusal to pick up his clothes. Sua P.S. If you two decide to get married, and y’all decide to have bachelor/bachelorette parties, DO NOT crash the other’s party. Trust me, I’ve witnessed the ugly repercussions of that (and the stripper hadn’t even arrived yet). ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2001, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/25 "2001-04-10T23:21:26Z")
I read this in some other thread back in the day, but the advice that was given then was something along the lines of: 1. Give him a full body massage (hot oils and everything) and mind-blowing sex the night before the BP (subsitute the BJ of his life if you’re against the premarital sex thing). 2. Repeat the day of the BP. If you’re lucky (and good), his eyes will be too glazed over for him to even _watch_ the stripper. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kremit334](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@kremit334](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kremit334)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2001, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/26 "2001-04-11T02:30:31Z")
Even though this probably doesnt mean squat, but I dont like to be refered as a teen since I am 21 years of age. Yes I know I know robbing the cradle but what can I say youner is better. ---
**Author:** ![kremit334](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@kremit334](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kremit334)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2001, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408/27 "2001-04-11T02:33:37Z")
sorry I meant younger…gosh I need to watch my spelling [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stripper-good-idea-bad-idea/61408.md?page=1)