To clarify a couple points:
I never said anything about Asians. I said “recent immigrants”. I teach in a very diverse school, and I’ve seen this exact sort of behavior in Hispanic immigrants, African immigrants, and Eastern European immigrants. The behavior I am speaking of is NOT restricted to winning spelling bees–it’s about setting out to be extraordinary in one thing with clearly defined creditials–top speller, or Academic Decathlete, or Validictorian, or graduate early (for some reason, African immigrants seem to often be focused on this).
It’s a high-risk low yield strategy because 1) there is a limited number of “best” slots and 2) the “scholarships” programs like this flash around are often chicken-feed in the big scheme of things–20K over four years is usually the absolute best they offer.
If your goal is to get college paid for (assuming you do not have the funds to pay for it yourself) your best bet is to get accepted into a top tier private university–anyone with a household income under 75K goes for free to these schools (including room and board, and you don’t have to borrow anything) and that’s easily 100K worth of services. People that make up to twice that still get generous aide packages.
If your goal is to get a high paying job after college, again, getting into a top-tier university is probably your best bet: no one cares if you were the spelling be champ at 14 when you are 22.
So for either goal, you want to get into a top school. National Spelling Bee Champ would help a lot with that, but if you fail, you may not have much to fall back on. Spelling Bee DISTRICT champ, plus 4 years on the newspaper staff (2 as editor) + 4 years track and field + 2200 on the SAT + an interesting summer internship is how you get into a top school. If you flub one of those things, it’s ok because it wasn’t just that one thing that made you special. That’s the system and recent immigrants often don’t know how to play it.
Now then, I already said in like post #5 that not all super-focused kids are under pressure from their parents–I’d never make that assumption. All I am saying is that people that don’t know the system sometimes think being “the best” counts for a whole lot, and it really doesn’t --variety counts for more with things like college admissions.
I am not even commenting on what is better for the kid’s personal growth. That totally depends on the kid.