# Support for my Husband \[RIP, condolences-ed. ITD\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2015, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682 "2015-10-15T01:49:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/41 "2015-10-16T13:13:27Z")
Meant to add… I’ve still got a few to go, but I’m late to go see him. I’ll finish replying when I return. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/42 "2015-10-16T14:25:47Z")
PM me, please. I’m sorry you’re going thru this. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/43 "2015-10-16T14:34:44Z")
Please PM me girl. I’d love to send him out a card. Is your husband religious at all? I am so very sorry you’re having to cope with this. ---
**Author:** ![FeAudrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7feea3/32.png) [@FeAudrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeAudrey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/44 "2015-10-16T18:45:20Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > … been asked about possibly sending him emails … going to set up a gmail specifically for that purpose … Will he be able to see the e-mails on-line, or would they be printed out? There are lots of animated, singing, dancing, etc, e-cards, but of course they don’t work on paper. ---
**Author:** ![FeAudrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7feea3/32.png) [@FeAudrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeAudrey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/45 "2015-10-16T18:57:48Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > … where we set him up … will be command central … deck it out in military garb … (o)n a teensy, thrift store budget … Are you thinking an actual command post, or personal quarters? Is Jaceson a veteran? If so, which branch of service? Where was he posted? (and when) Would a historical or fictional theme entertain him? That might be even easier than anything authentic on a “teensy, thrift store budget”, if you shop after Halloween stuff has been donated. Either way, photos and decorative elements can be printed from internet sources. ---
**Author:** ![FeAudrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7feea3/32.png) [@FeAudrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeAudrey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/46 "2015-10-16T19:04:00Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > … This is my first rodeo and no one hands out an instruction manual, so I might be tapping your brains on what the hell all I’m supposed to be doing … See whether the place your husband is being treated has a medical social worker on staff. They coach the rodeo contestants. County health department is another possible resource. Later on – hospice care supports the care-givers as well as the patient. ---
**Author:** ![FeAudrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7feea3/32.png) [@FeAudrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FeAudrey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/47 "2015-10-16T19:09:04Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > … He doesn’t read much … Might he be comforted or entertained by being read to? Tons of audio books out there, generally borrow-able from a library. Where I live, the library even has a kind that comes with its own player. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2015, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/48 "2015-10-16T23:59:29Z")
Please send me a PM. I have LOTS of postcards and other cards I can send to help distract him. Hugs to you, faithfool. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2015, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/49 "2015-10-17T13:24:40Z")
Sorry for the delay in responding. Yesterday was crazy busy in trying to take care of stuff for him. > [@Honey](#): > > Please PM me girl. I’d love to send him out a card. Is your husband religious at all? > > I am so very sorry you’re having to cope with this. Thank you, **Honey**. He’s finding his faith again. It’s slow, but he’s more interested now than he has been in a long time. So, religious is fine too. > [@FeAudrey](#): > > Will he be able to see the e-mails on-line, or would they be printed out? There are lots of animated, singing, dancing, etc, e-cards, but of course they don’t work on paper. Online. I can certainly print them out though and add them to the collection. Before all is said and done, I’d like them to completely cover whatever room he’s in. > [@FeAudrey](#): > > Are you thinking an actual command post, or personal quarters? Is Jaceson a veteran? If so, which branch of service? Where was he posted? (and when) > > Would a historical or fictional theme entertain him? That might be even easier than anything authentic on a “teensy, thrift store budget”, if you shop after Halloween stuff has been donated. > > Either way, photos and decorative elements can be printed from internet sources. Not military, just a history buff who likes all things service related. And I’m not sure what kind of theme to go for. Just lots of camouflage and whatever I can find that looks like it came from the army, etc. But looking for stuff to put up from the internet is a great idea. Thank you. > [@FeAudrey](#): > > Might he be comforted or entertained by being read to? Tons of audio books out there, generally borrow-able from a library. Where I live, the library even has a kind that comes with its own player. This is also good. I think I’ll do bible readings for him and then find him some Tom Clancy. That’s the closest he’s ever came. I’ll check into what all I can get from him, as the resale I volunteer at has tons of wonderful stuff for mere pennies. Thank you all again. I’m off to send out more PMs. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2015, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/50 "2015-10-19T14:29:34Z")
Just wanted to post my one bump to see if I can snag some of the workaday crowd. 🙂 And to say how much I appreciate those that are passing along his information and for all the cards and letters that are beginning to pour in. As always, my “imaginary internet” friends come through in shining colors. You all are terrific. Thank you again (and again and again and again)! ---
**Author:** ![sangfroid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@sangfroid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sangfroid)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2015, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/51 "2015-10-19T17:40:31Z")
PM me please, **f/f**. Best wishes to you both. ---
**Author:** ![Grrlbrarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrlbrarian/32/4048_2.png) [@Grrlbrarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrlbrarian)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2015, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/52 "2015-10-19T18:31:35Z")
Hey **faithfool**! Please PM me. Glad to send him mail. Thinking of you both as you deal with this! ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2015, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/53 "2015-10-19T21:17:17Z")
Thank you both. PMs on the way. ---
**Author:** ![Gestalt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/90ced4/32.png) [@Gestalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gestalt)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2015, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/54 "2015-10-19T21:24:19Z")
Please PM me. I’m so glad he has someone who cares for him like you do. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2015, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/55 "2015-10-20T03:00:53Z")
> [@Gestalt](#): > > Please PM me. I’m so glad he has someone who cares for him like you do. Thank you. I haven’t always been the best wife throughout this, but I sure do love the bugger and wish he’d stick around as long as he was able, sans pain. He’s just too good a fellow to shuffle off this mortal coil quite yet. Couple things… 1. Emails are beginning to come in and I’ll be replying when I can. He won’t see them until he gets to the nursing home, so it’ll just be a bit. Thanks for those sending them. I can’t wait until he reads them. 2. I’ve started a Caring Bridge journal for him to post updates. If anyone is interested in following along, here’s the link: Heya, just wanted to share this with you. It’s a link to an account I made on Caring Bridge to share updates on Jaceson: > **[CaringBridge](https://www.caringbridge.org/site/a54e8c12-b213-38b5-a556-08c2b70c04c5)** > > Help ensure no one goes through a health journey alone. Please check it out. Thank you all so very, very much. If ever I could repay this kindness, you all would be millionaires. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2015, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/56 "2015-10-25T01:07:17Z")
Today Jaceson went back in the hospital due to his difficulty breathing. From there, they now believe that his prognosis might be as short as 4 - 6 weeks. He’s begun palliative care. Thank you everyone for all the cards and everything else. I’m so very, very grateful. Kemi~ ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2015, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/57 "2015-10-25T02:23:49Z")
Oh No! And I’ve been bad and haven’t gotten my card out. Is the address still ok to use? I promise to get it in the mail on Monday. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Pai325](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@Pai325](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pai325)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2015, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/58 "2015-10-25T03:05:18Z")
I’m so sorry, faithfool. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2015, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/59 "2015-10-25T03:26:39Z")
I am so sorry to hear that _ **{{{HUG}}}** _ ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2015, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/60 "2015-10-25T03:36:50Z")
> [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](#): > > Oh No! And I’ve been bad and haven’t gotten my card out. Is the address still ok to use? I promise to get it in the mail on Monday. > > ☹ Yes, that’d be wonderful still. > [@Pai325](#): > > I’m so sorry, faithfool. Thank you. > [@guestchaz](#): > > I am so sorry to hear that _ **{{{HUG}}}** _ Things got so crazy, so quick, that he still hasn’t seen the cool bag you sent. However, as soon as he leaves the hospital (Lord willing) it’ll be on display in his new digs. Thank you again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682.md?page=4)