# sugget to me some sad love songs or break up songs **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [March 12, 2002, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791 "2002-03-12T05:41:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![secretkeeper78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@secretkeeper78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/secretkeeper78)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 9:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/21 "2002-03-12T09:17:08Z")
I will check out that other bright eyes song. I listen to something vague like every day. the words and the music are so beautiful. it expresses feeling in music that I can’t say in words. i’m not angry at him.(bf) I love him and it hurts…he’s gonna end up with someone else so it was all in vain. everything reminds me of him and it’s like a pin in my heart. he was just here last night and now he is gone… ok… sorry… I will pull myself together here. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@El\_Elvis\_Rojo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Elvis_Rojo)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 10:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/22 "2002-03-12T10:53:45Z")
_How Do you Tell Someone You Don’t Love Them_ by Cowboy Mouth. A little more upbeat than most, but still the same story. ---
**Author:** ![sulamith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f08c70/32.png) [@sulamith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sulamith)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 11:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/23 "2002-03-12T11:18:26Z")
You just need to listen to the ENTIRE Rumours album by good ol FLEETWOOD MAC. Go Your Own Way is the best kiss off song in history, and Dreams is great because the girl in the song is saying “Ok, go ahead, but you are going to turn around one day and miss me” I love that she’s confident and not all crying and pitiful and needy. “When the rain washes you clean you’ll know” You just need to get into Stevie Nicks. She’s the Queen of the tragic romance star-crossed lovers break-up songs. She’s been breaking up with Lindsey Buckingham for going on 25 years now…check her out! ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/24 "2002-03-12T11:27:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by meyer \* > **_What a Good Boy_ by The BareNaked Ladies** Actually, Barenaked Ladies’ _WAGB_ is more about finding one’s own identity and dealing with societal and personal pressures. They do have some good relationship songs, though, such as _Blame It On Me_, _Thanks, That Was Fun_, and my personal favorite, _Off The Hook_. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 11:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/25 "2002-03-12T11:44:44Z")
> [@](#): > > I had just my heart broken. please sugget to me some sad love songs or break up songs. **Goodbye** — Elton John and Bernie Taupin - And now that it’s all over the birds can nest again. I’ll only snow when the sun comes out. I’ll shine only when it starts to rain. And if you want a drink just squeeze my hand, and wine will flow into the land and feed my lambs. For I am a mirror. I can reflect the moon. I will write songs for you. I’ll be your silver spoon. I’m sorry I took your time. I am the poem that doesn’t rhyme. Just turn back a page. I’ll waste away. \* ---
**Author:** ![gex\_gex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@gex\_gex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gex_gex)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/26 "2002-03-12T12:12:38Z")
_i bring you shining examples from the hallowed halls of emo and indie///_ **get up kids** : \*mass pike \*out of reach \*stay gold, ponyboy \*don’t hate me **career girls** \*end credits **new found glory** \*hit or miss **the ataris** \*giving up on love \*hello and goodbye **death cab for cutie** \*photobooth \*title track **jimmy eat world** \*your house **eels** \*jeannie’s diary \*it’s a motherfucker **jebediah** \*harpoon _and from big, stadium rock///_ u2 - with or without you pearl jam - black you will be lesser without these songs. get them now. ---
**Author:** ![Floater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/dc4da7/32.png) [@Floater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Floater)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/27 "2002-03-12T12:23:04Z")
Two songs by Roy Orbison are mentioned and not one of them is **It’s Over** , my long time sad mode favourite. ☹ And there’s always [The End of the World](http://home.t-online.de/home/walterv/davis_sk.htm). ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/28 "2002-03-12T12:30:54Z")
Non-Alignment Pact - Pere Ubu. There’s a Ghost in my House - cover version by The Fall Rid Of Me - PJ Harvey (good for the “argh ya bastard” moments) Take your pick from Portishead’s second album, Portishead. Ryan Adams (NOT BRYAN!) is a good singer for this kind of thing in a more traditional singer-songwriter sort of way. In my opinion, the best break-up song EVER was written by Monteverdi in 1638. It’s known as _Amor, dicea_ (the first words of the song and as _Lamento della ninfa_ because it is a nymph’s lament. It starts of with male voices setting up the situation, then the soprano voice comes in and gives it some real heartfelt lamenting. _“Ne mai si dolce baci de quella bocca avrà né più soavi … ah, taci, taci, ché troppo il sa”_ “Never will he have such sweet kisses from such a mouth, nor more gentle ones … ah, hush, hush, he knows that too well” ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/29 "2002-03-12T12:38:51Z")
“Mental Revenge” by Mel Tillis is a great one for this. Or this one: Sorry, I’m a bit behind for work and don’t have time to search, but since this is the SDMB Cafe, somebody will fill in the lyrics, title, and artist shortly, I’m sure: “I knew that you’d been cheatin’ from the start, Now I’ve flushed you from the bathroom of my heart.” Then there’s “Long Ago and Oh So Far Away” by The Carpenters, but the first two will make you feel better. ---
**Author:** ![crazy4chaucer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b5e925/32.png) [@crazy4chaucer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crazy4chaucer)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/30 "2002-03-12T13:27:49Z")
One of my favorites if you’re in a mad mood is “Run Shithead Run” by Mudhoney (on the soundtrack of “With Honors”). And Alanis Morissette has great pissed-off music as well. And Poe is good for attitude music. Hang in there! ---
**Author:** ![Why\_A\_Duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/31 "2002-03-12T13:58:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AudreyK \* > \*\* > Actually, Barenaked Ladies’ _WAGB_ is more about finding one’s own identity and dealing with societal and personal pressures. They do have some good relationship songs, though, such as _Blame It On Me_, _Thanks, That Was Fun_, and my personal favorite, _Off The Hook_. \*\* What about [_Break Your Heart_](http://web.cs.mun.ca/~craig/gp/docs/lyrics/misc/break_your_heart.txt)? I suggest a classic one-two punch by Sugar, _Explode and Make Up_ and _The Slim_, preferably the live versions off _Besides_. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/32 "2002-03-12T14:07:33Z")
> [@](#): > > And there’s always _The End of the World_. Ah, the canonical. Thanks for the reminder. ---
**Author:** ![DSYoungEsq](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c6cbf5/32.png) [@DSYoungEsq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSYoungEsq)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/33 "2002-03-12T14:14:38Z")
_Shut up and drive_ By Chely Wright Or the classic _Crying_ (I like Don McLean’s version) The first helps you feel good; the second is simply a wallow in it song. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Mooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mooch)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/34 "2002-03-12T15:57:14Z")
I think my personal favorite has to be: Please Me Like You Want To - Ben Harper ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/35 "2002-03-12T16:05:43Z")
Two from Elton John’s latest album: _I Want Love_ and _This Train Don’t Stop There Anymore_ From the Old 97s _Valentine_ and _If My Heart Was A Car_ > [@](#): > > And if my heart was a car, you would have stripped it a > long time ago. > And if my heart was a car > > You would have stripped it down and sold it off > To the greasy man in the salvage lot > As it is it’s just a heart > No, no, it ain’t worth nothin’. > > I ain’t talkin’ bout tomorrow, I’m talkin’ 'bout tonight > You told me you were drunk already, that don’t make it > right > You want at me, well, have at it, 'cause I’m in the mood to > fight I’m in the middle of a Divorce so I understand your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Amidar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Amidar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amidar)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/36 "2002-03-12T16:11:15Z")
I just went through a breakup too–not the worst I’ve been through, but still, not fun. I went through one a few years ago that was pretty horrible, so here are a few I remember from that: Songs: _Breaking Us in Two_ by **Joe Jackson** –one of the very best breakup songs. _Stick in the Mud_ by **The Jayhawks** –“You got me down on my knees/begging you please don’t leave”–just heartrending. Records: I second the suggestion of Richard Thompson as well: _Shoot out the Lights._ This album, the result of a divorce, is my candidate for Best Breakup Album Ever. Although I’m not a big fan of Tom Petty, his album _Wildflowers_ is another incredible product of divorce. I’ll post more if I think of them. Amidar ---
**Author:** ![Skwerl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Skwerl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skwerl)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/37 "2002-03-12T16:18:51Z")
The song “All Love is a Lie” by pete. (that’s their name, pete.) never fails in getting me thoroughly pissed off at something. It’s good for turning your depression into something more constructive, like anger. ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/38 "2002-03-12T16:30:14Z")
For complete, heart-rending agony, try: Kate Bush - You’re the one And my recent favorite; if you can find it, play it repeatedly, for the next few weeks. Kind of Like Spitting - Catch the Redeye Out of Girlfriend Land “I have seen trains pass by without you before. I have bought groceries without you before.” I hope it helps. ---
**Author:** ![Albert\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Albert\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Albert_Rose)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/39 "2002-03-12T16:54:58Z")
Here’s one for the “acceptance” stage, when you’ve finally forgiven him: “Kite,” by **U2**. I second the recommendation of **Alanis Morrissette** , especially her _Jagged Little Pill_ album. Stay strong. ---
**Author:** ![Kilt-wearin\_man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/82dd89/32.png) [@Kilt-wearin\_man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kilt-wearin_man)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2002, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791/40 "2002-03-12T17:07:07Z")
_Crying_ - Roy Orbison _Dream You_ - Roy Orbison _I Still Miss Someone_ - Johnny Cash _Soul and Inspiration_ - Not just the song, the album - The Righteous Brothers _See The Lights_ - Simple Minds _Rush (Soundtrack)_ - Eric Clapton - One whole side of the album is great blues instrumentals by Clapton… _That Lucky Ol’ Sun_ - Ray Charles _One More Minute_ - Weird Al Yankovic _The Thrill Is Gone_ - BB King _Life Without You_ - Stevie Ray Vaughan _Texas Flood_ - Stevie Ray Vaughan _The Sky Is Crying_ - Stevie Ray Vaughan _Why Should I Cry For You?_ - Sting Or find some old traditional Celtic music (NOT Enya) - there’s always unrequited love and folks dying all over the place, doomed causes, heroic sacrifices…no wonder they invented whiskey… _Bonny Portmore_ by Loreena McKennit is a good, sad Celtic song, and brings a lump to the throat, even though it’s about a tree, not a person… Of course, you should be careful with the Celtic tunes…they might bypass your broken heart, stir up your passions, and make you want to fight the English… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sugget-to-me-some-sad-love-songs-or-break-up-songs/97791.md?page=3)