# stupid asshat ex-friends... :( **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 21, 2002, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167 "2002-12-21T03:36:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/1 "2002-12-21T03:36:36Z")
Picture this. You have two friends, Guy A & Guy B. They have been best friends with eachother for a long, long time. Both are married, and Guy A has two small kids. However, Guy A’s marriage isn’t going so well. Then, Guy B decides to cheat on his wife with Guy A’s wife. He gets her pregnant, and she leaves her husband and essentially abandons her kids. Guy A is understandably angry, but eventually he cools off. He even gets remarried and has another kid. He goes out of his way to maintain a relationship with the ex-wife for the sake of the kids, and is civil to Guy B. Do you see any need for your entire group of friends to rally around Guy B and the cheating wife, shunning Guy A and excluding him from all social events??? Do you see a need to convince another friend to ban Guy A and his new wife from the annual New Year’s party that he’s been looking forward to, the one social event he actually gets to attend between working and taking care of his kids? You know, the kids his whore ex doesn’t even come to see? Is this rational, or are you all just TRYING to be the biggest asshats you possibly can be and make him even more miserable on the one year he was actually starting to enjoy the holidays? Son of a bitch, fuck you all! ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/2 "2002-12-21T03:39:57Z")
I think the “ex” in your thread title is apropos, even essential. Is Guy A yours? ---
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/3 "2002-12-21T03:42:57Z")
Yeah, I’d be the new wife. It just makes me so mad. He called a friend to ask him a favour tonight, and the friend relayed the message that we are not invited to the party. He’s been talking about this party for two weeks, just like he always does. He loves this party. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/4 "2002-12-21T03:46:09Z")
Jerr-y! Jerr-y! Jerr-y! ---
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/5 "2002-12-21T03:57:08Z")
No, to qualify for Jerry I’d have to be the ex-wife’s sister or mother. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Kat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b19c9b/32.png) [@Kat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kat)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/6 "2002-12-21T04:26:08Z")
Well, at least Guy A has learned what kind of people his so-called friends are. Or do these friends perhaps not know the story? Could Guy B have fed them some pack of lies? ---
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/7 "2002-12-21T04:30:59Z")
Doubtful, they were all around to see it happen. I just wish I was able to take him to some awesome better-than-the-shithead’s party, but I’m not a very social person and currently have maybe three friends, all of whom are also not very social. ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/8 "2002-12-21T05:10:17Z")
That sucks. It’s not uncommon though. A few years back when my best friend started fucking [and the dating] my girlfriend _I_ was the one who got treated like a pariah. Fucked up but for some reason that’s how it works. I’ll never know why. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/9 "2002-12-21T05:10:18Z")
That is seriously fucked up ☹ I’m sorry ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/10 "2002-12-21T06:30:12Z")
That really sucks. Could you talk to your wife about encouraging hosts to invite you too? My first husband and I have remained such good friends that he, his wife, my second husband and I all celebrated what would have been our Twenty-Fifth Anniversary if we had remained married. It is **so** much easier that way… ---
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2002, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/stupid-asshat-ex-friends/144167/11 "2002-12-21T06:33:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Could you talk to your wife about encouraging hosts to invite you too? Um, huh? I am the new wife… I am not sure what you are saying.