# Support for my Husband \[RIP, condolences-ed. ITD\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2015, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682 "2015-10-15T01:49:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/81 "2015-11-01T13:36:11Z")
I am so very sorry Kemi. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/82 "2015-11-01T14:15:34Z")
This makes me sad. ☹ Sending energy and thoughts to keep him from pain and suffering. I hope his days that are left are as restful as possible. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/83 "2015-11-01T17:57:55Z")
Thoughts and prayers for you and your’s ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/84 "2015-11-01T20:34:05Z")
It’s so hard to balance out the time we want them to hang on with the pain that is caused by doing so. In the end I believe in erring on the side of ‘they went too soon, but thankfully it wasn’t in terrible pain.’ Peace to the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/85 "2015-11-01T21:30:58Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Just another brief update: > > They don’t feel Jaceson will last the week. He’s taken a really drastic turn for the worse since late Friday night and things are looking terribly grim. For those still reading along, please put as much positive energy as possible out in the universe so that he won’t suffer. Thank you. I’m so very sorry. You have my number if and when you ever want it. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/86 "2015-11-01T21:32:33Z")
so sorry to hear this. much love to you both. ---
**Author:** ![Sarabellum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sarabellum/32/3492_2.png) [@Sarabellum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarabellum)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2015, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/87 "2015-11-01T22:33:17Z")
So sorry to hear of this. My thoughts are with you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2015, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/88 "2015-11-02T00:40:28Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Just another brief update: > > They don’t feel Jaceson will last the week. He’s taken a really drastic turn for the worse since late Friday night and things are looking terribly grim. For those still reading along, please put as much positive energy as possible out in the universe so that he won’t suffer. Thank you. My deepest sympathies. Sending as much peace as I can. ---
**Author:** ![Fool\_in\_the\_Rain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8491ac/32.png) [@Fool\_in\_the\_Rain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fool_in_the_Rain)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2015, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/89 "2015-11-02T14:52:22Z")
Oh man, I just saw this. I am so sorry. My deepest sympathies and all the peace and warmth I got is yours and Jaceson’s. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2015, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/90 "2015-11-02T21:04:19Z")
You and Jaceson are in my thoughts, Kemi. Wish there was something I could do to make this easier for you, but there isn’t, dang it. Sending prayers for strength for you and peace for him. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/91 "2015-11-03T05:10:36Z")
You are both in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest sympathies. {{{hugs}}} ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/92 "2015-11-03T08:42:31Z")
Thinking of you both. Xx ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/93 "2015-11-03T09:07:35Z")
Kemi, I just found this thread. If it’s not too late please PM me Jaceson’s name and address. I’m guessing it’s Jaceson Browning. I will send from San Francisco right away. I’m sorry to learn of Jaceson’s decline. I am a retired Marine and will send some of my gear / insignia / USMC stuff. Am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way, to you both. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/94 "2015-11-03T11:49:22Z")
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this news. I’m thinking of you both. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/95 "2015-11-03T14:18:58Z")
His is now what they call “actively dying.” Apparently everything has begun to pool, so where he’d dramatically lost weight before, he looks all pumped up now. His breathing is terribly ragged and his eyesight is failing. My heart is breaking, but I’m doing my very best (like pushing his PCA every available 20 minutes) to keep him as pain free as possible. He’s spoken some this morning, so there’s a bit of lucidity still there, but mostly, its interspersed with odd requests, like an Alzheimer’s patients. But no matter what, he knows he’s loved. And since the hour is very late, I’m just going to post our address here, so that if anyone else would still like to write, I’d be able to read all y’all’s wonderful words to him maybe before it’s too late. Thank you all again. As usual, you guys are amazing. And **Bullitt** that is so incredibly kind. Unfortunately, I think we’ll have to pass and instead, encourage you to share such a great offer with another who might be in a similar situation. God bless you all. Much love from us both. \<3 \<3 \<3 Jaceson Browning 115 PR 5553 Alba, TX. 75410 ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/96 "2015-11-03T14:55:06Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > His is now what they call “actively dying.” Apparently everything has begun to pool, so where he’d dramatically lost weight before, he looks all pumped up now. His breathing is terribly ragged and his eyesight is failing. My heart is breaking, but I’m doing my very best (like pushing his PCA every available 20 minutes) to keep him as pain free as possible. He’s spoken some this morning, so there’s a bit of lucidity still there, but mostly, its interspersed with odd requests, like an Alzheimer’s patients. But no matter what, he knows he’s loved. And since the hour is very late, I’m just going to post our address here, so that if anyone else would still like to write, I’d be able to read all y’all’s wonderful words to him maybe before it’s too late. > > Thank you all again. As usual, you guys are amazing. And **Bullitt** that is so incredibly kind. Unfortunately, I think we’ll have to pass and instead, encourage you to share such a great offer with another who might be in a similar situation. God bless you all. Much love from us both. \<3 \<3 \<3 > > Jaceson Browning > 115 PR 5553 > Alba, TX. 75410 I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for you both. Keep talking when you can stand to. It really can help, though it may not feel like it. Love to you both. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/97 "2015-11-03T15:24:48Z")
Damn it. I’ve been too scared to read this thread because the very thought of what you are having to go through (and what we will all have to go through someday) just makes me want to cry myself sick. And I never know what to say. Kemi, you and Jaceson are foremost in my thoughts today. I wish that the grief I am feeling for you could be subtracted from what you are suffering. - Julia ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/98 "2015-11-03T15:39:18Z")
**faithfool** please know and remember that your SDMB extended family hugs you and is sending healing and comforting energy your way, for Jaceson, and also comfort for you too. If you feel it’s appropriate to do so, please whisper in Jaceson’s ear, a simple greeting from us, reaching out to him across the miles. From a retired USMC Gunnery Sergeant, I salute Jaceson for any of his support of the military. Look, I (and we) do not want to intrude. Do it if it feels right, and if not then don’t, and don’t worry about it. But the outpouring of love and care in this thread and from all of your SDMB connections that care for you, is amazing and powerful, and I hope that the little we do can help sustain you in any small way. Continue sharing, if it helps you. As the saying goes, _A joy shared can be twice the joy; and a sorrow shared can be half the sorrow._ ---
**Author:** ![Grrlbrarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrlbrarian/32/4048_2.png) [@Grrlbrarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrlbrarian)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/99 "2015-11-03T15:43:54Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > His is now what they call “actively dying.” Apparently everything has begun to pool, so where he’d dramatically lost weight before, he looks all pumped up now. His breathing is terribly ragged and his eyesight is failing. My heart is breaking, but I’m doing my very best (like pushing his PCA every available 20 minutes) to keep him as pain free as possible. He’s spoken some this morning, so there’s a bit of lucidity still there, but mostly, its interspersed with odd requests, like an Alzheimer’s patients. But no matter what, he knows he’s loved. And since the hour is very late, I’m just going to post our address here, so that if anyone else would still like to write, I’d be able to read all y’all’s wonderful words to him maybe before it’s too late. > > Thank you all again. As usual, you guys are amazing. And **Bullitt** that is so incredibly kind. Unfortunately, I think we’ll have to pass and instead, encourage you to share such a great offer with another who might be in a similar situation. God bless you all. Much love from us both. \<3 \<3 \<3 > > Jaceson Browning > 115 PR 5553 > Alba, TX. 75410 I am so so sorry ☹ You and Jaceson are very much in my thoughts and prayers. Sending both of you strength and the knowledge that you are never alone, no matter what you face. {{{hugs}}} ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2015, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682/100 "2015-11-03T15:53:00Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > His is now what they call “actively dying.” Apparently everything has begun to pool, so where he’d dramatically lost weight before, he looks all pumped up now. His breathing is terribly ragged and his eyesight is failing. My heart is breaking, but I’m doing my very best (like pushing his PCA every available 20 minutes) to keep him as pain free as possible. He’s spoken some this morning, so there’s a bit of lucidity still there, but mostly, its interspersed with odd requests, like an Alzheimer’s patients. But no matter what, he knows he’s loved. And since the hour is very late, I’m just going to post our address here, so that if anyone else would still like to write, I’d be able to read all y’all’s wonderful words to him maybe before it’s too late. > > Thank you all again. As usual, you guys are amazing. And **Bullitt** that is so incredibly kind. Unfortunately, I think we’ll have to pass and instead, encourage you to share such a great offer with another who might be in a similar situation. God bless you all. Much love from us both. \<3 \<3 \<3 > > Jaceson Browning > 115 PR 5553 > Alba, TX. 75410 No words. Just love. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/support-for-my-husband-rip-condolences-ed-itd/734682.md?page=6)